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I've never had a girlfriend, and because of this, I find that in the past and currently when girls are nice to me and talk with me that I start to get some sort of feelings towards them.
I worry that these feelings are simply out of loneliness rather than true feelings for someone.
I worry that these feelings are simply out of loneliness rather than true feelings for someone.
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Absolutely.
But eventually, with more experience, you will come to know the difference.
And you will also see examples of others misinterpreting your warmth, etc. for romantic interest.
It all happens. Social skills and awareness need to be learned over time.
Do I just ignore the feelings as best as I can or test them?
Oh, depends. It's really a case-by-case basis.
Females tend to believe in starting off as friends first, quite often. I asked a q about this once on here.
Men don't think this happens often, but it does. Females, I guess, need to get comfortable with a guy. They're more timid or wary?
But there are no golden rules about interpreting the other gender's signals and behaviour. Do they or don't they like me, is an age old q.
Whether or not to pursue something more with them, or test the waters as you way, is almost impossible to know for certain. You might have to weigh the potential risks vs. rewards.
I don't know what else to say, given the myriad factors that can be involved in something like this.
I just read your other exchange here and realize it's about your feelings changing, not theirs.
I mean, you can't really know if you like each other without getting to know each other.
If you treat her fairly, respectfully, don't make any promises, then you're basically off the hook if you get to know her better and lose interest. That's just life. You're not at fault.
I understand. I appreciate your advice and guidance!
I have quite the bad attitude where I don't believe a girl will like me more than a friend/acquaintance in the first place.
It is hard to gauge myself with my lack of experience and desire to be with someone what's real and isn't, but you're right about testing or ignoring it.
The last thing I would want is to hurt a girl, with all the problems these days with relationships, I just want to treat someone right and well...
It’s possible. As humans we are social beings. So we crave connection and companionship via platonic or romantic. So it’s possible you’re attracted to them because they are showing interest and really what is wrong with that? It’s at this stage you get to know them and evaluate your feelings and decide if you enjoy them as friends or want them as more.
I do just worry that the feelings are false long term.
For example there's a girl at work who's 27 with a 3 year old kid, crazy exes and stuff, but she's always smiley and nice with me and I feel a bit of attraction, but I know she's completely not my type but I still feel that tension
It’s perfectly normal to feel a bit of attraction even to girls whom are riddled with red flags. Sometimes we allow ourselves to be more optimistic than realistic because we crave attention and someone is fulfilling that desire. It’s up to you if you want to pursue it and see where it leads. Sometimes it’s just good for the experience. I mean you’ve never had a girlfriend… you don’t even have a baseline yet for what is good or bad. Acceptable or unacceptable.
I'm nearly 23, my age is wrong.
I think the lack of female attention sort of exaggerates girls behaviour to me. I think I worry about the feelings fading and then potentially hurting a girl because of losing the attraction
Once again, you have no experience. Don’t worry so much about things you know nothing about. Experience them and learn from them. If you worry the whole time you won’t allow yourself to enjoy anything.
That said, go in with the best intentions. Don’t think I’m saying you have free rein to be a dick. Because that’s not what I’m saying at all.
The last thing I want is to hurt anyone. I know my own morals and how I'd want someone to treat me.
Appreciate the advice !
Yes definitely! I dont think its loneliness, its a real feeling when someone cares or pays attn to you