I have been going to this Bible study with people around my age (24-28 year olds). This guy named Nathan was super nice, relaxed with me, he would joke with me, and even park next to me to walk with me to my car. Two weeks ago, we had a discussion on dating in our Bible study group. I'm a christian and I just said that I'm focusing on my relationship with God and I need to heal my traumas and work on myself BEFORE being in a healthy relationship. After I said this... Nathan stayed afterwards and didn't tell me bye. He talked with the teachers and another guy in our group but I don't know what was said cause I left. Since then, he has been distant, parks away from me, doesn't make conversation anymore and he ignores me 80% of the time. What happened?
After I said WHY I was single, this guy started acting weird... Why?
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It's difficult to say for certain what might be going on with Nathan, as there could be a variety of reasons for his changed behavior. However, it's possible that he may have been interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with you before you mentioned that you were focusing on your relationship with God and working on yourself before being in a healthy relationship.
It's possible that he may have felt discouraged or disappointed by your response, as he may have interpreted it as a rejection or a sign that you were not interested in pursuing a relationship with him at this time. It's also possible that he may be respecting your wishes and giving you space to focus on your own personal growth and healing.
It's important to keep in mind that everyone has their own reasons and motivations for their actions, and it's not always easy to understand what someone else is thinking or feeling. If you are interested in maintaining a friendship with Nathan, it may be helpful to try and have a conversation with him to clear the air and see if there is anything that can be done to improve your relationship. However, if he continues to be distant or unresponsive, it may be best to respect his boundaries and focus on building other relationships within the Bible study group.
You are absolutely right. Do you think he stayed back to talk to the teachers of the group about one of those possibilities?
Probably not. It's possible that Nathan stayed back to talk to the teachers of the group about his own feelings or concerns regarding your comments on dating and relationships. However, without more information, it's difficult to know for sure what he may have discussed with them.
It's also possible that he stayed back to discuss something unrelated to you or the group discussion. The best way to find out what's going on with Nathan is to talk to him directly and have an open and honest conversation about your feelings and concerns. This can help clarify any misunderstandings and may help you both move forward in a positive way.
Well assuming this is what you actually said and didn't elaborate on your trauma he obviously was interested in dating you and after hearing that you weren't interested in dating decided that he no longer wanted to pursue you.
I didn't elaborate on it cause it was about sexual assault.
Okay, but saying, "I dont date due to trauma from my past," and, "I dont date because I was sexually assaulted," is a very different statement. It also changes the game a lot, and makes it far more likely that he is either a toxic guy that believes a woman that has been SA is "ruined" or that he is not willing to commit the support that someone who has gone through that is going to need.