As a girl, I’ve had no luck using dating apps. Are they a waste of time?

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Is it true that they’re a waste of time?

DamianTheSmikkelbeer · Accepted Answer

In some cases you can actually find someone who’s decent, caring and compassionate. It will take time and effort though, most of the people on these kinda apps just want to screw and pass it on. I think it does depend on the app, tinder & hinge are a no-go i would say for the most part. I myself prefer doing it in person, but that shits a tough cracker aswell because women tend to bring friends with and everytime you throw yourself in the ring it truly feels as if you’re in a detecting-machine that can go off anytime. Don’t wanna admit i’m even a little worried about women, but everytime there’s a woman i’m attracted to i’m terrified and especially because of their friends becsuse i could look hot loving & caring in her eyes but if her friends think i’m the exact opposite and they decide to tell her i’m probably going to be friendzoned or worst. Admittedly a woman worth my time would make her own decisions and keep it at that, but women rely on their friends a 1000 x more then we do and it can influence something big like this. A man will follow his dick and dick only, but most women who are at least over the age of 16 - 18 will seek the approval and validation of their friends and will use that as a way to avoid the bad type of partners. (Was just a little saying, but there’s definitely a truth to it)

Sharkstealth · Accepted Answer

Get a gym membership. It's a great way to battle depression and live a healthy lifestyle. Get as far away from possible from anything online. The people there are only there to bask in their own self glory. The internet only feeds my depression. I'm done with this even soon.

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

Use Meetups. You get to meet a wide variety of people who enjoy doing the same things: sailing, gardening, day trips, softball, volleyball, etc...

You'll meet lots of people who'll qualify as friends and friends intro friends to others they'd go well with.

Join groups with goals you're interested in. Could be community groups, political groups, social and aid organizations, Carnival krewes (I'm a New Orleanian... it's just an example), master naturalists, wildlife enthusiasts, birdwatchers, bookclubs, bridge clubs, frisbee golf players... There are SO MANY ways to meet people other than online, faceless, verbal only encounters. I'd exhaust all THOSE options to meet people in person from the get-go and avoid time-wasters that avoid meeting people right away.

What's the reason to NOT meet people right off the bat? In-person encounters reveal far more about people than words alone. In fact, studies reveal that only 7 percent of a person's personality and their truth is revealed via words, texts, emails.

It's how people ACT and BEHAVE in person that tells you the 93 percent of what you need to know so you can decide whether they are friend or other material. Good luck.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

Nobody needs a dating app. Anyone can walk out the door and meet someone today with some motivation and the right attitude.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Do the research online.

"Partnered adults who are under 30 or who are LGB stand out from other groups when looking at this measure of online dating “success”: One-in-five partnered adults under 30 say they met their current spouse or partner on a dating site or app, as do about a quarter of partnered LGB adults (24%)."

https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2023/02/02/key-findings-about-online-dating-in-the-u-s/#:~:text=Online%20dating%20is%20more%20common,of%20those%2065%20and%20older.

Maybe you are using the wrong site or using the wrong approach. Have you read any advice sites on how to use online dating? Hint: it is NOT just like meeting people IRL!

Summeroflove · Answer

Not my thing either. You really don’t know who you’re talking to. So it’s better to just meet people or let crushes develop naturally.

I get it some people have a hard time they don’t really see or interact with a lot of people on a regular basis. But it’s never been for me

Avicenna · Answer

A woman your age should have no trouble at all meeting a guy IRL

Finchie40 · Answer

I guess it depends on which dating apps you are using, cuz most of them are bullshit with a lot of cat fishers and fakes , so if you are smart about it you can actually meet someone that is genuine over someone that’s talking out their ass to you , My thing is I won’t meet anyone off the internet unless they prove to me they are legit , If someone has a hard time proving they are legit then they are just a waste of time and I will delete them , So it’s best to not fall for stupid shit , Most girls I matched with on Tinder were all fakes or prostitutes try to get money from me , i just delete them ,

Lynx122 · Answer

I don't like dating apps but I don't know how it is for women. I've met many people online without using a dating app just go into groups about things that interest you and you will find similar people. And I like how on the internet it's just about exchanging thoughts and to me that's a more pure form of connection in a way. Even if it doesn't lead anywhere romantically I've connected with people on a deeper level online had more interesting discussions and opened up more than irl. Of course most of the people you meet are far away but to me that's not something that. I met a woman from India and she's planning on coming to Germany so it might actually work out. I like her but I'll make up my mind more when we actually meet this winter. I have really enjoyed our time together so far though :)

Curmudgeon · Answer

I am genuinely surprised that as a GIRL you state this. Doesn't your inbox get bombarded with attention? Now for many of us guys, on the other hand...

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

They can work, but there are a lot of bad men out there. You just need to be persistent and look over those. But don't use dating apps as your only way of dating either. I think that if you're taking this seriously, you try everything and keep trying and weeding out all the creeps until you find a good guy. Because they also use these methods.

Siri137 · Answer

Ditch the phones, "apps" and all that other junk, and just go outside into the real world and meet real people instead. Online anyone can pretend to be whomever they want to be, and that's the problem; you have no idea until you actually meet that person who you're really dealing with.

Adam1978 · Answer

Women has certainly a better chance on them than men, all they need is some traditional values to filter out the hookup guys. Keeping your weight in check and not be the ugly 20% of women and have realistic expectations and you are basically guaranteed to find a guy. It might take a while.

Adaeva · Answer

They probably work often enough to be of some value, especially for older women.

Teenage girls don't need them because we meet guys all the time. If I want to, almost any day of the week, I can meet a new guy. If I see an attractive guy, all I have to do is smile and say "Hello" or ask some question. About half the time, that is all it takes.

Kiss_Me · Answer

Dating apps are mainly used to hook up. Just ensure you are more "approachable" and accept the date request that comes your way. DO NOT become a serial monogamist. The idea is to date to see who you may want as a boyfriend, not to consider a date as the start of a relationship. The latter is what Teenie-boppers think and it's faulted on many, many levels.
Also, don't be afraid to ask out a few guys. You may be surprised how many say, "yes."

stepyo99 · Answer

It depends. I've known several couples who have successfully used dating apps to meetup and get married. I would say the best thing to do is continue to use dating apps while also putting yourself out there IRL to date. Then you're casting the widest possible net for potential partners.

Of course, casting a wide net also means getting a lot of responses from people you aren't interested in so don't get too discouraged.

Anonymous · Answer

They work if you keep you expectations very low and put in consistent effort. Problems is most people look at it as a a McDonald's drive through. That is the amount of effort they want to put in. And they think they have a right to order whatever on the menu. And that is why most people fail.

EmmaMary · Answer

Not that I've ever needed to use one, they do however look like a complete and utter waste of time.

aquamarine321 · Answer

They work for some and they don’t work for some, it all depends on who you’re advertising to, plus we always post not a fully true picture of who we really are , meaning everyone post the good qualities of our lives, but it’s the bad qualities that we live with while there’s persons who cat fish and trolls, but the best option is to meet someone in person than online, even though it may work for some but not for all

OfMiceandMen · Answer

It's not something I was ever into. My buddy was on a couple, and all he did was complain about how nobody's real/true to their profile.

SirJohn42 · Answer

I personally think its a waste of time.
I hear bumble and e harmony afe good.
To many fake people. Im not just looking for hookups or getting laid.

Hard to find real women. To many hackers pretending to love you.

Anonymous · Answer

Personally, they are a waste of time. I did meet an ex from there, it was okay but i wouldn't ever take a relationship seriously again from a dating app. I think it works for some people though (relationship wise and not just hooking up), but if you’ve had no luck then maybe its not for you as well. Which is good, i think dating apps are overhyped.

cth96190 · Answer

Most males will say that dating apps are a waste of time.
In my experience, most of the female profiles were fakes created by African scammers.
Of the genuine profiles, most of the women were hyper picky, or insane, or both.

BlissfullyCurSed · Answer

Luckily, I am a below-average looking guy, do I don't really need to deal with that kind of stuff. I know I'll get ghosted anyway. I don't need to make an effort.

itsalyssaagain · Answer

They work sometimes but rarely. I deleted all mine because I eventually got sick of it. A lot of men think it’s a green ticket to disrespect you, say uncomfortable things they wouldn’t say in real life or ghost you.

LiamJHayden · Answer

They seem to work for some. For me they were a dumpster fire. I do so much better in person. Thankfully I'm not shy.

Poliker · Answer

I chose that they do work because I think that they do work. I have never used one though so take this opinion with a grain of salt XP

Jazzy54 · Answer

Not necessarily. After you filter out the weirdos, there are good guys on there. On the other hand, dating apps may not be your thing and that’s okay! 😊

RingOfFire · Answer

Much better to meet people IRL. Online relationships aren't real. You cannot really know someone until you have spent time with them in person. So why waste time online instead of using that time to meet someone IRL?

Poppymarie · Answer

Not a waste of time! I met my fiancé on tinder and my uncle met his wife on match!

Anonymous · Answer

oh god please delete them all. so much toxicity, dangerous, and only based off of looks.

Anonymous · Answer

Exactly. People are so manipulative, liars and fake on these apps. You should delete it.

boggboss · Answer

They are mostly used for hooking up I used them as a idea to learn how to talk to women as a whole

spartan55 · Answer

Why anyone your age would ever need to use a dating app is just mind boggling

jshm2 · Answer

You're probably shit at taking photo's or have a poor bio.

Reorx · Answer

I'd say they're not only a waste of time but also setting yourself up for the socially awkward. Make friends, expand your social circles & meet people this way.

humanearth · Answer

I never used one, I always did it the old fashion way. In person

cth2188 · Answer

I domt online date and stopped online dating together the next man I meet will have to be in person

Leme2 · Answer

Why have you had "no luck using them"? Are you not getting any matches?

Anonymous · Answer

Dating apps never worked for me. It's just hook up platform for the people in USA and Europe

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

Well guys aren’t approaching any more so if you’re gonna go out you’re gonna need to put in a little more effort

Ryfyle · Answer

It's a fantastic way to drive your self to suicide as a male.

Anonymous · Answer

Delete it. Take it from me 7 years single. Off n on those stupid waste of a time and self esteem killer hookup apps. Not a dating app.

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes, most of them are a waste of time guys wanting sex women gold digging bad combination

Exterminatore · Answer

Maybe. Or maybe the guys on the dating apps think you’re a waste of time.

Anonymous · Answer

What are you looking for that you can't find among all the men who messaged you?

LibertyOrNothing · Answer

I know many people that are married and met online. This is anecdotal. Maybe I know the only 5 or 6 couples in the world that it worked for. Or... It works.

dudeinohio · Answer

I've had success. It just take a patience and persistence.

PointTaken · Answer

I have no luck on there also. Yet it sucks since I'm paying a lot for them.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Can you elaborate? Tell us a little more about your experience.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

People on those sites are just looking to have sex. Nothing serious.

dvc0006 · Answer

Depends , are you looking for a relationship with chad? even then it usually works for girls

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

They were, but like 10 years ago.. It's turned into just hookup type shit.

Grubhub · Answer

Me no luck either, it’s better to meet people in person. Better variety of people for partners

OG956 · Answer

I think, that it's better and safer to use reddit and discord

Greenbins · Answer

I guess it depends on what you are looking for

McGrill · Answer

I dont think so depends on what you're looking for.

Anonymous · Answer

For the most part, dating apps are used as hookup apps. Just sayin.

riverrat3 · Answer

what are you looking for and which apps have you tried

__JustJacky__ · Answer

pretty much.  especially when Ur social skills Flat Out SUCK

snowboarder720 · Answer

I met my fiancé in a dating app 🍻

shortster · Answer

For the most part they are.

Gabriel-Chicanito · Answer

Some'uh'em r "frauds".

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