Do girls understand what it takes from a guy to initiate? How hard it is for us as the pursuers?

[more_than_a_guy]

Do many girls take it for granted or appreciate guys for approaching and initiating? Obviously guys don't have as much attention from girls as girls have from guys. And we guys are the pursuers.

It's not a rant, but I do wish for girls to understand us a little more.

[NathanDavis]

not all the guys have it the same though...

many guys out there do not have a problem at all with it, and it is not difficult for them

it might be difficult for you, or others but is not a "universal male problem"

and I am sure many women understand it very well... because many of them wish they could do it too and approach someone but for whatever reasons they cannot get themselves to do it no matter how much they would want to do so

[Idi4btn]

Lmao i have done it and i believe it was a huge mistake. I dont do it at all ever since then. I know its bad.

[Idi4btn]

I dont wanna do it and i dont plan on ever doing it

[NathanDavis]

@Idi4btn I've done it once and it went well... that's how I found a girlfriend before

but the other three times, three different ex-girlfriends approached me first just like you did... but it went well for us, obviously

like I said, different people will have different experiences and outcomes from these things

[msc545]

I think for the most part they understand fully how difficult it is And not only do they take advantage of it they also don't care how we feel when we have to do it.

[ArtemisSilver]

It's not actually that hard. Try a job in sales and you'll get so used to rejection that you won't bat an eye.

[Idi4btn]

Wow, a man.

[ArtemisSilver]

LoL thanks.

[Idi4btn]

Umm what? Im not pursuing a man and thats all i know. Im not sitting there appreciating how hard it is for a man to do whats expected of him

[Anonymous]

I'll hate this until the day I die and it reminds me how my mindset and perspective has changed on this regard

[Nikki1989]

It is actually really easy.