We started having casual sex a few weeks ago. I said that I didn’t want to lead her on and that I wasn’t looking for anything serious, she said that’s fine and neither was she. She asked me to tell her if I slept with anyone else and asked her to do the same. I knew she was talking to other guys because she was telling me about them.
A few days ago she asked me if I was talking to anyone and I said a couple but nothing has come of it yet. She immediately asked if we should stop, and I said if she wanted to we could. And then proceeded to ask if she wasn’t good enough and asking why I was looking for other girls? I said we aren’t exclusive and that I thought we had an understanding. And she reiterated that she didn’t want to start a serious relationship at all but she doesn’t want to feel like she is being replaced with someone better, which to me basically sounds like a serious relationship without the label.
I am Just so confused because I know she is still talking to guys on dating apps, and she has said “just tell me if you sleep with someone else” and now she doesn’t want to feel like she is being replaced. She said if it’s going that direction she wants a heads up. I feel like no matter what, if I talk to other girls, she is going to feel like I am replacing her, even though we had agreed we aren’t exclusive at all. What should I do?
A few days ago she asked me if I was talking to anyone and I said a couple but nothing has come of it yet. She immediately asked if we should stop, and I said if she wanted to we could. And then proceeded to ask if she wasn’t good enough and asking why I was looking for other girls? I said we aren’t exclusive and that I thought we had an understanding. And she reiterated that she didn’t want to start a serious relationship at all but she doesn’t want to feel like she is being replaced with someone better, which to me basically sounds like a serious relationship without the label.
I am Just so confused because I know she is still talking to guys on dating apps, and she has said “just tell me if you sleep with someone else” and now she doesn’t want to feel like she is being replaced. She said if it’s going that direction she wants a heads up. I feel like no matter what, if I talk to other girls, she is going to feel like I am replacing her, even though we had agreed we aren’t exclusive at all. What should I do?
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Since when do anything casually and without a focused intent. No way you’re 35 years old….
For starters never take women at their word. Women make decisions based on emotion so you should have known it was BS when she said it was OK that you weren't looking for anything serious. If that was true why would she even bring it up. Secondly when she asked if you guys should stop you should have immediately told her yes. In fact I would have said. "Yea that's fine do you want to have sex one last time for the road" and waited on her reply. The uncomfortable truth is the more she knows other girls want you the more she will remain attracted to you.
Continue doing what you are doing till it doesn’t work anymore.
words don’t mean anything here.
both parties want to continue…good
if not…end it.
Sounds stress and drama to come.