I'm not attracted to him anymore?

[Anonymous]

So I've been dating this guy and we met online and it became very intense quite quickly. When I first met him I wasn't attracted to him but he wasn't unattractive so I thought as I really liked him as a person I'll ignore it and give it ago and hope attraction grows with connection. Over the years we've both been through rough patches but during this period he's gained 5 stone and I feel awful saying this but his body makes me feel ill. He has tried to lose weight but he's always been overweight so it never feels enough. I love him because of who he is and its making me extremely depressed because I just don't see it working long term. I'm so attached and emotional invested in him, I just don't know what to do. Should I just ignore it?

[Chill_Thoughts]

Physical attraction is important in a relationship, it just is. You do need to weigh everything else tho. Like would he, because of everything else, be your ideal life partner? Do you just need to explore yourself for a while, or even maybe be allowed to be open when it comes to sex so you can be satisfied on all aspects?
Just have to figure that out, but 100% the way you look has importance. When people say it doesn't it's because it sounds shallow, but it really isn't. Friends idc how you look like, romantic partners, yeh I do, it's not all and I rather an average looking amazing girl, than a 10/10 crazy person. But it still matters

[Asker]

I don't know if I'll ever find someone who gets me like he does but sex life is really difficult. It's more depressing he's attracted to me and I just feel the problem. Getting to the point id rather not have it

[Chill_Thoughts]

Of course you feel that way, but you're most likely wrong. You know what you like and how you want to be treated. So look for it and you'll be suprised, love is complicated but there are so many people that can be compatible with you.
I don't know how he would react at you being honest, like if he loves you that much, he might want you to find sex that is satisfying but keep him as your true emotional partner.
Then again that might not do it for you

[D-Pad_Chad]

Don't ignore it, but don't ruin the relationship. If you're concerned for his health and physique try working out with him. Make it like a date night.

Now I will say you saying that does make you seem quite shallow.

Does he do all his husbandly duties? Does he do his best to provide? Protect? And make sure the home is in order? If yes ask yourself, is it worth throwing all that away over some added weight?

[Bethany22]

It's better to just ignore it rather than break up with him and watch him get a girlfriend more attractive than you. Just in case you realize what you lost too late, I would stay with him

[Guy13]

Sounds like quandary...

[Anonymous]

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[In_Trance]

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