Am I right to get mad at my boyfriend for telling me a girl tried to flirt with him?

[Anonymous]

Long story short, my boyfriend has a lot of friends and last weekend he went out with some of them. He was telling me how he had a good time, and they were all taking pictures with him. And then some woman at the pub asked him if he was a celebrity or smthg. I got mad at him, as in why would he tell me such thing, and he was like : I was telling you about how it went with my friends, it wasn't about her. We had a fight and he hasn't talked to me since.

[SteveSmith1985]

First... I don't think you're thinking this through. You generally do want to hear about whose hitting on your man. This one wasn't one you were too concerned with. But the chick he works with who flirts with him... you want to know that bitch is a threat or not? Cuz she's flirting with your man at work. Do you want to be SINCERELY nice to that bitch when you see her at some point? And smile all oblivious?

This doesn't make any long-term sense. He mentioned it as an incidental thing. In passing. It makes sense for you to be mildly annoyed for about 45-55 seconds. Certainly not any longer than that. Definitely not even justified in mentioning it it's so minor.

So while you do have a point. He didn't need to tell you about that. First... it's not a bad thing that he did. You want him to feel he can do that. Because sometimes you'll care. And Second, any righteous annoyance his unnecessary mention of this flirting... should be SO SO SO minor, that you forget all about it before the end of the STORY. Like you're being ridiculous. In the extreme. Is this really the stuff you want to be fighting about in your relationships? That's going to get exhausting for him real quick. Maybe it already has. You should call him and apologize for being completely unreasonable here.

Calling this an overreaction (a fight over this?) is an understatement. You're being silly about this.

[Anonymous]

Lol holy shit really. He told you because it was probably funny to him that someone thought he was a movie star. Just cause she assumed he was a movie star doesn’t mean she was flirting w him? What would you have done had he not told you? You would have probably be mad as well. This is why men don’t say a damn thing when stuff happens cause regardless of being honest or not you get the 10th degree. That’s why it’s just easier to keep your mouth shut. If you want him to be able to come to you about things, especially if he fucked up then this isn’t the way you go about doing it. Because he’s going to remember this shit, say fuck it I got yelled at for telling her something that really meant nothing to him, imagine how she’s going to react if I tell her I kissed another girl when I was drunk. You need to grow up. I bet if things were reversed, he blew up at you because some dude thought you were some model or movie star you’d say he’s overreacting. Something tells me you’re more upset that he had fun. For some reason a lot of women don’t like it when their man has a good time out w his friends. You ask her you ok, she’s like yes I’m fine but she isn’t. She says no go, but she still manages to make you feel like shit. That sounds like you, that he didn’t take you. Maybe you didn’t want to go I don’t know. He needs someone better than you in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

No. I think you’re being silly. Although it was unnecessary for him to tell you that, he probably thought that honesty was the best policy. So he could prove to you that you can trust him. If I did that with a guy and I believe in complete transparency myself, I’d do it to show I’m trustworthy. No need to worry or apologise to him. It’s not really a situation where anyone is at fault. I can see it from both sides.

[Guy13]

If you get on him for that, then he will never talk to you again. The relationship will be pretty much over. If you already have done then know the end is near or at least will be juggling two now. No need to try have a relationship with someone who punishes for general daily and honest conversation. He's trying to demonstrate he is trustworthy when other girls flirt and touch him and you abuse him for it. You are not ready for a relationship. Because your pride is hurt for some strange reason... Grow the F-up

[ShiftingMonke]

He's letting you know another woman noticed him while you weren't around not to make you jealous, but to show you he chose NOT to engage with her attentions. He's trying to show you that you can trust him; he won't be telling you that again.

[Drumlin2001]

I dont think you are right. His actions seem fair enough, full exposure. How would you have felt months down the line if one of his friends had made a joke about him getting hit on one a night out and he hadn't mentioned it? It's really nothing, you should apologise.

[Stevefiveo]

You can't lock your boyfriend I'm a basement. When he is out in public, women are going to flirt with him and vica versa with you. Guys are obviously going to flirt with you too. Is he supposed to get mad at you when a guy flirts with you.

[Wade12345]

My new online girlfriend just told me it's okay for me to look at other women, "I just can't touch other women."

[Fireguy17]

Yes, he is not responsible for someone else's feelings.
If someone tried to flirt with you , would you be fine if he was upset with you?

[Dragonstarterplus]

Sounds like he dodged a bullet cause you sound crazy

[OddBeMe]

Ehh, not really. When we do tell you you get mad that we’re boasting, we can’t win!

[BarryLiverstone]

Nope. He was sharing a story and you got jelly

[Asker]

Which included a woman flirting with him. It happens, but why mention it?

[BarryLiverstone]

Sounds like his friends may have also noticed it so they may bring it up later on if the girls was making such a scene

[BarryLiverstone]

Imagine next week they mention her and her had never told you..

[driven159]

you both are acting immature.

[Sabretooth]

Without a doubt. This speaks to insecurity.

[Anonymous]

He is cunt 😂😂