Like it doesn’t feel good texting someone across a damn screen, getting nudes, sexting, talking on the phone, talking about dates we’d plan if we were to ever meet up only has so much affect when your not there to physically see the person and interact face to face, it’s been so long since I’ve held a woman, kissed a woman or had sex with a woman and all of that seems super important to a relationship in order for it to work. No girls in person ever seem interested and practically I’m invisible to 90% of them unless they are bigger, nothing wrong with being bigger but I take care of myself and I would want my partner to do the same so when your obese then you’re met with health issues, you tend to smell, you can’t wash certain parts of your body, some are lazy and I’m just personally not attracted to that. last time I tried to talk to one was my last day at my temp job and I complimented everyone and called this particular employee pretty and she looked at me with a blank face and said “oh okay” and just didn’t care at all and went back to working then proceeded to go on to other employees saying I liked her when all I was trying to do was be kind. I’m not even that ugly either but last time I had a girlfriend in person was when I was 17 and when we had sex she cried afterwards. Signs seem to point not only to being undesirable but unlovable. Since I can only attract women from a different state or even country (and even then that’s rare and most lose interest really fast) should I just give up?
All of your relationships have been LDR because those are the women you put yourself in the position to date. You’re not the only person who has a hard time connecting with women in person, but I think it’s much better to be patient and wait for the woman you connect with IRL rather than seeking her online. You have to ask yourself, why this consistent effort to be in a relationship or to have a companion? Couldn’t you just as easily focus on bettering yourself and living your life, and potentially crossing paths with the right woman?
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Long distance never work unless you set a date to meet the person up and plan it. Thats what I have with my long term crush of 7 years. We have a date we are gonna meet. So either plan to meet up with the long distance one. Or keep asking women out irl. You will get no's but thats part of life.
Also crying after sex is just hormones. It doesn't mean anything bad unless she said so.
Goodluck!
Have you tried some fun things on a video call (Facetime, Teams, Zoom)?
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