Ladies, does this mean anything if you like a guy?

Let's say for example you may like a guy. You can be single or even you're ready to end your current relationship. If the topics of relationships comes up and you tell the guy "wait and be patient the right one will come your way". Does this mean anything that the girl likes you? This happend to both of my friends and a couple of months later they ended up dating the girl they liked.

SpanishRose

Xper 2 Age: 33

I don't know I say this to my male friends when they get their heart broke. But I have no attraction to them. I'm not trying to date them, just make them feel better. But then again I'm blunt if I like you I'll tell you.

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The truth is this girl I like is actually in a relationship but it's not going that well (she recently told me it's not good) . Now she told me the question i asked a month ago because I just casually asked if she was in a relationship Then she asked me if i was in one and I said no. Then she said "that's why you're always so happy then". Every since this interaction she was saying things to me that was more than friends i think. I'am not stepping over boundaries at all. Just wanted information on what this all mean

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SpanishRose

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She may very well like you, I was just saying that particular statement doesn't scream "I like you" to me is all. But if you feel the chemistry and can pick up on her feelings irl I wouldn't dismiss it! I hope everything works out for you and her xx

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well i will be honest with you, i did something very stupid and i regret it. She did tell me her relationship was bad and she is very ceretain her boyfriend is cheating on her and was basically coming to tears when she told me. I felt for her so i told her over text that if she would like to go for dinner to cheer her up. I regret this a lot and i know i;am very very stupid for saying that. Since then she ignored me the first two days and now she sometimes can't look at me or just super super small talk. I will say one thing. Her picture with her boyfriend on facebook is gone. But again I don't know if this was way of her not liking me or she got mad at my actions and needs to focus on herself. I'm just going to give her space and not really interact with her. I do regret doing what i did. Just for refernce the place where i go too, she was say things to me like "i dont ever want you to go somewhere else". Randomly brought up kids. Talking to me with her legs crossed and staring at me. Acting different without other people around her like her co-workers.

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SpanishRose

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I don't think you should regret saying this. That was very kind of you, you genuinely care for her. But her behavior tells me she is unsure what she wants. I think space may be the best thing for you both right now. It may open her eyes and see what a good guy you are. It may not. Only time will tell. I just would hate for you to wait on something that may not happen. She may truly love you as a friend but that's up to you if you can handle just being her friend?

Either way I'm sorry you're in this situation. I really hope it works out for you!

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i helped her with her car. i'am a mechanic. it was a little funny because her boyfriend called her when she was with me and she sounded so dead on the phone then very alive with me. She told him "i'll be home in 30 minutes" but i had a mental clock running in my head, the whole time i was with her (3 hours) she literally would not stop talking to me lol. so after the 30 minute mark i told her she needs to go now because i didn't want her to get in trouble. She also said things like i want you to show me how to do an oil change and change a tire and when i was working on her car she would help me just herself (never asked for help). Inside her car she was talk to me with her legs crossed and just faced totally towards me. I don't know what she wants, i'am giving her space and avoiding her for now. She's told me her boyfriend is manipulative and her past relationship was like this and it was very bad i can tell you that much. So yeah i won't be "waiting" even though i do have feelings for her. we'll see what happens this month.

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SpanishRose

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She's in a relationship with a toxic guy, and was prior to that one. So to her your a breath of fresh air. The opposite of what she is used to. She finds you sweet. But ultimately she has to decide stay on the road she is on or take a leap of faith. You aren't her usual type so she is probably going over the different scenarios in her head. Sometimes it takes girls months if not years to completely disconnect from a toxic male that they have fallen for.
My best advice is keep your options open, if you truly like her, be there for her when she needs you and hopefully she will wake up and pick the good guy.

Those situations are never easy, and I'm sorry you're on the receiving end. I hope everything works out.

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Thank you very much. The place she is at I go everyone morning and we only talk 10 minutes max. This week I just decided to go a little after her shift is done to give her space. Let's say she's done 6:30, well I'll just show st 6:25, grab my coffee and leave. In all honesty all last week when I walked in she couldn't really look at me. The very last thing I want to say is one very very very weird thing she did. The time she was angry and venting to me, she kept looking down but then had this weird smile/smirk, I looked away then looked back. Same thing in person the she spoke to me after the text I sent. Could you explain that? Like she is planning something lol

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SpanishRose

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Let me make sure I understand, whilst she was upset she would look down and smile?
Were you saying anything to her at this time?

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I was yes, can i personal message you if it's ok? I really do appreciate your help and advice a lot.

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SpanishRose

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Sure

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just sent a mesage

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