Are you setting yourself up for failure if you date emotionally damaged girls or girls who brag about coming from a broken family?

[Anonymous]

Like basically the relationship turned into a disaster because there are thing’s about herself that she refuses to acknowledge such as it’s not normal for a 23 year old to have temper tantrums, it’s not normal to stonewall in conversations.

[kylee2437]

I mean who isn’t emotionally damaged and who doesn’t have family issues? Lol we all have them, sometimes people are more open about them than others. I personally wouldn’t look at the openness as a turn off but I’d look at the behaviors that come with it as a turn off depending. If she uses it as an excuse to act shitty and be emotionally immature, than that’s definitely setting yourself up for a bad relationship but if a woman explains this stuff to you and considerably shows how she’s problem solving in her life and such, I think it’s okay

[Asker]

She has lol her whole family does the go to excuse I come from family trauma

[smashleyy]

if she has no interest in healing the damaged parts of herself than yeah you’re probably setting yourself up for failure

[Asker]

Yeah she tried to claim she was resilient but she’s clearly not ok, she’s even dealing with the after effects of a previous relationship where the guy sexually abused her and instead of holding him accountable and calling him a predator for which he is she’s friends with him on Facebook

[DextroShade]

Those girls are recreational use only, don't get into relationships with them.