This coming Tuesday is our 2 year anniversary. He’s put no effort into planning anything for it, and he’s trying to leave it all up to me. And when I say I want us both to come up with something for it, he asks me what I want him to do. Which defeats the purpose of saying I want us both to come up with something. He says that relationship anniversaries are only for women, and that men never care about them, they just go along with it to make their girlfriend happy. But when I ask him if he actually wants to celebrate it, he says “I don’t mind”. What does that mean? I want this day to be about US. Not just ME.
If he doesn’t want to celebrate it, I’d rather he just said so, I don’t mind if we don’t celebrate it. Last year for our 1 year anniversary it was the same deal. In the end I was the one who had to plan everything and it was the furthest thing from “romantic” since he put 0 effort in, he didn’t even get me anything either. I was so sad. And I had hoped that this year it would be different.
Guys, do you not care at all about anniversaries, do you just celebrate it to keep your girlfriend happy?
If he doesn’t want to celebrate it, I’d rather he just said so, I don’t mind if we don’t celebrate it. Last year for our 1 year anniversary it was the same deal. In the end I was the one who had to plan everything and it was the furthest thing from “romantic” since he put 0 effort in, he didn’t even get me anything either. I was so sad. And I had hoped that this year it would be different.
Guys, do you not care at all about anniversaries, do you just celebrate it to keep your girlfriend happy?
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As someone who doesn’t really celebrate their own birthday. I would side with his opinion. But if it means a lot to you, it sounds like he would celebrate it with you. In the possible future, when you are married, would you celebrate the day you met, your marriage anniversary, and Valentine’s Day?
With all of this, I personally find it important to maintain a regular date night after marriage if possible.
Neither of us are interested in marriage, just long term relationship and to be life partners without the titles of husband and wife.
Doesn't seem like it