What would you do if the person you were dating had a dog, and you don't like dogs?

[laraWM]

I mean, when you start dating someone, and you like the person a lot, would you let it go?

[Kaneki05]

It's a dealbreaker maybe unless that dog is near death or is somehow alright with me. I've never met a dog who likes me, and I tend to just stay away from them, but with my friend she had a dog but it was always kept downstairs so I just didn't go downstairs except for when I came in or left limiting any interaction.

If the dog is shy and won't go near me that's alright. So guess it just depends how the dog acts, but I really don't like them going near me.

Cats, Racoons, Snakes, Spiders whatever else is totally okay by me.

[laraWM]

My dog could feel it, and didn't bother you if you were not comfortable

[Kaneki05]

Then that's a dog I don't mind, though I've had multiple times people tell me oh no don't worry my dog is nice with everyone or whatever else then when that dog meets me it just has another reaction I don't know why.
So it's for sure one of those I would have to assess the situation upon actually meeting the dog.

[laraWM]

Yes I know what you mean. Basically dogs are nice if they feel you like them and are comfortable with them. Otherwise it may stress them

[Kaneki05]

Plenty of people like dogs though so I am sure it would be easier just find someone who also likes dogs.

[laraWM]

Yes thanks

[DizzyDesii]

I like dogs but im afraid of them. My dude hasn't lived with pets in about 10 years but he's been considering getting a cat or dog. I’ll honestly just bounce if he goes through with it. He knows im deathly afraid and refuse to live with an indoor pet. The only compromise would be continuing to live separately which im fine with. But if i get pregnant, he wants me to move in and im not doing that if he gets a cat. Thankfully we at least agree that dogs should live outdoors. I can tolerate a dog but a cat is dang near a dealbreaker for me. This is why i usually date guys who dont have or dont want pets

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

You stop dating them, no dog deserves a person around who doesn’t like him and no dog owner would like to be around a person who doesn’t like his dog.

That’s a huge dealbreaker.

[rgii55447]

Same with cats I'd argue, whoever says cats are the definitive source of evil without even taking the time to get to know them is not worth my time to get to know.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I’ve never heard anyone say that about cats. That would be a dealbreaker too.

[OlderAndWiser]

Most likely solution is to not date that person.

Otherwise, have a talk early on about the fact that you don't like dogs and what if the relationship becomes more serious?

[laraWM]

Yes it makes sense if you like the person a lot

[AviatorTom]

I'm speaking hypothetically, because my SO and I have a dog... that we love dearly.

If I really liked the person I was dating, I would learn to at least tolerate her dog, and hopefully find something to like.

[PeachyPie93]

I don't like dogs too much, I would think it is fine because I don't hate having a well behaved dog around. I would not move in with the person though, because you always end up having to look after the dog if the partner isn't there. So you have to let them in and out all day and if they vomit, pee or poo in the house. I hate that stuff, its disgusting.

[laraWM]

Thank you, I always take care of my dog

[PeachyPie93]

Cool! Then I don't think it would be an issue to date someone, but if they Hate dogs it might not be a good thing for you or your dog.

[noemiii]

I don’t think it’s common for people to just not like dogs. I think most people do like dogs but don’t like the specific breeds. Like I love dogs but can’t stand chihuahuas. I know a lot of people who don’t like cats though.

Anyways, it’s stupid to base dating someone off of if they have a dog or not. It’s not like I’m going to be dating the dog too. Why would I care? It’s like if I hate snoring and my partner snores, which I do, hate snoring. I’m not going to leave them just for that simple fact. That’s stupid. Most people in the world like dogs.

On the other hand, those owners who are like “if Rover doesn’t like him I don’t like him” annoy me. My last roommate had a chihuahua that she said if the chihuahua didn’t like the guy she was dating, she didn’t like the guy either. Yeah, well needless to say she’s single.

[Ladyblanche]

Yeah hate these dog extremists. I hate dog owners. They are far worse than cat people

[bobalife]

Lol it’s not a deal breaker if it’s about pets. I’ll have to learn to accept and be friends with their pets or be cordial with the pet somehow lmao. But realistically I love animals. I’ll only be scare of snakes and such 😅 A relationship consist of something solid long-term, meaningful, and compatibility.

[laraWM]

Yes dogs are better than snakes 😂

[bobalife]

LOL I’d be like scurrr everytime I visit, but happy at the same time… tough love they said… tough love 😂😭

[RavenDarkheart]

I’m sorry, in my mind I’m trying to process how someone could not like dogs. But, to answer your question, you end the relationship before they get to serious about you (like someone else here said.) It’s not right to expect anyone to change for someone else. Besides, I promise that dog has proven (his / her) loyalty to the person, can a random date say that?

[Monalisa77]

I do but not the barking

[Ladyblanche]

I am trying to understand how some people think their dogs are equal to people and think they can

[Ladyblanche]

Do anything they want. Dog owners are creepy as well

[laraWM]

@ravendarkheart Thank you

[RavenDarkheart]

@Ladyblanche most people I know think of their dogs like their children. They can’t do “anything they want” but need guidance.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Anyone who doesn't like dogs might as well tell me up front so I can just not waste either of our times.

[Monalisa77]

I do but not the barking

[BoopBoopBeep]

@Monalisa77 Well dogs bark. My dog will bark at some point. You don't like that. The dog isn't going anywhere, so why waste our time going back and forth. Go find a man that doesn't like dogs or "barking" or whatever so you're actually compatible.

[Monalisa77]

I suffer with tinnitus and certain noises make it worse

And yes, i swiped left on all the men who had dogs lol

[BoopBoopBeep]

@Monalisa77 Okay, so you have a medically valid reason, but that doesn't change anything. My dog will at some point bark without warning. If we're together that's going to happen a lot on an infinite timeline. First you said you don't like dogs, then you changed it to you don't like barking. I have tinnitus from being blown up and too much shooting without ear protection. If your tinnitus is so bad that a barking dog is intolerable than you ought not be around them. Okay. That's cool. So let him know and go date someone else.

[Monalisa77]

I nevwr said i dont like dogs. I love cuddles, playing with them, taking them for walks with another person etc i just dont like the barking.

[Monalisa77]

. my t is so severe i only got 5 hrs sleep last night /today, im getting an mri scan to see y its so bad

[BoopBoopBeep]

@Monalisa77 It is literally the last three words of your original question.

[Monalisa77]

Not liking the barking doesn't mean I don't like them. We did use to have one, now my brother and sister has one. When my brother visits or we visit him I love doing stuff with the dog I just hate the barking.

[Monalisa77]

N when we did visit my sister i would have the dog on my lap, I am lucky they don't bark too much

[Monalisa77]

I can send u a pic of me cuddling my brothers dog if it bothers u lol

[BoopBoopBeep]

@Monalisa77 Probably want to rephrase "What would you do if the person you were dating had a dog, and you don't like dogs?" to "don't like barking" then.

I wish you luck with your MRI. I've had tinnitus for 15 years now. I know how obnoxious it can be.

[Monalisa77]

It wasn't my question

[BoopBoopBeep]

@Monalisa77 Oh crap! You're right! My apologies. THAT clears up the confusion 100% then

[laraWM]

Thank you, yes the question is for someone who doesn't like dogs. My dog can bark but only once in a while. Not all day or all night

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Only thing I'd hope is that it's a small dog and not a huge one. But they'd also have to be well behaved too. No jumping, excessive sniffing, etc. I'll never get to live with a future partner, so the dog is all theirs. lol But I don't like dogs that much to be honest, I'm more of a cat person.

[Ladyblanche]

Same hate when dogs jump and scratch you

[PBandJ_Nerd]

@Ladyblanche I also don't like face licking and stuff like that. I tend to like smaller dogs because then they're more like a cat. But we have some neighbors with well behaved big dogs that always want me to pet them. Lol

[JacobJordan]

Lol hell no. If I had a dog I am keeping the dog. She can either learn to accept it and like it or get to stepping. No woman is more important than a personally chosen loyal and loving dog. Why do you think the ultimatum "its me or the dog" always ends with the woman being told to kick rocks? Lot easier to find a new woman than to give up a companion of x time. Plus the dog will be the best companion until the day it dies

[Monalisa77]

Tell them before dating

[JacobJordan]

@Monalisa77 if it comes up sure. Thing is people that own dogs are very obvious about it so not knowing someone has a dog is highly unlikely.

[Monalisa77]

Really, a gyy i liied had a dog and nevwr brought it up, wasn't till looking at his sm i found out he had 1

[JacobJordan]

@Monalisa77 yeah people like that exist. Private life is private. Some people take that seriously. Here is the thing if you don't like dogs it is your responsibility to bring it up not the person you are planning to date. Same reason why if you have an allergy it isn't the restaurants job to ask if you have one. It is your responsibility as the person with the allergy to inform the place you are planning to eat at you have an allergy.

[Monalisa77]

Yeah, thats why it didn't work out cos i didn't check if he smoked lol but im. Not aure y i never thought of the dog thing, i guess i just instantly liked him i mightve put it aside lol

[JacobJordan]

@Monalisa77 ouch yeah smoking was a deal breaker for me as well. I had a list of questions I brought up over casual conversation before even going for a date. Whether she smoked, drank, did drugs, partied, her favorite style of dress, etc which gave me all the answers as to any deal breakers I had. My wife didn't hit any of them and so I asked her out and that as they say was that

[Monalisa77]

Yeh he didn't smoke i just got wound up i didn't check lol but the latest guy i talked to on an app did i was well peeved off lol

[HelpfulWoman]

i mean, when you date people, you should have found out beforehand? frankly the two people involved sound like dumbasses if they get to the dating stage and basic pet ownership hasn't been mentioned

[laraWM]

Yes that's what I mean, early dating

[sheikalana]

'm not the biggest fan of dogs but I once dated a guy who had two dogs and it didn't bother me that much. The dogs were not annoying at all I just hate when dogs are too hyper and start jumping around you begging for attention and start licking you.

[Ladyblanche]

Omg hate it too

[shortster]

I would tell them that I am allergic and it won't work out if they keep the dog. I usually bring it up by the first date; so as not to have created too deep an emotional connection.

[laraWM]

It makes sense, thanks

[shortster]

You're welcome

[wiltingrosepetal]

I've never been a huge fan of dogs but it's not like I'd make him get rid of it 😭 we'd just learn to coexist

[laraWM]

Good, you're nice

[Jessikaah91]

My ex didn't like my animals, I had 2 dogs, 2 cats. And I honestly didn't care. They came first before him lol we didn't even live together so if he told me to chose I'd be like byeee 👋

[laraWM]

Of course they were with you before him

[Jessikaah91]

Exactly but I also had a child before I got with him too from a previous relationship which he knew about before we got together and literally wanted me to get "rid" of her too. I got rid of him!

[laraWM]

What? He was so disrespectful

[Jessikaah91]

Very abusive to me too. Would tell me if never find anyone else, constantly call me fat, call me names well I found someone else who I've been with for 3 years who I've got a family with who treats me with respect, so getting rid of him was the best decision I ever made.

[loveslongnails]

I think that would depend a lot on how much you're really interested in the person. If you're truly wanting a relationship with that person, I'd like to think you can learn to like the dog enough because you want that person in your life.

[laraWM]

Thank you

[loveslongnails]

Are you the one with the dog? :)

[Anonymous]

Ummm I don’t hate dogs but I was bitten by one back in my childhood days and after that I’ve been having fears of dogs so if my potential date had a dog we might have a problem unless the dog is never around me and has its own space than I might be okay but it’s running around me I might have a problem!!!

[laraWM]

It makes sense

[Massageman]

But I DO like dogs - - - - - -

I simply can't imagine someone nice person not liking a nice dog.

[Monalisa77]

I do but not the barking

[laraWM]

I asked the question some time ago, and I got a lot of answers why people wouldn't like dog

[Simslover92]

I'm so glad my boyfriend doesn't have a dog because I'm not a big fan of them and he knows it.

Ofc I wouldn't stop dating him if he up and decided to get a dog one day or if he already had a dog but luckily I don't think he ever will get one.

[EmmaMary]

I quite simply wouldn't be dating him in the first place.

[LadyKitty]

I like animals but if you are not a an animal person you will need to learn either to accept the dog or leave because pets to people are like family.

[robhazelnut]

Stopping dating them seems reasonable, unless they simply have a fear of dogs that they want to overcome. (For those who are inclined to guess, I find dogs great).