Did my friend get led on? Why do guys do this?

[Paulalove98]

My friend 25, was talking to this guy via Facebook dating he’s 23 and a single father to a 6 month old daughter. She also is a single mom herself to a 6 year old boy and 3 year old girl. They texted for 2 weeks on the phone till they met up last weekend and went on a date. She said the date went terrific and great, they had ice cream, talked and shared music then she ended up going to his place where they hooked up (using precautions.) Today she texted me saying he isn’t sure he’s ready for a relationship yet and she thought they were official because of his romantic gestures and where they seem to be directing toward in life. I told her I’m here for her and I’m sorry if she feels hurt. I can relate to the feeling because before I met my fiancé, 3 weeks prior I was talking to this guy from grade school the same age as me and we had a hook up and he ended up leading me on too till my fiancé came in my life and swept me off my feet treating me like a queen. Why do guys do this stuff? Was it all for sex? Why can’t some be clear on emotions? ( I’m ranting sorry lol but in any event I’m blessed I met my young man when I did because he’s very honest and direct to me and respects me wholeheartedly)

[RespectfulGuy]

Let's be honest. Guys date to get sex.

Yes, we're the lowly ones. Sex first. Love comes later, if it does.

And somehow, society changed to our advantage. Girls are willing to have sex outside the pretext of prostitution and marriage.

100 years ago, it was not like this. Guys must marry and it's one of the greatest thing in his life in order to have sex, honorably. Prostitution exists, but is frown upon.

But today, guys and girls have sex after knowing each other for 1 week, or worse, one day.

Call it abuse.

But this is what lead to you asking this question.

Guys get it easy enough. But a bit of strategy is still needed. And pretend to be gentlemanly and willing to commit is a great weapon.

And girls so easily fall for it, like bees are drawn to honey. Until they are swallow then digest alive, knowing too late that its an insect eating plant.

[Paulalove98]

My fiancé and I have had sex and do quite often when we see each other but we don’t have sex every single time, there’s times when we just have a good time being around one another and enjoying each other’s presence and the simplicity and peace in life and how happy we are together.. I am aware men are sexually wired so it’s normal and I like sex myself but that’s not all why I’m in it either but I’m for sure my fiancé enjoyed the make up sex I gave him two days ago lol.

[RespectfulGuy]

Haha made up sex?

Quarrels started?

Thats good. It shows that your relationship is maturing.

And I love made up sex. It's always HOT and sensual.

[Paulalove98]

Lol so it’s a good sign? Or good thing? Well we were getting on each others nerves sort of the other day and it wasn’t a fight or big argument just butting heads more so then we took a walk and talked, till we played a little game outside and then had sex twice and he finished twice so I’d say I made things up 😅

[RespectfulGuy]

😘😘😘👍👍❤️❤️❤️
That's what married couples do. Successful married couples.

And yes, it's a good sign. Not the quarrel, but the communication skills and made up sex.

It's the nurturing of your intimacy and love.

👍👍👍

[Sweetsurprize]

Agreed. It's disgusting/sickening to say the least.

[Anonymous]

You asked 'Why do guys do this stuff? Was it all for sex?' But he wouldn't be able to do a thing if she kept all sex of the table. We cannot control what others do, only how we act. If she did not have sex with him, and later the guy said 'he isn’t sure he’s ready for a relationship yet' then she would have just moved on. Therefore the issue is her having sex quickly, without qualifying the guy, without respecting the bonds created during sex and everything else that comes along with it. Blaming the guy and feeling sorry for her isn't going to help her. But her learning to gate keep sex will.

[Sweetsurprize]

Why are single mothers and fathers so popular? ! Couldn't they keep it all in their pants and have some damn morals lol Geez.

Joke.

[Paulalove98]

She was very young when she had her son at 18 and was naive falling for her ex husband and blindsided what she thought was young. It’s true but society should also stop pressuring young women to marry so young because they feel that pressure more than young men do due to biology and the MGTOW group but I’m almost 25 and no kids yet but I’d like my first in a couple years.

[AviatorTom]

He may have been looking for sex, or he may have been looking for more, and realized that you may not be the right one for him. I'm sorry you think he led you on... he may not have.

[AviatorTom]

I'm referring to your friend, of course, not you.

[stepyo99]

People don't like to hear this but I'll continue to stress it: save sex for marriage. It's the best way to ensure that the person you're dating isn't just interested in sex and is actually interested in a long-term relationship with you.

[BLP11520]

When I was younger men did anything to get some. Apparently nothing has changed, not all of us are pigs

[Anonymous]

For the same reason women lead women on. For the temporary gratification. Then she moves on when she grows bored. It happens to both genders. Tell your friend to start using better judgement.