I see on dating apps and real life a lot that women are so happy to shoot out of their league. Women often get options that are better than themselves.
Men hit on much prettier women too, but men have other things to offer like success and personality. Men just care if you’re pretty and nice as a person.
So do women have to lower their standards or raise their standards? Y'all complain when you see women falling for the "bad boys" who are assholes and what not, y'all complain about so many men in prison having loving girlfriends and wives, y'all complain about women letting men treat them like shit...
While simultaneously complaining about women being hypergamous and wanting to date/marry up and care about factors like wealth and status to secure a place for themselves and their families...
Just admit what you're truly mad about is that women have a choice to pick who they want and they aren't picking YOU. Raise your own standards for yourself. Take better care of your own appearance. Improve yourself on your interpersonal skills and deportment. You want to complain about how 80% of women want 20% of men only, but do you see how 80% of women take care of their appearance and put thought and effort into their relationships vs men who walk around looking like they left the house in the same clothes they were sleeping in? Women take care of their hair, nails, skin, reproductive health to such great extent but suddenly when it's noticeable to you then you also get mad about it being vain and deceitful. Again, just fucking admit you're mad that no one is doing it particularly for YOU.
I'm so so so glad that I continue to have my boundaries and raise my standards instead of letting my insecurities get the best of me and settle with dusty men because I felt like I didn't deserve any better. Life has been so much better since I started expecting better treatment and have great friends and a great boyfriend who also takes great care of his own appearance, has excellent disposition and always reminds me that I'm a quality woman who deserves the best because I worked hard to be the person that I am today.
I think women should have realistic standards but I don’t think that lowering them is necessarily the answer. Everybody has different standards for what they look for in a partner because we have different values. Whatever your values are should be what you want in a partner. If you value integrity you shouldn’t date a man who shows you that he LACKS integrity. If your values are to have freedom you should be with a man or woman who isn’t controlling. So lowering your standards in these situations where your not getting what you want won't help you to get what you want-ever. Now if you value these things and you meet a man who possesses these qualities but who isn’t the height you want in a man then lowering your standards in this instance will essentially get you what you want out of life even though you won’t have your preference you will have your needs met. One thing men need to consider though that a lot of men can’t seem to grasp is you cannot tell another person what they should value or what they should want out of life. additionally (and this goes for men and women) you cannot conjure it up in your mind that just because you are a great person that you will meet someone else’s needs/values. If your values clash then no amount of being a good person will keep that relationship from feeling like a chore to be in. So you need to find someone who you respect and whose beliefs you can agree with.
There's no need for women to lower their standards. The most attractive and highly sought after men have enough sperm to impregnate all of them. One teaspoon has over 100K sperm in it, that's plenty to go around.
Men need to do better if they want to be competitive, otherwise stop whinging and just come to grips with reality. That's who really needs to be more realistic.
If women really need to lower their standards, then they will. But honestly, I think women don't actually have that high of standards. They are suckers for a guy who spends time with them, listens, takes care of them and gives them encouragement and show they care in little ways. It's really not that hard for most guys to do that sort of thing. Women sometimes care about looks, but they care a lot less than most men do. Men have it really easy, tbh. Women are not that tough, though some talk tough. Most are sweethearts who just need the right kind of attention and support to blossom into happy, loving, and generous angels.
A lot of women think that because they can get fucked by certain caliber of man that they also qualify for a relationship with these men. This combined with feminism, social media, and thirsty pathetic simps boosting their egos leads to plain or even fat women becoming incredibly entitled. Ladies, just because you can fuck a rich guy doesn't mean you qualify to marry one. Most of you will have to lower your standards or die alone. Honestly most of you deserve to die alone anyway, I just feel bad for the men who in previous generations would have been able to marry and have families who are now alone. Feminism can't die soon enough, I would even take Sharia law over the disaster we currently have.
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That's up to them. At the end of the day, what's going to happen if they aren't realistic? Either they will be involuntarily single for a really long time, or they'll be fucked and chucked by guys who know they can get away with it.
I don’t agree. I think we should be with our equals.
My dad says that a boy should be with a girl who earns less than him and grew up in a family less wealthy than him as she will always be satisfied with whatever he gifts her because it’s within his means whereas a girl from a wealthy who grew up with luxuries won’t be satisfied with what a middle class man can give her. So his rule is that girls should marry a man who earns a bit more than her and grew up a bit better off and a man should marry a girl who earns less and grew up less rich than him.
Also, as far as looks are concerned. It would look RIDICULOUS and it always look ridiculous when a youthful looking very pretty girl is with a man who looks like a middle-aged dad with a dad belly and all that. The best looking couples are couples who kind of look alike. I am always attracted to men who have similar facial features as me. I am thin hourglass so I don’t go after someone who is overweight.
People should be with people who are like them. When you see a 6’2 man with a girl who is below his shoulders it looks weird right? Because the perfect height difference is when the woman is upto a man’s earlobe level when they’re barefoot. So a 5’7 -ish woman is perfect for a 6’2 man. Thin men and women look good together whereas a chubby woman with a thin man looks mismatched and vice-versa.
Yes, a man may have success to provide but even if a CEO of a big company proposed to me I would not marry him if I wasn’t at least somewhat attracted to him and we look good together. If he is 38 and looks 38, in decent shape and has similar features to me then yeah we’re good to go but if he is 38 and looks like a 47-year-old dad and is overweight and looks mismatched with me then I will say no. I don’t care if the guy is still 30 and hasn’t made it solid in his career yet. The main thing is physical attraction because if I am not attracted I won’t wanna sleep with him and if your sex life sucks you won’t last long AT ALL.
‼️Women don't have to accept anyone or anything at any age or any point in time.‼️
We’re the ones who have to push your baby’s HUGE HEAD out of us. Risking so much from having 1 baby. So we naturally, instinctively choose the most fit, most strong men, out of the option Pool.
We ARE NOT gonna choose someone old and wrinkly because our baby could have defects. We ARE NOT gonna choose a skinny, scrawny, flimsy, weakling. Because he will produce low quality offspring. And the offspring won’t be strong with good genetics. Not only that, but a weak male of no muscles will get me and my babies killed if there’s a fight. He cannot physically protect himself or his family. This is why if a woman ever sees a Strong Alpha Male. Since he is rare. She will sleep with him instinctively and cheat on her physically-weak man.
All females of all species always choose the strongest male. All females.
This is hard-wired in the female of all species. Women care about his looks. Not the other way around. I DONT KNOW WHO TF LIED TO YOU. This is why “PHYSICALLY AVERAGE GUYS” finish last.
Women mate with the most sexually demographic male. If you're not a Chad and constantly working to be one. THATS YOUR FAULT. Women don't have to accept anyone or anything. 🖕
https://www.youtube.com/embed/LISBBUrPSsE Usually, attractive men and attractive women choose each other. Or rich men and attractive women choose each other.
The average ones choose each other.
If a man who isn’t attractive and not rich, looks for a beautiful lady would be seen as unrealistic.
If a woman who isn’t attractive, looks for an attractive and rich man, that’s unattractive.
If a woman can’t find a boyfriend, she needs to do some self reflection, is their attractiveness enough for them to get an attractive and rich man?
If a man can’t find a girlfriend, he needs to do some self reflection, is their ability enough to get an attractive woman?
A woman who isn’t that attractive shouldn’t have much expectation when it comes to looks and wealth of men.
A man who isn’t attractive nor rich shouldn’t expect a hot/attractive woman to like them.
In the end, we all need to know and recognise our level of attractiveness and ability and find someone who is equal to our level of attractiveness and ability.
I think boys your age been to cowboy up, stop blaming other people when things aren't handed to them, get rid if their sense of entitlement, and learn from the older men, who we never hear complain about women having high standards.
Biologically we are looking for a man who can provide for us and our offspring. We have a limited amount of time to have babies, we know it. For at least 3 months before and 3 months after, we can't work, you will have to be the sole provider. After that, 2 people will have to provide for 3, and that 3rd isn't cheap, so you could say 3.5... and we want the best for our babies, so let's say 4... God forbid one of us loses their job, we need a nest egg, need one anyway for family stuff... so 4.5...
We would many times be restarting our career after being gone having babies, so we expect to earn less, let's say 1.5. Can you make it on 1/3rd of your income? Your older (30s) counterparts can. They have put the effort into being able to provide, so they get the pussy they earned. Earn it if you want it.
Not at all. Let them. I personally don't want them in my presence, and wouldn't help 1 now if I had a loaded gun to my head, cocked. Apparently they seem to walk around with their eyes and ears shut. There are MILLIONS of cougars-many of them the mom's of these same females-who are now SO NICE to guys. I notice it constantly. You know why that is? Because they used to do what their daughters did 25 years ago, and they know where it got them. Problem is, free agents don't want to sign with a team at the bottom of the league or located in a shitty city😏. Many of their daughters don't seem to notice. There was 1 time I was walking by a public park, and I heard some loud screaming coming from a probably young female voice. I didn't know what was going on, and it was obvious she needed help. But I've been shit on by WAAAAAAAY too many females who cried wolf, or whom were just flat out predators themselves. So now they're dead to me. I got home that night, turned on the news. Turns out, the screaming I'd heard was that of a 17 year old girl getting raped in the bathroom of that public park by a homeless man. Know what they've told me in the past? Man up! Tough luck! So... that was my response to her plight... and the rest that end up like that. Tough luck.😊It's better to have allies than enemies, but they don't know how to make allies now, or how to treat them when they do have them. Payback is a MOTHERFU**ER.😈
Most men hve nothing to offer what so ever. Most men are not successful and most men have very average at best personalities. They do nothing that improves a woman life. They create more housework and don’t do their share of it, they don’t provide financially because they’re too cheap and broke, they nag for sex, they’re not romantic, they don’t even get their women gifts for birthdays or Christmas. They don’t even have good looks to fall back on. And to top it all of they have the audacity and think they’re a prize because they’re so awesome. So no. Women don’t need to lower their standards. If anything they need to raise them and hold men accountable and increase their expectations and stop dating low life bum men, which are most men.
Honestly what I got from your take is that you don’t have success with women on apps lol. If you’re a guy and you have *insert flaw here* you can compensate for it in other ways. Make sure you’re taking care of yourself (good personal hygiene, exercise, etc), work on being financially stable to having a good career, throw yourself into your hobbies, build your social circle etc. The same holds true if you are a less attractive girl. You have to make sure you’re taking care of yourself, have a great personality, work on being at least financially stable, hobbies, good social circle, etc. You already have more against you so you have to take good care of the things that are in your control
Whenever it comes to apps I feel like guys in general swipe on every girl they see and then pick later from who they match with, where girls get bombarded with messages and have to filter through. It just is what it is
No. The more dumb feminists and femcels kept out of the gene pool, the better. They can dream about Prince Charming while getting wine drunk with their 3 cats.
Let them die miserable alone because she refuses to submit and obey and no man wants her blown out vag she got from "finding herself" in her twenties.
It's a self-correcting problem. Submissive women with morals and self-esteem who saved themselves for marriage and pop out 6+ kids will inherit the other while these disgusting boss bitches cry themselves to sleep.
Again while that is up to each individual woman, it is a pretty big social tendency and I would recommend that this becomes socially encouraged. It's insane how a hypothetical woman who is only 5'1 mostly wants a man that is only 6', yet I think it is a frequent trope. Social media and the way dating apps work has only made that worse.
While each woman would have their own preferences and standards, it's hard not to feel cynical or frustrated when 99/100 asks you get a no from women or no reply on apps, and many of them then turn around and complain to society that men are more shallow.
I disagree, men just need to raise their standards. If the girl likes tall guys for example, let her do that. She is filtering out tons of guys. Despite what men say about “all women can get a guy easily”, it isn't true. That only is valid when the girl is good looking. Same thing for guys.
Being good looking matters a lot and guys delude themselves into thinking they need ”status and game and money”. Both genders are mainly driven by physical attraction.
And before you say “but guys only look at looks and not personality, but girls look both at looks and personality”, that’s on you. Maybe raise standards.
our image pictured by many women right now is “would fuck anything with a pussy”. I dont blame them. I also firmly believe some women have broken that stereotype with a few guys which i respect them for.
That's upto them, but they shouldn't complain if they can't find anyone good enough.
The least some of them can do is stop bitching about men having standards, because men tend to be more realistic, but nah, if we don't want to one's with high body counts or single mothers, it's because we're ugly or low quality.
I think a lot of people are doing the opposite of what God intended for humanity and this leads to problems. But they claim it is "freedom" or "fat acceptance" and other labels to make themselves feel good about doing stupid self-destructive things.
just a few generalizations here. goodness
everyone should be realistic but it's up to a person to set their standards and not really for me to tell them what their standards ought to be.
it sounds to me like you are frustrated with dating, or perhaps lack of it, and it's informing your views on women as a whole. don't let that happen. when a person becomes jaded in dating it shows (whether they know it or not)
Women can sleep with just about anyone they want. Getting a man to stick around is another thing. People confuse these 2 things. Women can raise their standards for sex. Most do. However they’ve also been sold this lie that they are the prize by the media. They’re not. They’re regular people. Most women are average anyways. The only reason men do extra is for sex. That’s why most women can’t get a man to stay. If women were more realistic with their standards and matched their “level” of a person, so to speak they’d get hurt way less often.
You don't think women have success and personality to offer too?
Oh, boy, you have a problem 😱
No wonder you think we should lower our standards.
I kinda disagree. Women should probably lower their standard for physical appearance as long as the guys hygienic and income (if they're unreasonable). But don't lower your standard regarding morals, future plans, life styles, etc
Men that have a lot to offer expect more than a woman being pretty and nice if they're going to spend more than a couple night in the sack with her. The more you offer, the higher your standards usually are as a man.
I don't think it matters. Historically, society's lead by women fail. Consequences solve everything. The 80 / 20 rule dictates that eventually the majority of men lose all reason to invest as they're percieved as worthless. Learn from history or be ruled by it.
Women have a lot more men to choose from. Men have fewer women, and women can pretty much afford to wait a bit longer to find a taller better looking wealthier man. Also, women rely on divorce as a way of moving on to a better man, while men don't plan out divorces ahead of time. For most women divorces revenue positive and for virtually all men divorces revenue negative.
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