Who should decide where to go on a first date: man or woman?

[gayesblog]

Who do you think decide where to go for the first date?

[Anonymous]

Whoever asks for the first date should decide.

Whoever asks should pay at least their fair share (or more) too.

More than once I’ve had a girl suggest “we get dinner” and then expected me to pay. Very insulting and selfish. Once was a self proclaimed liberal too.

However the last date I went on was to a hockey game which was the girl’s idea. It was a good idea because I like rough and tough sports. She paid for the tickets but I got us drinks. She was very fair about arrangement.

Too bad I quickly found out later she believed there was nothing wrong with drinking and driving. That was sadly an instant deal breaker for me. If it wasn’t for that I would have on more dates with her for sure.

[OlderAndWiser]

Since the guy usually pays for the date, it should ultimately be his decision. The woman may feel uncomfortable because she doesn't know what price range he wants. I solve this problem by offrng the woman a choice of three different cuisines, such as Italian, seafood, or eclectic. I ask her to select one of those three and tell her that all are equally acceptable to me. If she then picks, e. g., seafood, I suggest three different restaurants that offer good seafood, I again tell her all three are equally acceptable, and I ask her to select one.

We have a restaurant selected, I know it's good for her, she knows it's good for me, and she knows it's within my price range. Problem solved.

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[ElGato31]

I like when the guy gives me 2-3 options. It shows thinking, it shows leadership skills in a way.

I absolutely dislike when a guy say I decide. It shows he can't take risks. Instant turn off.

[Pinay_ako]

This will be our first argument 🤣. Nah Idc. I’m ok as long as there’s good food, I’m down

[Still-alive]

its rice time heh

[Pinay_ako]

@Still-alive 🤣 yes better have some rice or I’ll argue

[Still-alive]

can't have your tummy rumbling hehe

[Pinay_ako]

@Still-alive 🤣 oh no you don’t want that. It’ll be a short date

[Still-alive]

if it were me i'd order more food hehe. eat up babyyy :P

[Guy13]

A man as the last thing any wife wants is an adult kid to raise because Mommie made all his "perfect just the way you are" decisions for him. I mean damn, it is a minor decision and risk...

[Sasha0426]

Are you ok there? 😅

[AviatorTom]

It should be a joint decision. Usually the guy suggests a location and the girl either agrees or suggests something else.

[Anonymous]

Both should agree where to go. You shouldn't be going somewhere one would feel uncomfortable or that they don't like. Say you both decide on dinner date. You should talk about what types of food you like as it wouldn't make sense to go to say a Japanese restaurant if either one didn't like that cusine. Nor would it make sense to go somewhere that's very busy and loud if one of you doesn't like crowds. Allergies are another consideration. Yes you can ask about that at a restrauntt but some cusines do have specific things that feature a lot be it certain ingredients or spices. Religious views is also another consideration.

Tbh I'd say for a date ideally it should be somewhere that has something of an atmosphere but noehtee to loud nor to quite as you want to be able to get to know each other.

[UncleBilll]

The man should come up with a few great plans, and let her pic her plan, I start with starbucks or talking in a public square, then move to a meal, then hopefully a walk, drive or something fun like an arcade, then it's my time to try to get into her pants.

[Mewzinc]

What if she's waiting for marriage?

[UncleBilll]

@Mewzinc no problem, I will drive her back where she came from

[Mewzinc]

Ok well that's very nice of you :)

[Agape93]

Whoever asks the other out.

If I ask you out, I'm taking you somewhere.

If you ask me out, it's you taking me.

[SecretsofKB]

Exactly.

[Mewzinc]

Does that apply with who pays too?

[Agape93]

Yeap. If I ask you out, I'm paying. If you ask me out, you're paying. If we both agree prior to split the bill, cool deal.

[Mewzinc]

What if the girl never asks the guy out because she knows that would entail she'll have to pay so she waits for the guy every time lol

[Agape93]

Then he needs to drop the freeloader. Pull your weight or fuck off

[Mewzinc]

😯😮 true though, I concur.

[SeriouslyFunny00]

I always say, "no, you decide!" 😂☺️

[EmmaMary]

Either.

Man asks woman out, he chooses.

Woman asks man out, she chooses.

Simples!

[LiamJHayden]

I like the idea put forth by @OlderAndWiser The asker should give some options and let the other person choose from those..

[IveGotNoName]

Whoever invited the other person should decide where to go of course. You don't throw a wedding and expect the guests to choose the venue.

[Adam1978]

Both need to agree but I say whoever ask the other out should also suggest the first option.

[SolitarySolace]

If the man has to do the asking/chasing, the woman should do something in my opinion.

[baseball_del_tuono]

The guy right? I’ve never been on a date but if I was I’d want to pick and she would like that right?

[Alex8736]

The person who asked. Going on a date is the easy part but deciding where to go can make or break the chances for a 2nd date

[Anonymous]

Traditionally, the guy would ask a girl out and then plan the first date.

[LemiaOfThunder]

It was kinda needed, we had been dating for almost 2 months.

[Twalli]

The person who asks the other one out should decide

[Anonymous]

Sometimes dating older guys isn’t better agreed or disagree?

[serious]

I think the man should decide.

[Pyrofox]

To me it's best when it's done together.

[andreasderjuengere]

The purse should decide :D