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Do you think short men who blame their height for not doing well with women also lack in other areas they refuse to acknowledge?
Anonymous(36-45)I’m considered a short guy. Is it a block? Sure. Does it weed out a lot of women? Sure.
It’s a thing that I will have to overcome.
Being short will not completely destroy all chances of dating, or dating someone good looking (or attractive in other ways).
It DOES seem that to overcome being short, I have to be so much more in… other areas. Whatever areas. And it can be depressing to look at everything Injave to do, and how much time I have to spend, in order to get to a point where short me can get through things.
And if someone is short, obese, ugly, geeky, they will have to really work on themselves - Whatever they can change or improve - to compensate. They will have to be that much wealthier. That much more influential. That much more of an amazing speaker… that amazing in bed… whatever… in order to have better chances.
Can they be short? Yes. Short and balding? Sure. Short, fat and balding? And get supermodels? It’s possible. Unlikely, but possible. Can he be short and poor and get women? Sure. Not as likely if he was tall and rich, but it’s still possible. He had just better be amazing with what little he has, and have influence and potential.
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In many cases short men who put all the blame on height are lacking in other areas of their life. That is just a fact. I think many men use the height thing as an excuse not to get better. I have had plenty of clients who were short do well because they had their SHIT together.
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I believe that wholeheartedly. I met a cute guy last week. He was around 5'6. He smiled at me and I came over to talk. We got along well and happen to live in the same city. He was a sweet guy. I am 6'1 by the way.
I have seen many short guys who I found attractive. Many short guys who my friends found attractive. Many short guys who are in a happy relationship right now.
This week has been crazy on G@G regarding short guys and they all seem to just mention their one flaw and Inly that flaw... their height. But they don't mention anything else. It's mind boggling that they refuse to acknowledge short guys being successful in the dating world. "Under 6 ft? = Officially unattractive always, game over" that's how they seem to go about it and it's pretty sad.
It's almost as sad as the dick size questions. They talk about it like that's the only quality they have as a partner, as a person.
My short kings and short men yet to be crowned. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and read this post!
It is generally harder for them, but yes, I think this is true. There seems to be a lot of that on here, not even just in regard to height.
Some women are shallow. But it's not nearly as many as the internet makes it out to be. For lots of the girls who have a height preference, it's not about consciously being like: "Oh, he's short. Yuck. I'd look horrible with a short guy." It's about what you are just naturally attracted to, not a judgment. Or the girl's own kind of insecurity about seeming much taller than average in comparison to her boyfriend. And even that doesn't always have to be a given, people fall in love all the time, especially if you get to know each other without the pressure of trying to decide if you want to date. There is no reason for guys on the shorter side to give up.
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7.5K opinions shared on Dating topic. One of my best friends is Asian and 5'3 with both wife and child. So, short people can have a married life too. How did he do it?
It must have something to do with the American male Shorties among us Perhaps, the Shorties personal affairs are not impressive to the women. My Chemical Engineer friend and his Accountant wife are short for the Asian population in the developing world but both blissfully married.
Perhaps all you disappointed short guys would have better luck in SE Asia and the developing world. Thailand, Cambodia, and Burma would be good places to seek your height people. I will be more than happy to convey many cultural nuisances that will lessen the probability that you insult a traditional and conservative people group.
Another plus is that 3 baht to 1 USD. This means a 200,000 in USA home is around 70,000 USD in Thailand. Prices were much less during the COVID period. Best in your endeavors.
770 opinions shared on Dating topic. Yes. Those men also lack confidence and radiate their insecurity which is such a huge turn off quality
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Yes height is a major factor. Just look at how women react and treat male celebs when they find out he's short.
https://www.reddit.com/r/cringepics/comments/1jevad/taylor_lautner_is_too_short_210_would_not_bang/
And another male recently showed you the height preference women place on dating sites like bumble where they have total control on who they date. If a guy is short, he pretty much needs to be an amazing guy or very good looking to get a girl.
Even marriage data shows that short men often have to marry late in life and compensate for their short height with money and status to attract women. The only upside being they tend to marry younger women who make less than them but have more traditional marriages which last longer. While tall men tend to marry women of their generation and many times the woman is the higher earner.
- Anonymous(45 Plus)
A defeatist attitude gets you nowhere but an awful lot of women do have a minimum height to ride mentality. Women are always looking for above average men even though they may be average or below average in most things. I'm 6ft6 when I was in new York working and this is espicially more extreme in manhattan women were lining up to date me because I was tall, even short stumpy women that were 30+, even waitresses on minimum wage. I had my pick and was at times dating two or three gorgeous women at a time.
Well there is a evolutionary truth behind it, if I gotta be honest I'd say short men ( who are below 5'9 ft) aren't that wrong with what they thinking, as men we usually like to be with women who are curvy, have a nice shaped hips, big boobs if possible because in our lower mind we want a woman who's fertile enough and women who have those features directly gives our lower-brains a message that ''this woman is fertile and I want to have a sex with her''
It goes same with women, they usually like a guy who looks big.. you don't have to be muscular or anything but just look strong and be a man who is a bit massive at least. Height doesn't have anything to do with strenght, I seen many guys who are below 5'9 ft but they beat the shit out of guys who are above 6'0 ft but the thing is about the first gaze and in first gaze guys who look more massive gets the attention. There is also a very big role of social media, a lot of guys are texting women.. from short to tall, skinny to muscular and they give women an option to pick between them, it gives women too much power and thats what they do.
It's a domino effect.
Yes women prefer men bigger and stronger than them biologically speaking.
If you run into enough crude women, then it's going to effect your confidence and that lack of confidence is going to effect other areas in your life.
Women have told me I'm beautiful my whole life, I'm allowed to make multiple mistakes with women and still seal the deal, does that boost my confidence and part of who I've become? Yes, of course. Has that confidence made me more successful in other areas of my life and define to my level of perceived success in every endeavour I enter? Undoubtedly.
Kind regards,
DoctorSex
850 opinions shared on Dating topic. Now of course there are women who want taller guys and that's fine, everyone's got a preference.
But yeah I've seen guys date women who are taller than them. If a guy solely blames his height for not being able to date, there probably one of two causes
1. He's in the wrong social circle and needs to meet new people.
2. He's using height as an excuse to avoid the fact that maybe it's something else, like his personality.417 opinions shared on Dating topic. Likely but height is statistically a pretty important factor.
Case in point; The median average American female on bumbe won't date a median average American guy on bumbe based on height alone.
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Yes I know plenty of short guys who've had no trouble at all finding happy, healthy, loving, long lasting relationships.
My best friend actually only likes short guys and won't date guys over 6ft.
Just look at Tom Cruise, Justin Bieber and Tom Holland all dated some of the most beautiful women in the world and women go crazy for them
I never understood this because at six feet tall I’ve dated a few men shorter than me and their height never factored into my attraction to them. In fact, I avoid the “Chad” types because they can be a bit rude and negative minded in my experience.
Yes, highet is something that for many is importent but personailty beats it everytime
In the end your not spending time with his meat, your spending time with them the looks are mostly a first time thing that matter less and less as you know them and how deep or not they are839 opinions shared on Dating topic. I believe that the "lacking in other areas they refuse to acknowledge" is a possibility, not a general prerequisite for all short men.
I say this because there are men that would undoubtedly get more females if they were taller. And them achieving that result wouldn't have anything to do with the other qualities. Only the women's perception of them. As being taller would make them more attractive & more attractive people are perceived more positively due to the halo effect cognitive bias. It allows people's perception of someone's good traits to be raised across the board without them actually having to reflect that increase in value.
- 3.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.
I've men short men who are pretty good in other areas to compensate their height. E. G. I met a short guy who has a very successful career, a house, a good car, handsome, well mannered, stylish, family oriented basically has everything but is not tall enough to many women but I'm sure many women would also give him a chance because he's stable.
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We're all a sum of our parts. Can a short person use it as a crutch? Yeah. But it is a factor! That isn't debateable. And if a half a dozen women tell him he's "too short" for her or say "i only date guys over 6 feet". I can see how that could affect him more than it should. It's no different than a girthful lady being told she's fat several times convincing her that she's unlovable because she doesn't fit the "ideal" standard of beauty set by society.
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Definitely. Personality is a big one. I’d rather date a 5ft man with an amazing personality than date a 6ft man who’s a misogynistic douchebag.
- 981 opinions shared on Dating topic.
It's very simple:
There's plenty of short men who successfully date. That fact alone proves that short men who don't have any success in dating, lack in other crucial areas. Usually it's their attitude towards themselves and towards women.
Do short men have it harder in dating? Sure. But the same goes for countless other features. We all have our shortcomings (pun maybe intended), whatever they are. -
Yes absolutely. Short man syndrome, but generally some of them tend to be so much more angry and aggressive or they lack confidence. Or are kind of sexist/hate women
3.1K opinions shared on Dating topic. Most are extremely jealous and possessive as well as insecure (at least all thé guys my sister dated were this ways and they were shorter or same height as her)
so in a way their height is thé problem cause i cause them insécurity
Absolutely. The vast majority of the time. It is a lot easier to blame something you can't change about yourself than to address the real issue that takes effort to work on.
- 978 opinions shared on Dating topic.
Mostly in social skills or personality in general. Tom Holland got Zendaya. So height isn't a death sentence by any means. Most men obsessed with height are measuring themselves against other men, it's not even focussed on by most women. It's the same as dick size. Men are more obsessed with penis than women are and it's not even close.
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