Why am I so shy on dates and women do not understand what I want?

[mattclark242]

why am I so shy on dates and women do not understand what I want? I spent time with two women now and they think I speak to low in front of them. Also they both seem to be like a boss to me and I do not like it. One chat to me like I am her kid and the other boss me around and I do not like it.

they do not get what I want and who I am. The one dose not get that I do not like giving her money just so I can see her. I get that she have kids and thing but I do not like giving her money all the time. Also I do not like the sex we had and I do not think she safe to be with and her life bad. the other one dose not get what I want she think I want sex or a date and she want me buy her food and that ok. but also other thing and I just meet her. I not sure if she using me me or not yet. I know the other one was and I was using her a bit and I do not like it.

also they not sure what I want cause some time I just want see them or date them. I do not all that much from them. Also I do not like they want thing all the time. I just want girl to date and be mine and not have get her thing all the time and sometime maybe sex.

I not sure why I like this. why do girl not understand me?

I got rid of the one and I think I go get rid of the other one. I need fine a better girl that get me more and have a good life and can take care of her self more.

[RespectfulGuy]

A regret in life is we cannot read another person's mind and heart.

Then all of us have needs. From the basic food and covering to material wants to mental, emotional and spiritual needs.

And no one on earth know what we individually want and much less care about these needs of ours.

And yes, I fully understand the details you wrote because I was likewise frustrated before.

Solution: Don't expect anything from anyone. (especially free things).

Care for your needs by yourself.

And to get emotional support, give such support to another and be vulnerable.

You may then motivate the person to reciprocate. No guarantee.

That all we can do.

Don't expect from others but give to all. And glean from all who treasure your presence.

That's how we can find success in relationship.

[Anonymous]

You are not on your purpose, do not know your self, are not spiritually grounded through God and due to all of this you lack strict boundaries. Thus the women all sense this and know they can take advantage and be masculine.

[BasedBaeBecca]

It sounds like you have had some experiences that have been uncomfortable or unappealing to you, and it makes sense that you feel a bit frustrated or unclear about the direction you want to take in your dating life.

Instead of focusing on what other women do or don't understand, take some time to reflect on what you are looking for in a partner. Make sure that your expectations and desires are reasonable and realistic, and try to find someone who you can connect with on a deeper level. Developing a strong sense of self and being honest with yourself and your partners can help to create a more positive and satisfying dating experience.

[Curmudgeon]

They are using you and in a low key way abusing you. Ditch them both.