Do you think dating is failing in the west 🇬🇧🇨🇦🇺🇸🇪🇺?

[Anonymous]

I’m 24, tall, handsome, charismatic, very good career, wealth family. I tick all boxes and dating sites are just boring despite my great profile

Women are not that serious about dating, they don’t even check their accounts that often, shit responses, ghosting 👻. If you end up talking it lasts no more than a few days. Also so many women are like 30 when they get married. Women even struggle to have children at this age. They should be marrying at 20-28

I’ve got my s*** together so where’s all the good pretty women, who are looking for something serious?

I thought men are only interested in s** and women want love. The only thing holding me back is women. Women aren’t that serious and I fail to see any fault whatsoever in myself, my profile my activity on dating apps.

So what’s wrong?

Dating is failing in the west

I disagree

Updates

8 mo

It’s probably all this feminism breaking all these families apart. Women and some men are so brainwashed my modern woke culture they can’t see it’s trying to break family’s apart.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely, returning with another blue account! The Western world is failing at fucking everything these days, including romance and relationship-building. Instead of focusing on emotional connection and compatibility, people have shifted their attentions towards mindless hookups and one-night stands. And don't forget, there's no better place to witness the decay of Western society than within the filthy realm of adult playgrounds. In dank dens of erotic indulgence and perversion, all forms of sexual degeneracy thrive unchecked - from lustful orgies with dozens in cucks, to fetishistic BDSM encounters with whips cracking amid screams of subjugation. Every last inch and corner reveals another example of how the moral foundations have long crumbled away in the west, giving birth to legions of degraded creatures, all in a pursuit of fleeting sensations and hollow experiences. So instead of dating someone for the sake of creating a life together, the current trend is simply a wild hunt for the best dick, ass, or hole - the perfect blend of lubricated and pulsating flesh for the pleasure and pain of countless nights - no strings, no love, no attachments. What started as a pursuit of pleasure has long since turned into the relentless march of decadence, and the decline seems inevitable, until perhaps, we as an organism realize we've been fucked by ourselves - in a way the cocks have, the fists have, and everything and anything that exists within these fetid confines of debauchery can attest. Only then will the world see a return to true romance and connection - as long and girthy as you desire, baby, as long as every foul and uncouth inch exists only for the pleasure you seek in the darkness, amid the writhing masses, the screams of the whipped and fucked - and the unending laughter of an age where morals fell like fucking cocks to the ground. Now I would like to thank everyone for giving me MHO! Me and @d_bone_steak will get MHO on this one even if you don't select it! 🙂 ﾠ

[D_Bone_Steak]

Hella well put.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Most of the women on dating sites are bots and scammers. The few actual women are low effort using the app/site, many for hookups.

The quality women could use them to find love quickly, but because fuckboys spam message every attractive woman they see (compatible or not) any of the good women who make the attempt, will never see your messages, because their inbox will always be full.

Your only hope on dating sites, is for the woman to see your profile and message you first, but the odds of one of those being a match for you is very low, and most women on those sites expect the guy to message first, even though its causing a problem.

Bumble attempts to fix this by forcing women to message first, but the number of quality women on it is so low, that feels like a ghost town. A few critical criteria put in, and you get zero results.

Plus, the character limit on bumble's about me section makes it useless for anything other than hookups, which is probably why it's a ghost town.

[Rei13]

I honestly think you need to look inwardly because the common denominator in all of your experiences whenever it has come to dating is you. You come off as very arrogant and full of yourself which is a major turnoff to a lot of people. Whenever I struggled with dating (prior to meeting my current partner) a lot of what made it hard for me was my weight, I still attracted people but it was harder (not impossible tho) to attract what I wanted. It’s not easy looking at yourself and acknowledging you’re doing something wrong but honestly that is how you grow and achieve whatever it is that you want to achieve, or gain the relationships that you desire. If you’re not able to see in yourself your shortcomings ask someone you trust that will be honest with you and actually listen to them.

[Tamera952]

Sweeping generalities are inherently dangerous, & I don’t want you to go down the ‘woe-is-me, women are all out to get me’ kinda road - because they’re not. It’s probably complicated & more than just attributed to one thing. You’ll probably not want to hear this, but you’ll also probably gain more insight by looking inward, instead of looking outward. Meaning, instead of looking for collective flaws in society or with women in general, spend some time to try & evaluate your mindset, how you come across, whether or not YOU would date YOU (if that makes sense?) — I’m not saying you’re the problem, but at least be open to being objective. PLUS, all of these activities I just described are healthy anyway, & can’t hurt, right? So no harm, no foul.

[OlderAndWiser]

"Dating" is not failing. "Dating" does not exist independently of those who date and it is up to the participants to make it work. And many, many people make it work because many people continue to find partners for long term relationships and marriage. But it is easier to blame "dating" than it is to blame yourself.

Reading your post, I'm not sure if you are simply confident or whether you are arrogant. An attitude of arrogance will immediately make women move on to the next profile. Have you ever had a female friend - one who you trust to be candid with you - review your profile and give you feedback on hos it is perceived by women? You might be surprised.

[Asker]

You can’t tell or see this arrogance on a profile, I clearly don’t talk or complain this way do I? 🙄

[OlderAndWiser]

I posted my comment because your post sounds a bit arrogant.

[Asker]

No women I talk to will think I’m arrogant. I’m polite when I message

[OlderAndWiser]

Being convinced that you are right doesn't actually mean that you are right. But it is some evidence that you might be perceived as arrogant. But you don't need to agree with me or even consider the possibility.

However, what you have been doing apparently isn't working, so you might want to open yourself up to reconsidering some things.

[Honeysuckle12345]

@OlderAndWiser - if he comes onto the site with the attitude of course he has one or worse with women he is trying to match with. Texting is like talking... it reflects personality & 1 line in this kids arrogant he's even arrogant in his response to you

[marrk]

@OlderAndWiser you really are wise, sir! I just wanted to drop by and comment on how gracious your response was when trying to hand out wisdom. Have a good day!

[OlderAndWiser]

@marrk I appreciate your kind words.

[Rei13]

You phrased this better than I could have. The asker comes off as arrogant and that is a turnoff whenever it comes to relationships. I honestly agree with having a friend review his profile and give an honest opinion

[jennifer_bloom]

When you are baking a cherry pie - you count the good cherries and not the bad ones. That is how dating works. It does not matter how many bad ones are out there as long as you are not interacting with them. As long as you have good cherries, you can eat your cherry pie. What others eat is non of your business.

[FYI345]

Cherry pick 😂

[Dantiger45]

I hate cherry pie... lol

[Avicenna]

Well, although you may or may not be correct, I would ask women who know you for feedback on how you're perceived. And meet women IRL.

[coachTanthony]

It's not them it's you I would guess. The way you see yourself is not how they see you. Period.

[aditya1998]

First of all this is not only a Western problem. It is true in most parts of the world nowadays. In the early days, only some males would even live long enough to reproduce. Most would just get killed in a war or because of diseases. This means that a large proportion of women would reproduce with a small proportion of men. With the industrialization of the world and more peaceful times, this situation changed. Every man is able to live long enough to reproduce. But this doesn't mean that women find them attractive. Women might still be biologically inclined to consider only the most attractive looking males as suitable partners.

Another thing is that women are able to work and earn their own income. In my father's time just having a good salary would guarantee you a wife. Nowadays that no longer happens.

Men are willing to settle for much lower than their expectations. Women have considerably higher standards than men when it comes to choosing a husband.

Acknowledge that there's no political agenda or conspiracy that has led to this. Just apply basic anthropological principles. We have come to the age where there is a surplus of men (that women are not biologically inclined to be attracted to) and women are earning their own income. Therefore the value of the average man as a husband has reduced greatly.

If you keep complaining about this, it will only lead to more bitterness. Just learn to accept the reality for what it is. And stop using online dating apps, seriously. Try to date someone you know in real life, like someone you are already friends with.

If you are tall and attractive it already solves most of the problem. Try to find a wife who has similar interests as you and has similar values as you instead of just going for the most physically attractive women. This might be a better strategy.

[_Maya_]

Yeah maybe try not being so full of yourself and arrogant. That might help a bit. It is a massive turn off. Confidence is one thing but what you've got going on is not attractive at all. I bet you are like this when you match... hence your problem. Humble yourself a ton and turn the arrogance down like thirty notches. Just because you tick your own boxes doesn't mean you tick mine. You'll have a lot better chance with girls if you tone it down bud.

[_Maya_]

Dude regarding the update 😆... you bitch about women and then don't understand how you can't get one. Thanks for the rolling laugh my guy. Fuck me... @snowedin

[Asker]

Who said I can’t get one? I can just a low quality one.

Again, you’re just a woman emotionally triggered which is why I believe women should never take positions of power. You’re all controlled by emotions.

You haven’t taken a single second to realise I’m sharing my honest experience.

[Asker]

Who said I can’t get one? I low quality ones.

Again, you’re just a woman emotionally triggered which is why I believe women should never take positions of leadership and power. You’re all controlled by emotions, not by duty or truth.

You haven’t taken a single second to realise I’m sharing my honest experience. I’m never complaining or being ‘arrogant’ with women, I don’t talk like this to women, so everything you’ve said is bullshit nonsense that helps no one.

[Asker]

If you’re 24, you should be married or engaged otherwise you’ve failed. You’re only going to get less and less attractive to men so you better look and fix yourself FIRST!
Of course you’ve never done that.

[_Maya_]

Wtf are you even talking about? 😆

[_Maya_]

Dude I have no problem getting dates. You are the one with that issue.

[Asker]

That’s because you’re a girl. What the fuck do you expect? Of course girls have it easy in dating sites, you’re not even smart enough to understand.

You can create a female account with a blank picture and it will receive 100s of likes within hours.

[Asker]

Stay clueless and ignorant.
You can have it all as a guy and still get shit options. It’s only if you’re conventionally attractive a white man do you really succeed.

[_Maya_]

Lmao of the three opinions two of us think you are arrogant. That should tell you something right there. Then you just wanna bitch about girls. Look at your conversation with me... and you wonder why you can't get a girl.

[strateguy632]

to maya, content arrogant all the things he wrote wasn't arrogant so which part gave you a tone or phrase of arrogance?

[Asker]

Do you really think I talk to girls like this. No, I’m actually very polite.

You seriously think I talk to women in the same way.

[Asker]

You can’t get a guy, you’re 24 and single. You’re a fuck up in my opinion. I would never say this to a girl but seen as you seem to take some moral high ground you Seaver to hear the truth.

[Asker]

Women are most attractive 18-24, for you to still be single is embarrassing

[_Maya_]

@strateguy632 are you dense?

"I’m 24, tall, handsome, charismatic, very good career, wealth family"
" I tick all boxes"
"despite my great profile"
"I’ve got my s*** together"
"The only thing holding me back is women."

and the best of all..." I fail to see ANY FAULT whatsoever in myself"

How the fuck is that not arrogant? Can't see a single fault in himself... smh

[Asker]

If I have an ego that I work hard to justify it’s okay. I do everything right, I train everyday etc…..

I am not lying am I? It’s not a heightened sense of self worth its reality.

[Asker]

Also I got loads of matches on dating sites but the response rate and engagement from this less women is always trash.

[Chthou95]

Maya most women have no problem getting dates. That's not anything note worthy or impressive

[FYI345]

@Chthou95 she never insinuated it was? She's just humbling OP because he's being arrogant "tall, handsome, charismatic, very good career, wealth family". He's probably not even that. Because if he was he would actually get a lot of dates 😂😂😂😂

[dynamicyandere]

After reading this interaction, I believe Maya has a point, though could have worded it less harshly, lol.

But it’s true, OP’s personality shows here and I agree that it would be off-putting to many women.

Blaming women and calling women the problem for their lack of dating success is unbecoming of a ‘charismatic’ guy.

To be honest, OP sounds like a black-pill subscriber. At least that’s how they’re coming off energy and vibe-wise.

And if OP doesn’t want to come off as an incel, they should take note of that and try to better their first impressions.

[Chthou95]

@dynamicyandere Maybe the op is the problem and won't acknowledge that. But sometimes lets be real (not including the op) but some people really are fucked for life in the dating world especially if there's something they can't fix or help. Should you try still and see if you could change the outcome? Sure. You should and see if any kind of improvements help. But if all else fails and you've tried everything, its not anyone else's fault but sometimes it's not your fault either. That's life. Some people get lucky and others don't. We also have to remember there are no guarantees in life. Nothing is guaranteed. And if its to bitterness, the only person that it will hurt in the long run is the person themself

[dynamicyandere]

@Chthou95

True. OP may not be a good example of this.

But, yeah. People can be dealt bad hands in life, which just make life harder for them, no matter how much they’ve tried to change things.

I’m a big believer in altering your future via hard work.

However, it’s true that life isn’t fair and not everyone starts off with the same advantages or disadvantages.

I’d never go so far has to adopt a defeatist worldview, thinking that dating success is impossible for some people.

But, it can definitely be harder or easier, depending on the unchangeable things some people may be born with.

For example, someone that’s less good-looking will have to lean more on their charm, charisma, personality, and character.

Someone with good looks can be very mediocre with those intangible things and still be quite successful with attracting women.

But it’s one thing to attract a woman. It’s another to keep a woman.

Also, good looks aren’t what makes a good father.

If a woman wants to raise a family with man, she’ll look for character traits like responsible, mature, independent, confident, assertive, wise, caring, attentive, protective, etc.

That’s something that any man can have with enough intentional character development.

[marrk]

LOL FRFR and his responses to you only further nail his coffin shut tight

[Chthou95]

@dynamicyandere Its possible but how probable is it for a lot of men? And only 40% of men get to procreate while 80% of women do

[dynamicyandere]

@Chthou95 According to a study by Morgan Stanley, it's estimated that 45% of women ages 25–44 will be single and childless by 2030.

Men in general have a more challenging time getting laid.

Nobody can debate that getting laid as a man is harder than getting laid as a woman.

But in terms of marriage and having a successful long term relationships, it looks like both men AND women struggle with that.

Both men and women who are true marriage-material have gone through some sort of personal development, intentionally or unintentionally.

The top 20% of men are going to want to settle down with the top 1
20% of women. (e. g. beautiful, feminine, mentally/emotionally/physically healthy, supportive, nurturing, not degenerate)

Meanwhile, the 80% tend to want to be with the 20% and are discontent with matching with each other.

Which leaves both men and women in the 80% asking, “Where have all the good [men/women] gone?”

It seems like with the age of the internet and the prevalence of social media, everything has become hyper-competitive in the dating world.

It’s unfortunate, but it seems like if one wants to have a fulfilling romantic life, the would need to rise out of the 80% and enter into the top 20%, because that’s the only way to be sure they can settle down with another person in the top 20%.

It’s either that, or they settle for someone on their level.

But, most people don’t want to settle and some people are deluded into thinking they are entitled to the best (on both the men’s and women’s side) so things are very chaotic nowadays.

In summary…

Men have a harder time getting laid.

But BOTH men and women have a hard time finding a happy long term relationship.

Unless you’re in the top 20%.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Don't try to do it online... and from what you've said I'm guessing you're mainly looking online.

There was a time that it worked hella easy doing the online thing but something has changed. I can't even post pics of me with my shirt off anymore because they view that as cheating. Then there is the women... yeah they'll match with you, but then expect you to hold a conversation with yourself or they just don't take any of it seriously. I suspect most of them are just there looking for attention at this point.

I would highly suggest IRL stuff for sure. Not bars or clubs because we can already have a huge conversation about what kind of women you'll find there, even though they're easy to get the panties off.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Do what most of us end up doing online. Say you're fresh out of prison for molesting children and then watch the women start throwing themselves at you. Don't try to tick their boxes, just shit in them. It's sad, but if you really want it to work... well... that's what works.

Again years ago it was different... that's just how it is now.

[cosmosis181]

Exactly. The bigger piece of shit you appear to be online or obvious douche, the more they dig you. It's the same the other way around... I know a couple females in state prison currently who have profiles on those female penpal sites, and 1 of them admitted the girls in there LOVE old guys and weenies because, and I'll quote her, "They're the ones who fill up our accounts." So if you've got this profile online like you're one of the Average Joe's from Dodgeball, you can just start yanking yourself now... because that online profile alert will stay silent.👌

[D_Bone_Steak]

@cosmosis181 There is one guy that actually made a profile just to point it out and was ridiculous. He did everything I just said... said he molested children, prison, all of that. These chicks did not care and were all about it. He hella just trolled the shit out of them but damn those women really want a child molesting prison inmate. I'm trying to find it online... a bunch of black/red pill people made youtube videos about it. Please post it if you can find it.

Back when Hotornot dot com had the rating system I was bouncing from a solid ten to a 9.5 with my shitless pics. I still would only pull about 1 girl a month which was better than when I was seriously trying. That profile was basically like this "I'm married and I like to cheat because cheating is fun." <--and the girls would go for that like it is the best thing ever. It really conflicts with what women "say" they want and then what they'll throw themselves at in real life.

[D_Bone_Steak]

*shirtless

[cosmosis181]

Oh, I believe it💯About a year ago, this guy I knew who wasn't the extrovert type... I explained to him (since I travel a lot) what the women in that region want (the South, Texas), and they wouldn't be into him. He was new there. I told him how to be. He didn't believe me. I told him ok, I'll show you... did a week experiment. I did the Catfish thing... photos of douchebags I KNEW the ladies would cream themselves over... made a fake online profile on 3 different sites... pics blowing blunt smoke, holding up weapons, bloodshot eyes, nonstop ebonics, the "n" word over and over, muscles in your face. Same photos, but kept the changing my location every other day. Posted to about 30 major cities all over the country. These cities had females who literally blew the springs out of my phone, the alert was going off nonstop with😘😘😍😍🤩🤩🥰🥰🥰... Dallas, Atlanta, Houston, Memphis, Charlotte, Oklahoma City, Louisville, Nashville. I had already told him that's what the results would be. At the end of the week he just looked at ke-because he was new there-and was left😧😧😧wtfkkk😩I told you.😏

[D_Bone_Steak]

@cosmosis181 Lolz that's hella funny... one of the pics I used I took with a a couple hand guns, a rifle, and a shotgun... blowing smoke from the blunt in my mouth. It works! I thought it was the lame-ist shit pic I ever took, but it worked.

I never did buy Speedos (neon green), because I was about to try that too. Literally trying to fail and it just works better than being normal.

[cosmosis181]

I know man... I'm just sitting here right now at the memory of it thinking😊😊😊wtf🤣🤣🤣 there's NO WAY entire swaths of females can be that completely brain dead... but yes, there is, and are. I was literally... on some of those responses... falling down, rolling over in laughter... because I've met pet rabbits that have a LOT more functioning brainpower.😁Now I told him the difference though... every place isn't the same. Don't go try this on females in Seattle, Providence or San Diego... they value an education, and are likely fairly well traveled, and financially sound themselves... so they don't want that shit in their area code. But there are entire regions... whole REGIONS... where being a deadbeat, illiterate felon with a dope addiction who's the state Food Stamp King... will put you on par with Elvis, as far as the ladies are concerned.🤗

[D_Bone_Steak]

@cosmosis181 You know your places. I lived in San Diego, right next to Seattle right now and I'm about to move to Rhode Island and my woman keeps mentioning this Providence place. I use these dating sites to just sort of get a feel for where I'm moving to... and so far... I'm guessing I'm moving to a place where the women are either street meat or they're too upity to talk to.

Effing military keeps moving us around (the wife), once she retires she's talking Texas... I'm going to buy a cowboy hat if that happens.

[cosmosis181]

Ehhhh😫😫😫😫avoid Texas at all costs. I'm a West Coast native, but I've lived in 46 states. If you have West Coast ways... you'll be despised in Texas, and those are some SERIOUSLY cutthroat hypocritical backstabbing people. Most haven't traveled AT ALL... and they think it's normal. Really... there are 2 parts of the country, and both have a lot of people from 1-living in the other. The West Coast and Northeast are 1. Then there's everywhere else. Those are the 2 most expensive places... for a reason. The highest wages, lowest violent crime totals for the most part (Memphis had nearly as many total murders last year as L. A., despite only having 1/10 the population), best infrastructures, most of the nations best schools. Also where most of the nation's big time people live and do business. The difference is... West Coasters are more easygoing in their business and association. New Englanders... there's a LOT of old money there. Not fake fairweather shit... they don't pretend to give a shit. It'll take awhile longer to get halfway into people's circle there... they'll give you basic courtesy, but that's it. Once you make a friend there though, they're not fake about it. A lot of well off, educated people there. They have a lot of material things but they don't need YOURS. I've always gotten along with Northeasterners, and they've treated me well, even if they're brusque and to the point. I like that. They're not trying to get anything out of me or waste my time. You'll be alright... just bundle up hard for that first nor'Easter (winter storm)... a cold weather hurricane essentially. Where you're going... they're fierce. Once you get through your first, you're good... but that first one will worry you😏. RI is a pretty well off, nice area though... most can't afford there. Narragansett Beach there is one of the nicest places on the East Coast. 1 of the top 10 places worldwide for shark exploring.

[D_Bone_Steak]

@cosmosis181 Yeah the rent cap we're being given for RI is 3.2K and the places look huge compared to here. I really have my fingers crossed to get a place that actually has a basement or just some space. Weird though how a lot of those places seem to be seasonal rentals. I keep telling my wife it's because old dudes go there for hookers in the summer... but I don't know though.

I really hope it will be better than the shit box of an apartment I'm in now. The rent is like 3k and the military hasn't upped how much money they give us for it... no yard... no space... I can't play guitar, but the cars outside are louder than my T. V... Every 3 years, it's a crap shoot... I might luck out or end up in another shit box. A lot of both over the last 30 years.

[cosmosis181]

You'll find something in that range for sure... Providence isn't the MOST expensive place there... Newport and Narragansett are... so you can forget those. Though you'll only be 30 mins from the ocean anyway. Providence DOES cost though... center of government, and the Ivy Leaguers (Brown is there)... so your best best will probably be all the cozy little houses with small year's that permeate the outlying towns of Providence, like Warwick and Cranston. Look there, you'll find more to pick from, and it's not on the beach, so those aren't seasonal home spots.

[RoosterBreast]

The molesting inmate thing... it is all about masculinity. You don't need to be a child abuser if you can prove to a woman tat your dick is so powerful that it can slay demons.

Remember... there are CHEMICALS IN THE WATER making the majority significantly soyish. Just having muscles doesn't mean you've got a tool that can fuck satan to death. And you were definitely speaking on the cases of women where you both simply want to fuck, right? Well if she simply wants to fuck then she will choose the one who fucks best. The idea of who is "good fucking" seems to be what they find so good in the molesting inmate. In their minds, the reason he is molesting children is because he has so much man-juice that he can't control himself, and that supposedly translates to him fucking like a sex athlete, big D, and everything that I always try to help people achieve by sharing the guided self-hypnosis meditation video:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dG5cZzbKvW0

[cosmosis181]

A Demon Slaying Dick?😲😲😲That sounds like an INDESTRUCTIBLE weapon of mass destruction!😬😬

[D_Bone_Steak]

@RoosterBreast "Demon slaying Dick" and "Molesting Inmate" are going to be some terms I start using on the regular now. 😂 🤣

[Dantiger45]

Marriage as dropped of a cliff and birth rates are falling. No one dates anymore. It's either a hook up or situationship.

If your extremely fortunate or you’re one of the top 2% of men women actually want then fine. If not you've probably got better odds of winning the lottery than getting a future girlfriend or wife.

Plus, Morgan Stanley predicts 45% of women between 25–44 will be single by 2030. Nearly half of women in their “childbearing” years will be without a man and its only going to get worse.

On top all this western economies, are fucked and we are slowly walking towards oblivion. If dating doesn't kill the human race off, AI will... ENJOY THE DECLINE.

[genericname85]

it's not so much dating itself or apps for dating. it's highly divisive ideologies that actually work to pit mena gainst women and make them antagonize them. it even goes as far as quistioning that entire concept of "man and woman" entirely. and this is absolutely not a naturally occuring social phenomenon. this is caused and fueled by mostly new media and enforced by traditional media. i'm not saying that dating apps don't do their part but i estimate it to be a relatively small thing.

[Chthou95]

You can't argue though man that social media has definitely made it worse. Men dont get anything, women are chasing after unicorns

[genericname85]

@Chthou95 yes social media. that's what i said. i don't think dating sites did a lot of it tho, cause the dating market was always a huge sausage fest that validated women and discouraged men. so that's the same in the digital world.

[Chthou95]

And you have two options. You either learn to adapt and see if anything helps. Or you just dont play the game and focus on other things in life

[genericname85]

@Chthou95 again. nothing about what you just said is any different now than it was 1000 years ago.

[Chthou95]

Fair enough

[Anonymous]

So as I female that is online dating. I’m not going to lie. I’m very picky. I like this one guy but we are both bad texters. I see him in person and he seems interested but over texting it’s a different story. Maybe I need to man up and ask him out for drinks as he is going to be 28. I do have some other guys that are interested in me as well. But for some reason I like this one guy. He’s funny, always willing to help me, and he’s cute. Seems like last time I saw him his boss was trying to set us up so I just think I need to ask him out. Drinks are easy because it’s not “official”. And that way we don’t need anything else. I’ve been hurt in the past so I think I’m scared of that as well.

[Honeysuckle12345]

If you indeed have your s*** together why are you on this site? 😒 I smell a troll.

What when you sound like a perfect catch except for the arrogant pretenious a****** attitude which people from good families don't often have & I say that coming from a wealthy background to be honest unless their parents are useless... so women should be falling at your feet.

But in reality you're such a non catch you can't even get a date online.

[AaronKrieger]

No, the internet is making people overthink, be divisive, and a bunch of other shit in the west.

Dating is all about having chemistry with someone and finding out if you two are compatible. Only the internet seems to think it's more complicated than that for most people.

[inhua]

it's not the internet though. there's actual statistics to back this up. drop in marriage rates, rise in divorce rates, rise in breakups, rise in promiscuity. the internet isn't responsible, it's the people are.
we don't blame violent video games for violent behavior so why blame the internet when it only reports the news collected from individuals?

many of the bad behaviors in dating is something many people have experienced and it's easy to dismiss when turning a blind eye and pretending everything is all sunshine and rainbows

plus the internet is where people can truly give their real thoughts, for example a woman who is disgusted by short men will never admit this in real life but do so online because she doesn't have to worry about the potential physical ramifications and she gets validation from strangers who agree with her

[WhiteBorr]

Well, dating was never done via a dating apps. My
impression is that more people are hooking up for one-night stands now than putting in effort and courting each other first. The online competition is hyped up with who can take the best angle photo and apply the best filter. Everyone seems to have heightened expectations of others.

I won't assume you're arrogant, simply asking why girls don't match when you feel you have all the things they are wanting. If you have it all bro, you should need dating apps, do everything irl. Else, get a female to setup your profile and pics, if that doesn't work then it must be you and you'll need to work on whatever that is. Good luck

[Kaamraj]

Modern dating is failing but for average man (bottom 80%). This can be verified by swiping patterns on dating apps. It's the top 10% of men and 95% of women who are having all the fun. So I suggest do not waste your energy, time, money, and sanity and uninstall such apps which make you feel small.

[Levin]

Well, the thing I immediately pick up on is the dating context that you give is online dating.

Why not in real life? Cause that takes more effort, you have to have the balls to actually talk to new people and put yourself in new and uncomfortable situations. Aren't you describing the essence of the modern woe in a nutshell? ie digitisation of quick dopamine. The reward is supposed to come after some actual effort.

[Anonymous]

I know what you mean. I don't do dating apps tho. Lol honestly didn't know this was. I am not desperately looking for a husband but it would be nice to find a good man that is honest loyal and faithful. It's weird how the world is now. its all about body counts and who can have the least morals and character. People are so vapid now ah Days! Its to the point I started talking to myself just to have a real conversation. The world has changed but it hasn't been the change I was looking for

[cosmosis181]

This☝️☝️"Who can have the least morals and character." THAT is Western culture now. A graduate class in Self Destruction 101 while the bemoan how "all the immigrants are taking over." Gee, I wonder why.🙄

[Danny_dan92]

Yeah brother. It is, you aren’t alone man. What’s causing it is honestly the internet. The internet combined with social media has made so many people NARCISSISTIC AF. They think they can do whatever they want while in a relationship, it’s wrong.




Meanwhile expecting their partner to be 100% loyal to them.

[Dantiger45]

Damn straight, bro.. you're so right...

[CallmeTheKnight]

I wouldn’t say dating is bad, you’re just not the guy you think you are. You might need to work on yourself a whole lot more because it sounds like you’re also biased when you’re dating. You don’t have much to offer at all as far having a lasting a fulfilling relationship… you can’t even establish a method of courting.


You have much better chances talking to women in person rather than online.

[SolitarySolace]

Yes. I blame politics. Women going liberal leftist and praising hate towards men in order to bolster themselves while men are trending conservative because they want to be heard and they aren't being heard when it comes to their own issues.

https://youtu.be/uAroY9wE8Hc?si=gz1bfCyWfCckHkoq

[Meropatrick]

YES. A german guy told me before. In germany its all about one nightstands now. The goverment and policies are encourging casual sex, and sexual freedom of all sorts, gay people r having sex in parking lots all the time. Thats how easy is to be gay in those countries and how much its encourged. focusing on emphasising the importance of just making money, to pay taxes, and protecting the planet by having less children and carbon footprint.

[Meropatrick]

What made women in the past want a man wasn't love. It was need. Women needed financial security which only the man provided. But since women are working now they dont need a man that much.