I started seeing this guy a couple weeks ago and he told me he was only looking for something short term/casual.
However, we’ve had some amazing conversations over the phone that last for hours. He checks in with me throughout the day, and he also asked if I was talking to other guys (and told me he wasn’t talking to other girls). I went out over the weekend and he asked me to let him know when I was home so he’d know I was safe.
I don’t have any experience with a “casual” or short term relationship, but his actions are confusing me (and I’m not ready to address this with him). Thoughts? I don’t want to end up falling for the guy and getting hurt
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It sounds like his intention is to have something casual, but he’s starting to catch feelings. But if I were you, I wouldn’t let myself catch feelings because he already said from beginning he wants something casual know if you can do is just watching observe what he does and take it from there, but eventually ask him, especially if you start catching strong feelings, you have to ask him what his intention is and if it doesn’t line up with yours and you gotta move on because you’ll get hurt
If he said he was only looking for something casual, then why did you agree to date him?
Well I’m not really sure what I want at the moment, which is what I told him
Oh. So maybe you need to figure that out?
by the way, I don't know the guy, so this is just a guess. But it may be that he just said that he was looking for something casual because he thought that was what you wanted, due to the statements that you made. In other words, he's just trying to respect your wishes.
But from everything you've told us so far, he sounds like a decent guy, and he sounds like he's at least treating you respectfully.
Is the reason you only want a casual relationship because you don't trust men and you're afraid of what might happen if you pursued something more meaningful?
I only said I didn’t know what I was looking for. He said he wanted casual.
Okay. But if you're not decisive in what you want then you let other people make those decisions for you.
So straight up ask him what he wants