This guy (30M) and I (30F) have been texting nonstop for 3 weeks straight. Last week we went on 2 dates, 5+ hours each, lots of hand holding, laughing, good conversation, joking about our “future houses/holidays/pets” etc plus we didn’t want the dates to end. He went out of his way to drop me home both times (and also said he would always do this for me). He’s been consistent (daily texts, check ins, good mornings etc) and shown a lot of interest in me.
Our last date was on Sunday and he started a new intense job on Monday. I told him I would treat him this time and reciprocate my interest by planning date 3, to which he said he was looking forward. However when I asked him to tell me a night he was free, he only replied “I shall do” rather than a concrete answer - I put it down to him being focused on work than any disinterest. He checked in on my day afterwards despite being his first work day, but when I asked him back (and flirted a bit), he didn’t reply all day/night.
He finally messaged next morning with “promise to reply later” to which I jokingly replied “sorry I’ve lost all interest” (he knows my roasting when comfortable sense of humour) and then an hour later I texted to clarify it was of course a joke (We have an inside joke about the both of us being cut throat about things, so I was playing on this). I also realized tone can be misconstrued especially here, so again reassured him no way I have had a change of heart so quickly and have date 3 planned out for us.
I now noticed he unfollowed me on Instagram but didn’t remove me from his followers. he most likely did this before I clarified things - which I understand as my dumb joke could have come off as serious over text. I’ve also again messaged him an apology for my stupid joke and taken accountability.
I still haven’t received any response. The guilt is eating me up for messing up something potentially good due to my stupid humour have I blown it?
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