Would you like if the person you were dating did this for you?

[Jess_D]

Hi this question is for guys but girls can feel free to weigh in too.

I have been dating my boyfriend since November. We became exclusive pretty much after our second date. We’ve known each other for a long time before we started dating though. He is the brother of one of my friends.

A few weeks ago he gave me a key to his house because he had to go to the hospital with his dad and asked me if I could go to his place to let his dog out. In the last few weeks I forgot a had the key and he never asked for it back.

Tonight we were supposed to go to dinner but he just called me and said he’s stuck at work until almost 8 o’clock this evening. So our dinner plans are wrecked and he seems really down about it. He’s been working a ton of hours lately. He’s a mail carrier and they are severely understaffed.

So my idea is to go to his house this evening and make him dinner before he gets home. I think it’s a nice gesture and will cheer him up. He loves breakfast food and I was going to make him a full breakfast spread. Scrambled eggs, bacon, hash browns, pancakes. All the stuff he likes.

So would you like this? Or would you be weirded out that the person you’re dating let themselves into your house when you weren’t home? One of my friend says that she’d be creeped out by it but I think he’d appreciate it. What do you all think?

Updates

1 y

Hey to everyone who gave their opinions! I went with what seemed to be the consensus and just made my boyfriend his dinner at my place. Then I just went over his house once he texted me that he was on his way home.

He was really very touched by me bringing him dinner and it was really cute how happy he was. So we ate dinner and I told him my original idea. He said he wouldn’t have minded me letting myself in and said I should keep the key.

[Anonymous]

Let me be perfectly clear, I think this is a really, REALLY sweet gesture. And I do NOT think it's inherently problematic. But it CAN be seen as you overstepping boundaries.

If you guys had been seeing each other for many years, it'd probably be different. If I were you, I wouldn't do it. But I'd bring it up to him that it's something you wanted to do but you didn't want to overstep any boundaries. He'd appreciate the thought, open him up to the idea of you doing things like this, and likely chime in and offer you his perspective on it. Then, in the future, you can make a decision based on the discussion you two have.

[Jess_D]

I like your line of reasoning. So I’m going to do it this way. I’m going to make him dinner at my place then bring the food over to his once he lets me know he’s home from work. The. I can heat everything up for him while he’s in the shower. Then I’ll mention to him my original idea and see what he says about that.

[Opinion Owner]

That sounds wonderful!

[spartan55]

I think the spirit of your plan is great and it's definitely a lovely gesture. However, if it were me I would ask permission to enter his house without his knowledge. Why don't ask if you can wait for him at his house and say nothing about dinner THEN surprise him with the breakfast spread?

[spartan55]

@Jess_D
Awesome! Win/win!

[Valkyria]

Ask him, but if you want to keep it a secret, then at least remind him that you still have his keys. Maybe say you're giving him a surprise for all of his work. But absolutely tell him the context behind you suddenly being able to get in his house before he sees you.

[jennifer_bloom]

You could buy him dinner in a box and put it on his table and then text him to let him know about it. Somebody in your home for 5 minutes to do errands is different from somebody in your home for one hour using your stove and cooking without your permission.

[Jess_D]

You’re probably right. I’m going to make him dinner at my place and bring it to him once her lets me know he’s home. I just get overly excited about him and want to do this kind of stuff for him.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

It widely depends on your relationship. In reality, only you know if that would be acceptable.
If my current girlfriend were to do that, I'd be a little pissed off. Not creeped out

[Jess_D]

Ok. But can I ask why it would piss you off? Just because she entered your house without you knowing? I’m not trying to start an argument I’m genuinely interested in different reactions to the same situation. I already decided to make him dinner at my apartment then bring the food to his house once he’s home from work.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Well I've only been with her for a month and she's a bit of c**t, so yeah I'd be pissed at her for going into my house without permission.
But if it was my last girl, I'd be happy to see her and pleasantly surprised.
Which is why I say it depends on your relationship

[WanderingLoveWizard]

That's a better idea. Good luck

[Jess_D]

I’m so sorry! That sucks that she’s a see you next Tuesday but I did laugh out loud when I read that.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Lol.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

"See you next Tuesday" 😂😂

[Andres77]

I'd ask him if you could do a surprise for him so he's not totally caught off guard.
You don't want him to think you're an intruder in the middle of the night or any other time.
I'd love this as a surprise but I'd just like to know if you were going to be in my house.

[Sparkie460]

You might want to ask him if it was ok to go in his house first. Tell him you will have a surprise for him when he gets home. He might be upset if you did it without asking.

[MrCommodore]

It sounds like a nice gesture, it depends on his personality, he might feel its a bit full on at this early stage. But otherwise its thoughtful.

[RavVid]

I'd appreciate and he has trusted you with the key but I think you should give it back at this point. Let him decide if he wants you to keep it.

[RavVid]

I'm glad he appreciated your effort, and said you should keep the key. It seems you have a relationship. Congrats!

[noohair]

You were given the key for a specific purpose, I would caution you against this.

[Anonymous]

I hate breakfast food so I would be all "Yeah, thanks for the gas and diarrhea".

[Ms_Facesitter]

I tried that and he melted. Do it! :)

[Ms_Facesitter]

Melt complete! <3 thanks for the update!

[NostalgiaSenpi]

I think he'd appreciate that.

[dudeinohio]

I'd appreciate it

[TrillXHippy]

Nope

[In_Trance]

yup, do it