Which one do you agree with and why?
Unattractive people can’t find love and have low confidence due to being treated poorly and insulted regularly. Attractive people have to put in some effort in order to get sex or love but it isn’t much and their behaviors actions and words no matter how rude and hateful are overlooked simply for their captivating good looks.
Yep, less attractive people can’t find love on dating sites as much either.
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Good looks don’t make it easier to find a suitable partner, it just means you get more dates and hookups.
The experience of finding love can vary greatly from person to person, and it's important to remember that attractiveness is subjective and can mean different things to different people. While physical appearance can play a role in initial attraction, it doesn't determine one's ability to find love or the effort they need to put into it.
It is a misconception to assume that good-looking people don't exert any effort to find love. Regardless of physical attractiveness, forming meaningful connections and building relationships often requires active participation, communication, and compatibility. People of all appearances may face challenges and have to put in effort to find love.
Factors such as personality, shared values, interests, and emotional connection also play significant roles in finding a fulfilling and lasting relationship. Each person has their own unique qualities and attributes that can contribute to their attractiveness and compatibility with potential partners.
It's important to focus on self-confidence, personal growth, and being authentic rather than solely relying on physical appearance. Ultimately, finding love involves a combination of factors, and everyone's journey is different.
Gotta be easier to find love as an unattractive person. Most people are in the average category. Average might as well = unattractive these days.
But there's lots of people ready to settle.
It's harder to find love when you're attractive. People aren't looking for love. They're looking for the most attractive person they can get.
They're willing to lie and pretend and be fake in order to get what they want. Their own happiness depends on the attractiveness of their SO.
I think a lot of people are like that. They'd do anything to be with someone attractive.
I guess you stay that way until you realize hot people ain't shit and can be batshit crazy. Once you see that you look for more than just looks.
It really comes down to their personalities.
I would much rather be with someone that does not have a toxic personality, and for some reason many of the "good" looking people seem to have that.
Looks fade over time.
I have seen plenty of cases that someone that looks good now doesn't look so great when they get in their 30s or older. Especially depending on their lifestyle.
You actually have to like the person that you are with.
That to me is way more important than I'm so pretty.
I wouldn’t say it’s hard but it can be a little challenging sometimes. I have a big crush on this one guy that I hope works out. I do need to text him about a test so I gotta study and then text him by today! But it can be a little hard as the ones that you find attractive can either be in a relationship or are playing a little hard to get. People can sometimes throw themselves to the more attractive people. I have a couple friends that have told me they like me several times and I’m not trying to be mean or anything but I think of them as brothers. And my other friends that know both of us flat out say to me that it wouldn’t work out. Everyone deserves happiness and eventually it will all work out! I’m hoping on my crush but all I gotta say is fingers crossed!
Depends on you definition of love. Pretty girls and handsome boys find easily some bed companions. But in love in terms of respect, trust, loyalty and affectionate intimacy, look doesn't really matter. What matter is their first partner. In every successful relationships in my family couples started to see each other with age 14-18. People are idealistic in this age so their emotional bond can deepen if one of them doesn't turn in pile of sh... Of course I have cold wine aunts who were 8+/10 in their 20ties, married and divorced 5 times and now with 50 no guy will even touch them with a 2m long pole. Love is complicated and good look doesn't give any guaranty for life long happiness.
Both have to work just as hard to sustain a relationship that will result in love. Where the differences come in is, let's say the people available for you to have a relationship with are all expressed by filling a pool with water.
Someone attractive will have a much larger volume in their pool compared to someone unfortunate looking. Though really it doesn't matter for the overwhelming majority of people as we're average looking (hence being the majority).
Anyway, if someone average has one bucket of water, someone unattractive may have 1/5 or 1/10, while someone very attractive has access to 50-100. At no point would there be a qualitative change though. From ugliest to prettiest, if you find the structure that makes you happy... say wife and kids, poly, whatever, then you win the game regardless.
If you don't, then that aspect of your life is unfulfilled regardless of how many potential partners you can or can't have.
I have seen some good looking people not even have to work to find anyone. I had this female friend once and she could snag a guy just by walking out of the house. She had 5 boyfriends a week on average, cheated on all of them, and had sex with all of them.
If I go out somewhere, I couldn't even get a girl to notice me. And I had this one guy friend who never had a girlfriend at all. Speaking from personal experience though, yeah, some people have to work for it.
That's how so many people end up with cheaters and in abusive relationships too. I guess with a narcissist, it would be hard to tell though, since they can fool anyone!
Almost every girl I dated, I had to have something to offer her. Money, sex, my car this one time. I The ones I didn't were rare. I think true love is just something people make up so people can reassure themselves, but that's just my opinion.
It depends what you classify as "love".
Less attractive people have to work harder. They MIGHT even have to work a bit harder once in a relationship (i don't have enough data here to say for certain). But once in a relationships you're judged either on your merits or the other person's set of standards. This is why I say dating older is difficult. It's because women judge a guy by every relationship mistake she's ever made. This isn't fair to the guy but it is a reality. This is why it's very important to properly vet the person you're with before getting to involved. Determine whether she considers you Mr. Right. Or whether you're just her Mr. Right now. If it's the latter then just move on.
Im almost 40... and i have to say i dont care as much about women appearance as much as before. I have seen really beautiful women but they are so toxic that my female friends have told me thank god you two broke up because otherwise i would have ended in mental hospital.
So to me most important is how we click. Does she understand what i say, do we have similar world view, does she listen (if we have issues then she wanna sort it out and won't run away and pretend nothing happened) I want someone who is my sun and my peace :)
it depends because beauty is in the eye of the beholder and it depends on the environment and it depends on the woman your dating
I dated women that would be consider average but definitely fuckable to me because of the combination of things she brought to the table
I've also dated women who many men would consider highly attractive where men go out their way to do stuff for and personally I don't enjoy men trying to overstep my duties with my women, thats not usually something i deal with with average women.
My ex was just too damn fine, to be fair i was hella handsome when we dated, 6 pack muscles, she felt the same about me.
I think overweight men have a harder time than overweight women because a thirsty man will still sleep with a fat woman but women don't operate that way
C, obviously.
I've met maaaany beautiful and smart women who have an extremely hard time finding a boyfriend.
Just to contrast that point - I've met plenty more women whoa re average in most or all venues of life, including looks, but have husbands and are very happy.
So, looks don't matter, what matters is luck, I'd say, first and foremost, and then everything else comes second.
My brother, dad and mom - all three are very good looking. I don’t think their lives have been any easier than other’s.
If anything, I can tell - mine has been easier, because I was always feeling like the least attractive member of my family, so I always tried to overcompensate with hard-working and intelligence, which in the end makes my life easier.
Finding love - is a choice.
Anyone can find love - If they choose to do so.
😋... I voted: I believe in something else, is what I voted.
I think that people, like others and other sources have stated online, that people of similar appearance usually match up.
No wonder people often look similar, even if allowing for female and male look differences, it may not seem the exact same (different eye colours, different hair colours).
But similar, oh darn similar alright 💞💞👍👀
Love doesn't involve looks *that* much. People grow older, people grow familiar, hairs turn grey, wrinkles form. Hook-ups, definitely. The most attractive people in the world probably get the laid the most, especially men, but doesn't mean they find love any easier than the rest of us.
Ugly folk may need to work a little harder, but that doesn't mean it's a walk in the park for "fortunate" looking people. There are beautiful men and women who are just as lonely as anyone else, and if you think otherwise you're fooling yourself.
The reasons might be different, but it's not like perfect partners are just falling into their lap. That's ridiculous
Pretty people might have an easier time attracting others, but beauty has little to do with personality and the human qualities of a person. So, attraction and long-term relationships can be mutually exclusive.
Looks are only one aspect. If there's nothing beneath the pretty exterior, people can leave just as easily.
Love is different than infatuation. If you’re pretty, you can find a lot of people who will be infatuated with you or just want to sleep with you. But real love is different. It’s just as hard for a pretty person to find that as it is for anyone else.
It depends. A person can have amazing genetics, but if they don’t take care of themselves, they’ll most likely not look good after a certain age. Good looking people who take care of themselves and enhance their best traits, have a lot of options. However, I wouldn’t be with someone who has a shitty personality. Looks and personality matter. There should be an equilibrium between both.
Being “attractive” makes dating harder. Because you are likely to attract everyone and that includes trash. Also people will always assume you are taken, or in many relationships your partner will be insecure that you’ll leave them for somebody else, or your relationships are very shallow because people only use you for show.
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