I really just got to know the results of this pole?
Why waste too much of your time on someone who is misrepresenting themselves.
Until you meet IRL, you are missing out on a person’s body language which can covertly send out red flags. Then you have the issues with either of you not meeting the physical requirements you are seeking.
Someone will say that just from texting with the other online that this person meets all the personality requirements only to find out in person they have a lazy eye and a hump on their shoulder blade.
On the other hand, if both individuals check off all the personality, physical and mental requirements, the two of you can then step up the relationship to a higher notch.
Nothing beats flirting in person to get the juices flowing and following up by passing go and collecting $200.
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Terrible idea. The only point of chatting is to set up an in person meet. Otherwise it's a complete waste of time.
I had my 3 step rules when I was single.
1-2 weeks.
I met my ex hubby on match years ago.
1. they say hi…we emailed each other within a day or 2. Then text…then call. Within a week.
2. the phone call/interview gives me a lot of info if I would want to meet in person the following weekend.
3. 2nd week - meet in person. I will know immediately in person if There is chemistry.I don’t like to waste my time and others. I don’t like to text. I make quick decisions bexause I know what I want. but always friendly and pleasant.
Where’s the option to just meet people IRL period without it starting online or on a dating site? Cuz that would be the option I’d choose
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Texting or even talking on the phone is a poor substitute for meeting in person. You can talk for months and then finally meet, only to discover that you feel no chemistry with her. Meet her as soon as she is comfortable enough to do that, take the chemistry test, and either keep going or start looking for somebody else. . . but stop wasting time!
Not a great idea because it will just fizzle out before you even meet.
Texting and talking a few tines to learn the basics s out each ither is okay, but the main goal should be to arrange a meeting. And that shouldn't take more than a week, two weeks max.
I like to get some of the basics out of the way, their interests, are we even compatible, what they are looking for as far as relationships go, but meeting in person is still better.
You can see how they interact, body language, get to see more of the real person.
We all are on our best behavior when we meet, you choose foods that won't drip all over your first date shirt, you wouldn't burp or fart...
It's easy to reply to a computer screen, you get to carefully script your reply, redo the parts that you don't like and rewrite it.
With in person you don't get to do that.
Once it's out there it's out there, and you get to see how they interact with others.
That is a quick way as a guy to wind up in the friend zone. You don't ha e a big window to show interest by asking a woman on a date and show intent. If you don't ask her out soon and delay with just talking for weeks, you will only be a friend.
Been there done that. She's bored and you're her entertainment. They admit it themselves. "I have a boyfriend, I'm not here to meet anyone." BTCH WHY ARE YOU ON A DATING APP THEN! And THEN, they're listed as "single." It says I'm single but I don't know how to change it tee hee hee!"
I let her decide the pace so to speak. You can kind of tell when a conversation is progressing to meeting and when she is apprehensive.
I've had women type 3 sentences and want to meet. I've also had women want to talk for a couple of weeks.
I reject the notion that there has to be a time limit on something. If I feel like the conversation has lost it's momentum I'll suggest we meet and if she doesn't want to then she'll get pushed to the back burner.
The important thing to understand is everyone's time is important. I'm not going to waste hers. She can ask me where my heads at at anytime I'll shoot her straight. But I deserve the same respect.
Well I don't do the dating app thing but yeah I would say at least two weeks. I would like to know something about the person I plan to meet in person and maybe try to figure out if they are catfish or not. It seems that's what most of my friends did that tried dating apps.
hmm looking at the poll, zero women like that idea where as most of the male vote likes it. but they day guys are the ones rushing things. the numbers say the exact opposite.
For me, I'd rather meet after a week or so. There is much more you can get out of a person in their vicinity vs on the phone as most communication is nonverbal.
If I was using that type of social media, which I'm not and I expect that I never will be, I wouldn't want to wait a week. Some of boyfriends have not last a whole lot longer than that. I would say, "Meet me at Braum’s" or any public place for an Ice Cream or Tea. I should know within an hour if I wanted to see him again. If, I didn't, then I would not have wasted a week of my time over such foolishness.
No. Meet as soon as you can. You're there to find the love of your life, try to get off that app as soon as possible so you can talk in person to get a real impression on eachother. A picture and a bio can only do so much.
Bad idea because you could get your hope very high after a more prolonged time, and then you meet in person, and there's no chemistry from the start as if you haven't texted that long or heard each other that long. Then you realize that you just wasted your time. It is better to check in person asap if there's chemistry.
There's no option for "Guys, Nope" but that's my answer. Nobody's got time for that ist. If you can't even be bothered to meet for coffee you're getting replaced with someone who will.
It's a waste of time to communicate before meeting in person and finding out if there is mutual attraction.
I prefer to chat over text for a bit. Even tho I met my husband in person we texted for awhile before going on a date
No, I want to meet ASAP. I don't waste my time if I can avoid it.
I’ve never online dated, but if I was I would want to meet them within a week of chatting. Carrying on a chat convo shows interest, in my opinion, so I wouldn’t want to delay meeting them, even for coffee.
Maybe a bit longer than that actually. And a few years of hanging out as friends before getting into a relationship with her.
I think it's a GREAT idea! I fully endorse this method. It saves a lot of wasted gas money and restaurant bills.
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