Do you think men care about a woman’s career?

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I don’t think men care about a girls career and how ambitious she is. We care how nice and pretty she is and we care more about if a girl can cook, clean and be a good mother more so than her career and achievements.

I’m saying this because a girl got angry at me for saying this which I was surprised at.

Friendlybro79 · Accepted Answer

You're 21 years old so I'm not sure if you're already rich, in line to inherit a ton of money, or have already landed over a 6 figure job with room for growth. That said at your age and unfortunately generation, you might need to all care about (for hetero couples) what career your girlfriend/wife has and how much she makes because you won't be able to afford rent/ mortgage and all living expenses with pricing right now.

I'm not saying you're not allowed to want a traditional set up because there are plenty of women that still look for this too. I just don't see it feasible with living expenses for 95% of Americans (if you're in the US at least). I'm always curious when young people feel this way if they live in big cities or rural areas because that could play a role in living expenses.

But if you're making 100k gross in the US right now that's not a lot to survive for a couple considering you have to take roughly 15 percent to set aside for retirement, pay for if you're lucky a portion of your healthcare, all your utilities, food, mortgage, taxes , and some extra if you want to leave your house and have fun once in a while.

Where I live you need roughly 200k a year gross to be able to afford a house in my neighborhood and do all the above. Maybe a little less if you're lucky enough to get a pension and get free healthcare I'd say 150-175k gross then. If you're living in a place less expensive than me, which I hope you do, you're still going to need to make I'd say 100k to survive. It took me a while to get there maybe you'll get there faster.

Have you thought about all this? If you want kids having one parent at home will save you in childcare but I didn't add that into the above equation.

Miristheiss · Accepted Answer

Let's define our terms.

"Care"?

What do people mean when they say care?

Let's assume that we are talking about attraction. Does a woman's career, her status and income make her more attractive to a man the same way a MAN'S career and his income makes him ATTRACTIVE to a woman.

NO, it doesn't.

When a guy is sexually attracted to a woman, if he is drawn to her, can't take his eyes off of her, when a man is looking for a long term partner, wants to fall in love, wants to get married, her career has zero role in that.

While he may be pleased she likes what she does, he may appreciate the additional money her career income adds to the family, he may have a sense of "good for you" when she has a degree. Well, good for her, I'm sure she worked hard, I'm happy for her... etc. BUT... BUT nothing of these have anything to do with attraction.

Attraction is usually just how pretty she is, her figure, her femininity, her personality and how sweet, soft, girly, personable she is, her value system, how easy going and pleasant she is to be around, how much she likes him and makes him feel respected and wanted.

A woman's career has zero to do with attraction and her a potential life partner or "falling in love".

electromagnetic · Accepted Answer

I guess it really depends on the guy.
Speaking from personal experience, when I met my partner I wasn’t in a space that I felt I needed to be. I took him my goals and ambitions career wise. After a year together, he picked up an extra working gig while still in his career field so that we can stay on top of our bills and lifestyle and I went to school full time.
When I graduated, we switched roles.

I really think it depends on the dude and their love and support for their partner.

xKayTea · Accepted Answer

I disagree only because there are different type of men and women, and as we aren't bound to our biology as much as our ancestors, this means some men don't care much for children (my partners dad being one). So I can't say heavy disagree or agree, as every man is different.

Avicenna · Answer

To at least some extent, yes. It matters because she may have debts to pay, may have kids, etc., or if she makes little money she may expect him to fully support her,

coachTanthony · Answer

Men who say no are usually the ones who bitch about paying on a first date lol

ohsheeT · Answer

No matter if she's your friend if she's your girlfriend your wife if you're involved in her life it doesn't matter what you think it only matters what she thinks and no matter what she decides to do you want to support her the best way you possibly can because you are who you hang out with in life and no matter which direction she's going to go for me anyway I'm going to make her the best that she can possibly become this is her destiny her life her agenda and I will go with the flow but whichever way the flow is going I'm going to back her play no matter what it is

monorprise · Answer

I can't say I care about a woman's career or earning potential. A career exist for no other propose than to provide us with resources to support our family. At the end of the day nobody is going to care what job you did or whom you worked for decades after your gone.

The business will probably have long since ceased to exist and whatever you did having been been redone and forgotten.

Your children and their children however on the other hand will always very much care that you had, raised, and took care of them for they owe their existence to that fact.

Just as we owe ours to our ancestors even greater effort.

As such given the primary important of a mother to her children, its hard to even think about anything else as even worth mentioning to day compared to her efforts there never-mind 200 years from now.

When your family legacy is all that is left of you in this world.

snowboarder720 · Answer

I’m engaged to a gorgeous woman who out schools me, earns more than I do, and helps me maintain our living situation.
We both motivate each other to do our best in both of our careers and what we want in life. I’ll admit I’m a lucky dude!

To answer your question I think there’s a lot of men that don’t care about a women’s career and frankly women shouldn’t give a damn what anybody thinks. They deserve a career just like anybody else.
Any boy who doesn’t care about a woman’s career is definitely stuck in the old days and not really up to speed with gender equity and it’ll really show in their character.

Mansearching · Answer

Of course I do. I don't wife or girlfriend to be dependent on me. She needs to be independent. I mean financially. I'm not in any spot to pay for anyone elses bills but mine.

So I will always support a woman's career. Give advice when needed (if she askes). There is no harm in that.

Then you have the shovenistic a-holes that want houseslaves sorry housewives that they think women/ wives should serve their every whim. I don't. I get off my ass and get it myself. Doing that for over 20+years.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Men like dumb women.

When I act smart, I get approached far less than when I act dumb.

I can say something silly now and all men will feel at least little attraction to me.

They don’t care about your career.

They subconsciously want you to be dumb enough to be exploited.

Anonymous · Answer

Impressed? I think there are certain careers women can have that guys "respect," because it can be indicative of what kind of heart she has... in terms of empathy. I know guys that gear more towards the personalities of RN's, EMT's and such. The snottiest, most entitled snakes I've ever came across were women who work in fields just the opposite of that... in the office of some corporation, or anything white collar. Women who work in tougher fields, like cops and soldiers... and I've run into several... tend to be a LOT more empathetic than ones who sit on their ass in a high rise office running their mouths. So impressive may not be the right word... but guys certainly can have more respect for women in some fields more than others.

CurrentJohn · Answer

I can`t answer that question because I care neither about her carrier nor about how good she can clean or cook. I care about her personality and not what job she does and I cook and clean by myself. It would be cool if she had an interesting job but I`m not dating by picking girls for their career. Something most woman care very much about when dating men.

KingOfMe1 · Answer

Some do and Some don't.
I personally do not. However, if the girl is constantly showing a poverty consciousness/mindset that's what I wouldn't like.
Nobody wants to be around someone who is complaining about lack of money.
Not because money isn't important but because that mindset gets passed right down to your kids. Most warfare recipients are 4th 5th generation. That's not an accident. Mental conditioning is very real.

nastyb · Answer

I think it really depends on what kind of man you are.

if you're a genius, hard working man who has dedicated his entire life to academics, you probably wouldn't want an airhead for a wife.

just take a look at all our recent presidents, all of them are married to very successful , educated women. Jill Biden has a Phd. Michelle obama is a lawyer. Hillary Clinton is also a lawyer. Laura Bush is a published author. I mean... they could've all just married their maids instead.

demonics · Answer

In my field:

60% will leave the workforce after 2 years, right when maternity leave kicks in.

An additional 40% will leave after 5 years.

The women who return to work will only do so if its part time. i. e. 2 days a week.

A woman's career is a bottle rocket, a mans career is a diesel engine.

DextroShade · Answer

A woman's money and career are useless to a man because they aren't going to spend it on us. Also, the traits that enable someone to make a lot of money are not traits you want in a girlfriend or wife. The only guys who care about a woman's career are fucking losers.

Redstang88 · Answer

Yeah. Reality is it’s just not possible to have a decent quality of life on one income anymore. I’m not saying I expect her to make as much money as me but it absolutely does matter that it’s something she enjoys and will contribute to expenses

Unit1 · Answer

I care how she makes her money. Be it a career, business, investments, swing trading, taking money from men online so long it's not something like OnlyFans or being a prostitute.

Without money we will perish of starvation unless you live with the sentinelese tribes or you grow your own food.

My point being having multiple sources of income to be more than secure for whatever comes next. If I lose my job, me and her are under the threat of starvation.

This is life 101.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I care about that, a lot actually.

Not specifically what career she has while I meet her, but which one she wants.

She has to have the same career aspirations/goals/ambitions/skills/talents as me, or its not going to work out.

I want to run a home business with a wife, where we make and sell cool stuff. And before that, being a dual income household alone makes her job matter.

RingOfFire · Answer

The only reason I care about a woman's career is because if she has a very busy high powered job I have no interest in her. It's a turnoff. I want a woman who is available to me and more into me and family than her career. I can take care of the rest myself. I like a traditional woman. Who the fuck cares if other women like that or not? I'm not interested in them anyway.

Staximus · Answer

As long as she's not a bum. I don't care if she's a cashier or a brain surgeon. Of course being a brain surgeon is impressive, but I would give a cashier the same chance and respect. I wouldn't care about the status, prestige, wow factor, money bullshit like a lot of women do. A lot of status chasing women want to date celebrities. I would never want to date a celebrity. Imagine the press and people bothering you everywhere. I would punch them out and go to jail by the end of every week.

FreyaRed · Answer

My ex was deeply interested in positive development of my career, because I was the one who paid bills. However it wasn't enough to upkeep his parasitic butt, he wanted money, of course in shape of a credit that I would never get back.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I don't think most men care about a woman's career but most men that have good careers tend to be with women that have good careers as well.

I don't think you're going to see a male doctor dating or married to a woman who works at Burger King anytime soon.

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