Why are girls never interested in knowing about me?

[Anonymous]

Well, I can even talk to girls and many are nice and polite, but it always happens that they always talk a lot about them while I always ask questions, but they are never interested in my life and I get sad about it. Many ask me for advice, say they like to talk to me, but although I always show interest in knowing about their lives, ask how their day was, show interest in their hobies, they never reciprocate by wanting to know things about me. Am I so uninteresting?

[virtue2332]

You're young you will figure it out. You have to find balance you can't go all in 100% right of the bat you have to learn how to be fun and flirt. My guess is you talk a lot and communication is key in all relationships, but you have to slow it down make them laugh engage in playful banter vs trying to find out everything by asking a lot of questions. I had a friend that would approach girls at get togethers and end up talking to them all night in the corner only to get a wrong number. He was a genuinly good guy with an amazing sense of humor so I told him to hang out with me and not talk to any girl directly just be himself. As usual he had me dying laughing just from his observational humor and we just had a good time these two gals even approached us to find out what we were laughing about. He got the number and ended up dating her for a while. I asked her why they approached us months later and she said he had a cute smile and looked like he was having fun and was attracted to his energy and confidence. She was right he was a fun guy super easy to talk to no ego just a fun guy to have around.

[Asker]

I don't know bro, honestly I don't feel like trying anymore and doing thousands of things to please a girl and in the end it doesn't work out. I notice that some beautiful friends are just themselves and many women are interested in knowing about them, but I have to try very hard to know about the girl and she never reciprocates in wanting to know anything about me, honestly I think about giving up forever

[tzdc21]

Well they wouldn't even know if you're interesting or not because they don't bother asking about you. Here's something about women. They thrive on attention from outside people. that is why they say they like talking to you because they know you're gonna give them attention. My advice to you is if you're talking to anyone, man or woman, asking them questions, and they are not reciprocating, that's a sign for you to cut and run. Don't even bother trying to talk to those women who don't seem interested in your life. It's better to be alone than to be with people who don't give a damn about you.

[Asker]

Yeah, the biggest problem is that sometimes loneliness is a really bad thing and honestly I miss female energy

[tzdc21]

Trust me. I've been down that road before. You have to be willing to learn how to enjoy your time when you're alone, because that is the only way you are gonna overcome that fear of loneliness. And that will help you when it comes to dealing with women who aren't really into you. It will make it easier for you to walk away because you are certain that you are gonna be happy without them with things going on in your own life.

[Asker]

Believe me, I spent most of my time alone. Currently I have very few friends and 90% of my day I am alone and doing things alone, but the big issue is that I am 21 years old and I often miss female sex or affection, but at the same time I feel that I I can't have it

[tzdc21]

Been there, done that. You gotta learn how to be happy when you're alone. And don't think so negatively about it. You're only 21, you've got a LONG way ahead of you. I recommend doing dating apps, and lots of them, to find a relationship, but first and foremost, you must learn how to be happy on your own. It won't happen overnight, but start developing hobbies that you can do in your spare time that you enjoy. And little by little it will start to grow on you.

[Sour-rose]

Well maybe it's who you're talking to. Many guys be like "ask me anything" and I am too bothered to deal with that. It's not that you're not interesting... i just can't care that much. Most people I talk to are usually pleasant to speak to and such but with my history... you'll stop talking to me in 3 minutes. Not because I'm sour (sometimes it is) it's just they disappear

[MCheetah]

Many people are narcissistic and selfish like that. Don't waste your time with such people.

[LiamJHayden]

You are choosing the wrong women. Give them less time to show interest then move on. Women with depth are out there.

[Asker]

Absolutely all the women I talk to behave like this, sometimes I think I'm too ugly or uninteresting