What can you learn from rejection and how can you get better?

[Anonymous]

[MrOracle]

The single biggest thing you can learn is that rejection won't kill you. Sure, it's never fun, but it's also not nearly as bad if you are smart about it.

The problem most guys make is that the don't approach a girl they like right away - instead, they pine away for her from a distance and build up a huge amount of feelings for her over time. Then, when he eventually asks the girl out or whatever, he's SO invested in her that he comes across as desperate, and that will turn that girl off even if she might have said yes otherwise.

You need to understand that it is largely a numbers game, especially for men who aren't top 10% guys. The ONLY way to get comfortable talking to girls and asking them out is to PRACTICE, A LOT, and you have to expect to get rejected most of the time, especially in the beginning.

To use a sports metaphor, you would never get picked for a team if you had never swung a bat, caught a ball, or made a basket. You only get good at something if you get in a lot of practice, and of course you are going to strike out, drop the ball, or miss the basket all the time when you are first starting out. That's normal and to be expected. Yes, you still need to try your best each and every time, but you also have to expect a lot of failure early on. But the more you practice, the easier it gets, and you develop skills that allow you to succeed sometimes even when the situation is challenging, and your success rate increases.

Even James Bond gets rejected at times, but he also practices constantly, and uses every asset he's got, and his success rate is incredibly high - but it's still not close to 100%. When you are first starting out, expect a 1-2% success rate, which means getting a yes for every 50-100 girls you ask out.

A lot of guys who seem so average but always have a girl are successful simply because they are prepared to go out into the world and meet women with all of their free time, such that they are asking out 20 girls a week. And with only a 5% success rate, this means that, on average, they can expect to get a date within a week, because they put in the work. If you have a 5% success rate, but you only ask out one girl a month, it will, on average, take you almost 2 years to do what that guy does in a week, because he's moving so much faster. It's a numbers game,

Learn to approach more often and much sooner, and even with a lousy success rate, you'll soon have a date.

[OfMiceandMen]

I just know going in, I'm not everyone's cup of tea, as long as you remain thick-skinned and not let it bother you too much, you will do fine.

Just remember, if the person you are coming onto rejects you, it's no different than you rejecting them, if they aren't someone they are attracted to.

As long as they are polite about it (which one should be) there should be no hard feelings.

So, the best thing to take away from rejection is to accept it for what it is, and just move on.

[Greedier]

Rejection can be a difficult and painful experience, but it also presents an opportunity for growth and learning.

Reflect on the experience: Take some time to reflect on what happened and how you feel about it. Acknowledge your emotions, but also try to gain some perspective on the situation.

1. Identify areas for improvement: Consider what you could have done differently or better. This could include improving your skills or knowledge, changing your approach, or seeking feedback from others.

2. Use rejection as motivation: Use the experience as motivation to work harder and improve. Use the rejection as a learning opportunity to help you grow and become better.

3. Keep trying: Don't let rejection stop you from pursuing your goals. Keep trying, and don't give up. Remember that rejection is a part of life, and that every successful person has faced rejection at some point.

4. Stay positive: It's important to maintain a positive attitude and keep things in perspective. Rejection is not a reflection of your worth as a person. Stay focused on your goals and keep working towards them, one step at a time.

[Greedier]

Rejection can teach you how to be more resilient, self-aware, and empathetic. It can also provide an opportunity to receive feedback and learn how to persevere and not give up on your goals. Overall, rejection can be a valuable learning experience that can help you grow and improve in many ways.

[Haha456]

for me, it was very difficult to deal with rejection when I was 15-26. But as I got older, I got used to it and accepted it as a part of life. Once you get rejected over and over again for a very long time, it will hurt a lot and you will cry. But if you have a mature mind, you will eventually grow thick skinned and accustomed to it.

What you need to understand is that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Just because some people think you're unattractive, it doesn't mean everyone thinks you're unattractive. I've had guys rate me a 4/10 while others rate me a 7/10. Just because you don't like cilantro, it doesn't mean nobody likes cilantro. Don't take it too personally

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Learning a few things you will however you will learn a few things about the person that rejected you as well. In life I always say if you never try you will never know & if you like someone you shouldn’t be afraid to tell them. As for me when it comes to rejection I try to look at the bright side of things. If a lovely lady rejects me I look at it like subconsciously she knows she isn’t good enough for me & by rejecting me she is actually doing me a favor.

[cth96190]

What I learned was that only a tiny number of females were interested in what I offered.
I also learned that there was an aspect of female nature that was self destructive, enjoyed suffering, was predatory and enjoyed hurting men in every way, just because they could.
I also learned that interaction with females failed a cost/risk/benefit calculation.
I learned that the only way to win was to not play the game.

[itsalyssaagain]

Rejection is redirection. That’s all. It’s a shitty part of life but you just have to accept it and move on.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Sometimes being rejected is kind of a relief. Women are a lot of work, and at least now you know she ain't worth it

[Anonymous]

That it's just redirection.
If you don't like something about yourself accept it and learn and grow from the situation

[exitseven]

I learned that somebody can hurt you so much that you have to pull your car over and get out and puke.

[Nikki1989]

Rejection makes you stronger. You learn from it, or at least you should.

[LiamJHayden]

I learn that she is not interested and move on to the next one.

[FeelingGroovy]

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

[Cathy7734]

Except for rat poison. I knew a woman that fed her abusive husband rat poison in small doses. It didn't kill him but just made him sick.

[FeelingGroovy]

@Cathy7734

Yep. I'm pretty sure my stepmom killed my dad that way.

[Fuentes]

Just Point me to the bitches

[spartan55]

That way...👉

[Anonymous]

Just keep on going until you get it right.

[westsideman]

Life goes on.