I went on a second date with a guy and then he invited me over. We didn’t have sex but did other things. Afterward, he told me he cares too much about me to have sex with me and that he’s not sure if we should meet again, since we were not gonna be in a serious relationship anyway. He also said that he was afraid I would have expectations from him? Because apparently he feels different towards me than the girls he slept with-he said he felt empathy and respect.
That irritated me a little bit as I didn’t see why we would need to discuss that right after. I asked if these were his final thoughts and if his plan was to close the door forever. He said that it was not his intention to do that and that his thoughts just keep changing. He also said he wouldn’t ghost me and that he cared about me as a person. I think we made up after that conversation but it was a bit awkward tbh. He texted me to see if I got home on time and gave me a call too.
I think I’m just gonna pretend this didn’t happen and not text him.
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That has not happened to me yet.
It is quite awkward now.
Oh well, it will fade.
We also had a talk about how I was not willing to have sex with him on the second date. So I don't know if that’s a part of why he’s shying from meeting again
Yes, you are correct, most guys will tend to shy away when they hear a girl say that.
But I don’t really get it. How do people get in relationships then? Because most of them don’t have sex until knowing each other for a few months
I think in this instance, the sex came too soon, and that is what is making things awkward for him.
I really don’t know how to interpret his response. He said he’s also an unstable person so he might have different thoughts in two weeks - but he might have said that out of courtesy. Do you mind if we talk about this privately? I’m confused
Sure, what's your user name?
Unicorns_exist
I'm following you.
What is the capital of your username? I can’t tell
Or the first 2 letters
Its Wi