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So I started dating this guy around 2 months ago, we kiss and cuddle but still no sex, he said he likes to take it slow. I thought it was genuine until I found out from a friend who he told that he just doesn't feel sexual attraction to me and is waiting it out to see if it happens? I feel so ugly and disturbed by this revelation now, don't think I want to do anything with him anymore.
He feels no sexual attraction toward you, but he cuddles with and kisses you? Sounds like mixed messages.
Why would he want to cuddle with you and kiss you if he feels no sexual attraction toward you?
Would you kiss and cuddle with a man you were not attracted to?
It appears he can't make up his mind, so you're wasting your time with him.
Please don't feel ugly simply because HE says he's not attracted to you. Everyone has a complicated list of what they do or don't find attractive. At least you've found out quickly and haven't had to linger around. Cut your losses and move on.
Don't forget to tell him exactly WHY you've called it off and leave it at that. He's using you as a placeholder until something "more attractive to him" comes along. Don't stand, cuddle or kiss for this. Exit. Good luck in the future.
How about the fact he isn’t using you for sex? If he didn’t care about you he would have done it by now and gone on his merry way.
Some people are slow burners. Maybe it takes more than just sexual attraction for him. That’s called being Demi sexual…..
This is something you should discuss and explore. Speaking as a man who has a very tight knit team, currently of all men (but we’ve had women in the past too) and sort of the father figure to many of the younger ones know this is true:
Most men are very sexual. Not all, but definitely most. If you aren’t making his engine purr then at some point he’s likely to either find a girl who is, or just be sad that he no longer has that feeling and it will lead to problems in your own relationship.
The two solutions, as I see it and would advise my female teammates (if we still had some) channel your inner dirty girl and seduce your man. If that doesn’t break through the barrier then you know nothing else ever will and save both of you some pain and move on.
Partially, I was unsure at first to in what became my best relationship ever since I found it a bit hard to gauge her and it was a very long distance. But after that initial doubt I learnt how incredible she was and it grew into a fantastic relationship.
Everything has its time though, if they take much longer than they are doing in your case i'd probably just find someone who loves me for me. Being unsure should be a side product of not knowing enough, not a side product of not liking them enough.
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Ya either have it or ya don’t …. waiting is just prolonging the inevitable …
Well, yeah that's probably dead, unless he really is a slow burner and takes the time to get into somebody.. But it doesn't seem as though that's his deal.. And it's been 2 months as well.. He seems like a good guy for sticking around and trying to see if it comes up though..
If he just wanted sex, he could have sex, dump you, and move on. He has not done that. Apparently, he sees things about you that he likes, because he continues to date you. And as we get older, men do sometimes develop attraction as they become more familiar with you. So he is being hopeful and respectful.
Dump him if you want, but mybe the next guy will just fuck you and then forget you.
I agree with you. If he’s not attracted to you you guys shouldn’t be dating each other. It’s possible he might be gay, or asexual, or some other sexuality that isn’t interested in feminine genders, so don’t take this personally.
I wouldn't. Not sure is a final assessment and places you in a constant position of having to appease them. You do not ever want to maintain an uneven relationship unless it compensates in some way. This one appears not to.
This is how 90% of guys feel when they find out their girlfriend settled for them only after having hookups in the past. It's demeaning and cruel. Especially when girls lie.
Nope.
u I would not even start dating them, no thanks... lol
The danger in this is you will start becoming attached and have feelings for him while he's basically stringing you along.
At first I would have thought maybe he hasn't gotten completely over a previous relationship but 2 months of dating is quite a bit. I'd just ask him about it. What's the worst to happen? You break up like you already knew would happen anyways?
Yeah well, he just doesn't want to breed you, is all. He wants a full relationship, not just see you as his fuck toy.
"he told that he just doesn't feel sexual attraction to me"
wtf? I don't even have to date a girl to know if I'm sexually attracted to her.. Save his and your time and just move on.
I think it might be time to move on.
After 2 months you should know how you feel about someone.
I wouldn't even start dating someone who isn't sure about me.
Deepnds upon how long. Two months is not very much time. If it were a year then I'd be out.
Seriously why would he date someone when he’s not honest and not attracted to the woman he’s dating with! Dumb his ass. That’s so childish of him.
You're damn near 40 asking this question. What do you think? Use your brain
Honestly I don’t think I would, seems like a waste of time
Just flirt with him, if you can tease him you’ll attract him as much as anything else
No, that would hurt so much.
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