Why do guys assume single = I’m available to you?

[Anonymous]

[PizzaDaddyo]

In the future, very cliché.. You now will mention your boyfriend... *Jedi wave 👋
Just make one up when in doubt, or, at least say you’re talking to somebody. He should respect it. If he’s still lingering you gotta suppress him. Lol kill mode. Like if he asks who it is tell him, “not you.”


Answer: He’s just a fool. A fool in love with a you. He loved you since the day he met you, or he’s just horny af. Blame the internet that tells dudes if a girl mentions she single she’s single she likes them.

[htmndg183]

I think the hint is in the question only. The word assume. For eg assuming you are single, then another assumption is that a single person must want to be with someone. Even though one might be perfectly ok with not being with someone.

[Asker]

Oh sh*t! A guy that gets it!

[Cynicaldreamer]

It's called "taking a chance." How would you feel if a guy that you were attracted to didn't approach you, after he found out you were single?

While I see what you're point is- you don't want every guy approaching you, single or not, because it's tiresome and you're not attracted to them. However- it's a compliment to an extent- it means they think you're attractive enough to ask out. Just politely tell them you're not interested in a relationship, or you're not looking to date right now.

[Asker]

I’m a pretty blunt woman. I’ll let you know if I’m interested. I get approached all the time, without nuance.

[nitsuj86]

Oh, this woman is blunt and will tell someone she likes them. Well most women don't, so men assume that's not gonna happen. Get over it, or put on a fake ring.

[provokeesmokee]

Because most men are dumb and think every woman owes them sex.

Ignore, troll, and reject them.

Eventually in their 40s, they'll get therapy and realize no one owes them shit.

[AaronH03]

Could not agree more! Men my age, a little older and a little younger act like the most entitled people on the planet. I’m a guy and it’s embarrassing and pathetic. I can’t stand and can only imagine how annoying women must feel with it, not to mention when some guys get aggressive

[AviatorTom]

That's what SINGLE means.. that you are available to be approached.

[OlderAndWiser]

That thought would NEVER enter my mind.

[pepper1993]

I mean to be fair, that's sorta what they're supposed to do.. I mean I also act like a total bitch sometimes when a guy comes up to me, but I get that he's just doing what he needs to do to find a girl. Just be polite, and take it as a compliment, and go about your day. Now this is assuming the guy is respectful and all that blah blah.

[Billlewis]

Oh my goodness... 'I mean I also act like a total bitch sometimes when a guy comes up to me'. You are absolutely magnificent, Goddess..

[qwert1234]

Unless you are carrying a placard or wearing a shirt that says "Single, but NOT ready to mingle" - usually single means available.

But it is different if you say you are not interested, and the dude still continues to pester you.

[Nikki1989]

Most guys if they have any confidence at all like to shoot their shot even when they have no chance at all.

[Vegasrunner]

@Nikki1989 Yes, women are simply a numbers game. The phrase used to be get your shots up, meaning talk to as many as possible in today's clown world its been changed to shoot your shot to make each individual women feel as if she's special.

[NamerOfStars]

They don't. If they did, they'd simply TAKE you. They assume it means "available, and possibly to me", and the only way to find out is by asking. How else would they know?

[Anonymous]

to be honest, look at how you're showing yourself on here. take a look at your profile pic. your profile header... even look at your name. no one to really blame but yourself there.

[BoobSlayer]

Probably because your milk monsters are in his face.

[Simslover92]

That's not every guy. Some guys may think that but it's certainly not all of them.

[CaptainSmartass]

Because that's what people are told to believe. It doesn't mean that its true that single = available, but its what people take it as.

Simples...

[e232bm]

Guys assume everyone is available to them. You always need to have your boundaries up.

[DermalPunch]

It's called shooting their shot. Some women never get approached.

[LiamJHayden]

Because we do not know if you are unless we ask. Finding out you are single at least makes it possible.

[Blueeyes81]

How else is a person to find out if its mutual? You shoot your shot instead of living with regret.

[mommymommymommy]

Cause single women tend to get a little how shall i say, aggressive

[Iron_Man]

I don’t know maybe they don’t see a ring on your finger

[Anonymous]

If it makes you feel better I wouldn’t assume you were available, nor would I approach you.

[FemaleBellyLover]

Because to be single means to be available for a relationship but it may be that the guy is not looking for someone to date at the moment.

[razelove]

Because of body positivity campaigns.

[RavVid]

There is a possibility of that.

[MementoMori777]

Force of habit i guess lol

[Wise4myage]

What else are we suppose to think?

[Asker]

Maybe think “oh a person to get to know without having an agenda”

[Wise4myage]

True, but its important to find out if a girl is single so we aren't wasting our time.

[Asker]

So getting to know a girl is a waste of time if you can’t date her?

[Wise4myage]

No, thats how we find out if a girl is single or not.

[Asker]

And if she’s single and not into you?

[Wise4myage]

Then I move on to other girls.

[Asker]

So the only reason to engage in conversation with a girl is to date her?

[Wise4myage]

Yes, and friendship too.

[Asker]

but you just said you'd be wasting your time if she wasn't single/available?

[SolitarySolace]

Because… that’s what being single means?… 🤣

[Anonymous]

They don't. Keep dreaming,

[baseball_del_tuono]

Because it means your available

[shades777]

single means single.