How does a guy find a girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

I’ve always felt so lost when it comes to romance. Like where am I even supposed to go to find a women who is looking for a partner? If I do get a women to date me how am I supposed to go about asking her if she wants to have sex? It all makes no sense to me. I don’t understand how romantic or sexual relationships even start. I don’t even know where to begin. Am I just expected to ask random women out until one of them says yes?

[andreasderjuengere]

It's a multiple step thing:

- To begin with, you need to leave your couch.

- Once you're in the open you hang around at places where 'they' flock

(shoe shops, handbag shops, hairdressers, and such);

- if you discover one that catches your interest, you need to avoid certain 'signals'

(owning a fuckup truck, getting drunk, start a brawl, and such); from GaG I also know that waving a green flag is helpful. Stay away from anything red;

- now comes the hard part: to my understanding, modern mating rituals require to ''get her number''; it may be useful to also know her name? To obtain these, avoid unnecessary violence;

- if by now she did not call the police, you're well under way. Be cautious to approach the Karen-type...

- to not look desperate, it's now better to repeatedly 'meet' her ''accidentally'' at locations where she feels safe (see above); after a while she may get used to your presence. Do NOT buy girl shoes or handbags, though. Act natural.

- at some stage it can not longer be avoided to begin a conversation. And that one better is NOT about your own interests; do NOT mention sex (no matter how big your erection is). Dropping one or two compliments will be appreciated (limit these to not more than three)

- if she did not knock you down yet (or showed other signs of disinterest/hostility) you can step up by inviting to an innocent sitting together which gives opportunity for a -kind of- private and personal interaction.

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It's better to not do all this within one single day.

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- forget about dating sites, Amazon, or Lazada.

[RespectfulGuy]

While not encouraging materialism, but let's be pracmatic.

While not all girls are gold diggers, they do want a guy who is financially secure. Hence have your 3Cs - - Cash, Car and Condo. It attracts grils.

And let's be honest. Inner beauty always outshined by physical charm. Hence If you lacks model-like charm, save up to get model-like outfits and makeovers.

And to form lasting relationship, the keyword is always communication. Hence If you're not that orator a person, go attend a "Social Communication" kind of class. Learn how to sweet talk and kiss ass 😂

Really, flirting has a lot to do with winsome speeches that build on vanities.

Finally, finding a girl means get your ass of the screens and go to places where girls flock. After you acquired the above, visit churches and charity institutions and yes, where you learned social speeches and skills. Those girls also looking for guys.

Hope the above helps.

[Molly1997]

My boyfriend found me on POF. We were in love before we met, so sex was easy

[Guardian45]

HA! PoF got better? Last I was on it, like 10+ years, it had become a cesspool!

[Molly1997]

@Guardian45 I heard it’s even worse now. I was on it about 8 years ago, and yeah I remember getting hundreds of messages

[sheikalana]

Either go out and put yourself out there or using dating apps.

[clampfan101]

To my understanding;
Find a casual girl friend (s) and find out if you want to date her/one of them. Worst case scenario you end up with another casual friend or two, right?

[zagor]

Try online dating if you have trouble figuring out RL. Just look out for scammers.

[Asker]

I've tried that, the few girls I match with either don’t message me back or stop messaging me back after a few messages.

[zagor]

Yeah that has been my experience too. Have you tried speed dating? I think they still do that.

[Asker]

I read about it online and I heard most of the women go there as a joke. I honestly have no idea where guys find girlfriends. Like do they just ask a bunch if women out until one of them says yes. Or is there just a type of guy that never gets turned down.

[zagor]

Do you have a job? Go to school? Have interactions with people? One good way I found to meet people, kind of a prerequisite to having a girlfriend in the pre-Tinder days, was going to Meetup groups for activities I was interested in.

[Guardian45]

NO CLUE! If you find out let me know!

[Anonymous]

Hey.. Do u live in the states?

[shades777]

on craigslist