Is it too bad to date with someone who always underestimates, manipulates you?

[Anonymous]

I’m dating a guy that always swears at me and underestimates me. He doesn’t want me to socialize or make male friends. I’m not allowed to speak with men. He doesn’t want me to go out after 8 o’clock in evening and when i ask why he doesn’t allow me to do so, he says he wants to protect me from dangerous people. I can’t take it anymore. I love him but i think he is too manipulative and restricts my social life. I feel like i lost my confidence long time ago. What would you advice me?

[Jdjfjcjj]

It's not effective if he doesn't give you a choice. You should allowed to do what you want however, I agree with in the sense that I will not accept a woman to have guy friends, or go out clubbing on girls nights, etc. He should want her to make the decision to be the girlfriend he desires, not force her to be

[Jdjfjcjj]

Your discomfort is due to the recognition of this but ask yourself this, all emotions aside, do you understand why a guy would not want his girl to do any of that? Do you in some way agree? If yes then, assuming he didn't take away your choice and make you feel controlled, would you give gun what he desires still? If so, then maybe something to consider

[Guy13]

It sounds like you are ready to end it and move on.

[Asker]

I’ve been thinking about it recently but i’m not sure about the consequences.

[Guy13]

Consequences?

[designer1]

Run! Like srsly bc if he’s this bad this early on, it’s gonna get so much worse.

[TrueConfection]

Run! Don't walk.

[Rockstarrrrr]

That sounds like a parent disciplining and controlling their kid lol... The fact that you allowed him to go that far already means you probably have super low self esteem... You need to fix it and kick all that...

[serious]

Underestimation and manipulation are the worst things. It is very bad to date anyone who displays these kind of behaviors.

[CreatingWonders]

He’s a narcissist, you need to bin him stay single for a while to think about things then see how things go, you don’t need this toxic mess he’s just an abuser.

[Surely]

At your age. It is time to stand on your own two feet and think for yourself.
What are you afraid of if you go your own way?

[TrillXHippy]

Yes.