Boyfriend got mad and snapped because I keep telling him I love you?

[Anonymous]

I was in a call with my boyfriend and we didn’t have much to say, I told him “I love you “ twice on the call and he got upset and started saying I don’t have to say it all the time and that it doesn’t mean a lot when it’s said too much. I he says he already knows that I love him and it got boring me saying that word. I say it because I mean it and I want to tell him what I feel all the time because at one point he was very insecure and he needed reassurance all the time so it has been a routine for me to say it everyday to him and he says it to me. I got very hurt after the call and told him the way he spoke to me hurt me. It literally ripped out my heart. He said I could’ve asked him how his day went instead of saying the three letter word and telling him that I want to work with him because he found it stupid (?). Am I being too sensitive or he’s right?

[Vesuvius87]

While it's insensitive what he's saying, I have to agree with the part that saying ''I love you'' all the times are just words. What counts is the actions that come with it. Ok so you told him the L word, what are you doing to show you love him? Do you asked how his day at work was, cook a good meal, maybe take him out on a date, etc?

I'm talking from experience. I've been in a worthless relationship with my now ex boyfriend. It was full of excessive ''I love you'' words exchanged in the beginning. I've wasted years into nothing. That ''I love you, you're the love of my life'' never progress to having kids. It stayed in the ''boyfriend and girlfriend infatuation'' stage and I got lead on for too long. Nowadays I don't believe in too much ''I love you'' words. I don't want to be said that all the times either. I'm looking for actions, goals, aspirations and forming a family.

[AddylynnNightingale]

I'm on either side. I agree with his mindset. I also think that it kind of loses value when said too many times. I rarely say the words to my boyfriends, but when I do he melts.

Then again, you say he was super insecure so because of the routine born from said insecurity, I can see your point of view too.

[PatriceONeal]

There's more to this story that she isn't saying. She likely was begging for him to say it back.

[Iron_Man]

That’s not cool I say it all the time and I want to that’s how I feel

[LazerBean]

He's rude and probably lashing out because he doesn't love you and feels guilty whenever you say that you do. The " saying it too much makes it not special " is just a bullshit excuse.

[Vesuvius87]

Actually too many people throw the L word and ''oh you're the love of my life'' too much, only to later on break-up. Too much time for nothing. As someone older, I refuse to waste my time on the infatuation stage and get lovebombed again.

[LazerBean]

But did they break up because they were saying I love you too much? The answer is no. I totally agree that people should be careful who they say "I love you" to, however you can never say "I love you" too much to the right person.

[rienna888]

Don’t say I love you at al anymore and then he’ll wonder why you don’t

[Emanon25]

Some people don’t like that.

[Vesuvius87]

I'm one of those people. I don't want to be lovebombed ever again. The ''I love you'' words isn't going to get me a family.

[Emanon25]

@Vesuvius87 I am the same too