Because it's so cynical and superficial. They don't really like that person... they only like and admire them for their physical attributes. There's so much more to a person than just good looks and hair. A person cab have great hair and physical traits, but their personality may not be all that great! Looks can be deceiving.
To solely date someone because you're attracted to then physically isn't enough and the relationship will never go below surface level, if they don't look into the person within.
Now, someone may, at first, date someone because of their physical appearance. They may be attracted to that at first, but hopefully with time, they begin to learn more about that person and like and love them for who they are. For me, I do want to be attracted, physically, to the person that I'd like to date, but that's not what's most important. Even over time, looks fade. So, dating a person just based off of looks is a bad idea, because one day, you could wake up next to that person and not recognize or be attracted to them anymore!
Why they lie, the first thing attracts anyone is the appearance you can't see the personality from the first look after you get to know them you will see the personality
Stop lying...
Personally I would have clarified with them. I was telling my friends to not date girls based SOLELY on their looks. relationships that start with looks only typically fail. so from that view point that is actually good advice to not date people for their looks. however that doesn't mean date a person that looks like they lost a fight with brick wall. looks should be essentially an extension of who that person is. think of it like this. would you rather date the 10/10 super model who treats you horribly, the 6/10 who treats you really well or the 1/10 that treats you like a god. most people obviously don't want the ogre. many would initially say the model is fine until they consider how horribly they are getting treated. as such the 6/10 ends up being the more common choice and as she or he is a bit above average and if they treat you really well it enhances the physical looks.
u I actually think that's fine...
you are doing her a favor
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I honestly think the problem is when someone strings someone along and later hits them with the “I’m not attracted enough to you” versus just saying it from the beginning. There has to be physical attraction for any relationship to happen but personality does still play a role. Don’t really know of any men in real life that went down in looks but I know women who have because the man had other things they valued more (stability etc)
u Why do you care about what anyone else says? It's only a problem if you allow it to be a problem.
I think that most people consider normal to look about people appearance when they date, but your way of thinking is quite uncommon. Having intentions of breaking up with a woman because of her haircut is an evidence that you don't love her. Its more common for women to make changes in their hair, therefore most men don't what you said, because they love her despite her haircut.
In the other hand, there are some women who want their boyfriend to keep short hair, because they don't feel so feminine if their boyfriend have long hair. Some of them can pressure their boyfriend by denying kissing him while he doesn't get a haircut but I don't think most of them would break up with him unless they don't love him.
I know it is wrong to only be with someone for their physical appearance. With that being said, the physical appearance is the first thing we notice. But if you don't click with them, or they don't click with you, then all you got is something that looks good. A flower looks good but you can't be in love with it. You can't marry it. I'm just saying you got to have everything working together in the proper order so that things will work.
There are sure a lot of very very beautiful/sexy women in this world, and 99% of them I will never even get a chance with.
Seriously, there's nothings wrong with a man breaking up with a woman because of her haircut!
Then, is it OK for a woman to break up with a man because of becoming poor or sick or ugly?
Please stop objectifying people!
Women are not cars!
people still clings to an idea that we should be look straight into the soul of the people we choose to mate and physical attraction is irrevelant which is utter bullshit by the way since no one would be curious of someone they don't find attractive, sex is the spine of the relationship without it being solid it will eventually collapse.
a People who get mad at this are probably the ones being rejected by a person they like. You cannot help what you like, and who you prefer, and if you're not on someone's list, its easy to see why you'd be offended and want to seemingly try to force them to ignore what they like for you, rather than accept it's not going to work out and move forward to someone who does genuinely like all of you. Honestly if you think this person is a jerk, than they weren't right for you in the first place!
Buying the car for the color regardless of the model would be a better analogy. Cars can always just be repainted with relative ease, but that'll never change what they are actually built for or capable of.
Physical looks shouldn't ever be disregarded in full, but neither should their personality. Putting all of your eggs into either basket is just asking for eventual failure.
Honestly, if you ask people "Why do you like she/him" and they hit you back with "Oh their personality" they are 100% bullshitting you. If someone has terrible hair problems or body problems, we will subconsciously stop liking them, because our biological side of reproduction doesn't want a child who will be born with those issues. I don't think it's wrong to be judgmental. Bottom line, we are VERY judgmental creatures and if people can't handle criticism, then that's their problem.
For your information a woman with looks but not character is on the same level as a girl with character but not looks and in top stands a girl with looks and character so ofc you would want the looks and the character but I’ll tell you something:it’s too draining and exhausting to date a girl just for looks and not a bit of fitting personality!
There's nothing wrong with anyone dating anyone else for any specific reason, as long as it doesn't hurt anyone or violate the statutes of the nation, state or municipality in which it's conducted. I keep hearing about how unreasonable women are for having standards and requirements that are supposedly too daunting for guys to fulfill, but somewhere, somehow, some lucky guys are spending quality time with these beautiful women. It just takes a little more work than it used to.
it's not so much as it is wrong, but what are you going to do when her body changes with age, a few more pounds here, gravity starts wining the perky boobie battle, she might want to cut her hair or grow it out, are you going to sump her?
I get there has to be some sort of attraction to start with to spark an interest but like it or not we all change over time.
Men are visual, it's as simple as that. Expecting men to date ugly women or women with danger hair is like expecting women to date short broke dudes.
Short hair also says a lot about the woman's character in addition to looking ugly; it says that she is not very feminine and doesn't care to look good for her man. This is why it's a deal-breaker for men who are worth a damn or have self-respect.
We all have our preferences but only men are shamed for them.
If I tell someone I like fairer skin they will think I am racist and something bad. But when they end up doing the same then it's acceptable. Look if you love someone you will not want them to look their best all the time but some things are unchangeable. Who are others to decide what someone finds attractive or not
Okay I would never break up with my girlfriend if she cut her hair or even if she gets fat, because she’s the only girl I think I am capable of romantically truly loving. And when you find someone like that physically attractive girls are pretty much nothing to you.
The problem is not having a preference, the problem is deceiving and giving false hope to someone. It's not uncommon to see people claiming to have preferences, but who also have relationships with people they don't prefer just for sex or hobbies. If you're in a relationship and don't want it anymore, then end it and no matter the reason, that's not a problem either. The problem is wasting someone's time.
Lux is genetic programming, telling someone not to like someone for their looks or dislike them for their looks is like taking not to breathe oxygen
because that is lust, not love. Just like saying how a woman is dating a man so she can take advantage of him paying for free meals. Its really not love.
Because it’s shallow. But to be fair, looks are the first datapoint you have. Much more difficult and time intensive to build an emotional connection /friendship first then convert to something else…
Everyone has things that make somebody attractive. Just because it may be superficial does not make it wrong
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