There is a very large portion of the male population that is very desperate. If you give off hints of that, you're fucked.
Women have insecure weirdos trying to fuck left right and center. They Get so many guys interested they can quickly categorize you into either normal guy or desperate and gross.
In the same way that women have to work on their beauty in order to satisfy male desire while looking for a mate, so do you as a man have to change.
But you don't get to wear makeup. And what exactly you should do is impossible to say because nobody can quantify what exactly women are attracted to.
So basically you're fucked son.
My solution is that men understand the dom/slave dynamic. Once you know that you can understand female sexuality.
Essentially it's like this:
You are the big strong man with sexual urges. She is the small weak female.
Her ultimate dream is to be enslaved by a powerful man. Ideally powerful in all realms of power.
He with the strength and her whose body is at his access at his will.
She wants to be used by him. She wants to be a table for him. She wants to wear leather and be turned into a slave footstool.
Once you understand women's fantasies, it all starts to make sense why women act the way they do. Why they chase bad boy's and so on.
All you need to learn as a man is how to satisfy those fantasies She has in the bedroom.
You don't have to be perfect. All you have to do is understand female sexuality and demonstrate the ability to satisfy her needs.
I could write a book. I want to.
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Dude, I used to lament about the same thing in my early 20s. And there’s no easy answer here. You have to change your perspective. Instead of being angry and frustrated at the seemingly unfairness of life, turn the focus on yourself. Only YOU have the power to change circumstances. Improve yourself. This means investing in a skill. Getting out. Not being afraid. Meeting people and actually conversing. Developing boundaries. Being authentically kind yet knowing when to say no. Growing. admitting when you’re wrong and being okay with that
When you’re not worrying about finding a woman, they’ll oddly enough find you. Because at that point you’re content with yourself, you have a sense of self worth and can confidently handle any situation.
No woman wants a whiny little puss cake who bitches about lifes unfair hand. It just shows he’s got no control. No lead. It shows he’s NOT a man
So take control and DO something.
it's not easy to find a good & loyal compatible partner.
it is easy to find someone to take an interest. If you are having issues with it, maybe consider what could be some of those challenges and what can you do to work on yourself in those areas i. e. personality, morals, demeanors, intentions, values, goals, hygiene, physical, spirituality, communication skills, how you treat others, etc. It can be a combination of things. For example,
I can meet a guy who has a typical good looks & stable, but if his personality is bad & bad morals... I dont even find him attractive easily anymore.
I can meet a guy who has has a good and charming personality, good looks, and stable... but he is a player & flirts around... I would also be turn off and lose attraction.I can meet a guy who is like average looking, but seem like a great person, charming, has goals, and align values... I can start being interested.
Just treat us nicely, like you would any friend of yours. Sign up for classes in things you're interested in. If you find someone you like, do thoughtful things for them. Put thought into every compliment you give. Avoid talking about things she is born with (like beauty, hair), instead focus on things she has chosen or done. Don't be a creepy stalker and make sure you pick up on any signals if you aren't welcome. If she smiles or laughs, she's probably okay with you but note any discomfort in body language. If she walks away from you, without any friendliness, leave it be.
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If you take care of yourself, it gets easier as you get older. The difficult part is finding someone compatible.
If you find yourself getting frustrated, take a break from dating and do other things.
Because for some people, getting a girlfriend is easy for them. If someone asks you something they think is difficult, but for you, it's easy, wouldn't you respond back by thinking it's "the easiest thing in the world", or at least easy?
I'm having an extremely hard time believing no girl (or woman) had ever liked you, or been interested in you at your age. Hell, I'm sure girls have been checking you out since puberty. You probably don't realize girls are checking you out, or are interested in you.
Finally, you very well may happen to find in girlfriend in the next few days, or weeks. Most males in your age group aren't very bright, so the bar is very, very low. All you have to do is the bare minimum: Listen to them, talk to them, and smile. It's hard to find women in your age group who don't have a partner, I agree there, but just keep trying.
Its not easy for guys. Girls are getting many hits with loads of guys in the dating scene. Even if your and ugly girl, they still get more guys offering them, than a ugly guy.
Most people are saying now, its only 10% maybe less, of the guys that are having success with the women. So that leaves 90% of guys feeling fustrated, angry with the dating scene.
I believe I could get myself a girlfriend, it won't be easy, but I can't bothered with it, more focused chasing after my goals, than chasing women. I don't believe women would make any difference to my happiness.
I've met different kinds of guys, and the ones i run away from very quickly are the ones who are desperate. No matter how hard they try or even though they try to hide it, we can sense that “vibe” very quickly and it is a huge turn off. Nothing else becomes appealing anymore. Not trying to be rude but trying to be helpful.
I read your recent posts. There must be a reason no girl has liked you yet. Obviously none of us can know what that is unless you tell us. Is it your looks, personality, attitude, or something else? Did you say somewhere you dont have a job or do you just work from home? What are your values? Goals? When a girl likes a guy there’s always something about him she admires. A guy always has something to offer. What are yours? Do you like yourself? Are you a confident person?
I think it’s important to think about possible reasons why girls never liked you and work on improving that and more.“it won’t possibly happen in the next few days or weeks.”
Dude can you give me those powerball numbers please I didn’t know that you were psychic
women love men with a sense of purpose
“Success is the progressive realization of a worthy goal or ideal.”
whatever path you choose to walk in your life I promise you there are many women along the way
you are in your fucking 20s you have so much life ahead of you
beat off every night if you have to until
but I promise you that if you do what you love the women will come
we are all self made but only the successful will admit it
It can be challenging but look at where you are and start from there. Your social skills suck? Read up on it and work on yourself. You don’t know how to talk to girls find a book and gain knowledge. The more mistakes you make the closer you get to fixing them and finding someone for yourself and trust me your probably not as bad as you think. Sometimes there’s just a few things that can make a big difference and once you gain the confidence it will be a lot easier. It’s like riding a bike, it seems scary at first but you do it a few times and you don’t think about it anymore. When you have the experience you’ll stop beating yourself up. But first work on the areas that you need work on and even do it with girls. Why not? Just don’t have any expectations except to learn.
well... it doesn't have to be hard. you're 24... you're acting like you're 74. you have so much more to experience and so much more time. and not having a girlfriend by the time you're age 24 is literally NOTHING in the grand scheme of things. turn your attitude around. maybe someone will find you pleasant to be around.
Because it simply is for them. They have a luckier hand dealt to them. Best not to pay much attention to those types if you disagree with them. Instead, you may need to find people like you who share your specific obstacles. But make sure they've either had dating success or are seeking it in intelligent ways.
Some people do seem to have better luck. My best friend was way better looking than me. He always had lots of girlfriends and had sex way before I did. I used to be jealous sometimes but maybe I would appreciate the girlfriends that I did have. He is on his 4th marriage. I will be married to the same person forever
If you have an active social life and are meeting new people regularly, it should be very easy. I know men that have had 3 or 4 different women to choose from to date, and I hear that often.
It is the easiest thing in the world if you put in the effort. It's a learned skill. Be someone worth dating and they will date you. If you aren't getting dates, you aren't worth dating yet. It only takes 4-6 months to figure it out.
it is, for guys who know how to talk to girls, which can be learned
everybody is giving you advice but theyre right. you dont want advice, you just wanna complain. keep it up and you'll be single the rest of your life. you dont even know the problem why you can't get one girlfriend? its easy to see why.
Because it is. I've got lots of girlfriends :)
I've written four dating profiles for guys on this site.
How many of those guys do you think had the courage to post them?
My boyfriend found me by joining POF about 9 years ago, but I’ve heard the dating sites have changed a lot. Things used to be simpler I think , and also everything seems to be pay to win now
It’s not easy, it’s usually through family and friends setting you up is the best way or you could try your luck and dating apps like Bumble or Okcupid but that’s about it but unless you have good confidence there is no easy way
Because society is so fixated on the hook up culture.
Got me! I've been trying for the past 28 years (as of tonight) and I haven't been able to get one!
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