He’s going for New Year’s party alone because I’m sick?

[Anonymous]

I got sick few days ago, I got pneumonia. Basically my boyfriend was sick on Wednesday and I think I got it from him but I have very weak immune system and I had really high fever and I went to doctor and he gave me antibiotics. Well of course he keeps saying how horrible he feels but he doesn’t even have a fever 😂 anyway we supposed to go for New Year’s party today to his friend house, but I can’t go cuz I’m sick. He’s gonna go himself. I feel like this is not right. Like he chose his friends and party instead of me. I get it it’s new years but still, what if we get married one day, have kids, then he’s showing that friends will be more important always. I feel like he should stay with me instead of going there, even though that it’s new years. We should have priorities in life and for him looks like friends and parties are his. What do you think guys, am I exaggerating or I’m right?

[Anonymous]

'what if we get married one day, have kids...'

One should always allow a person the freedom to show them who they truly are. You are complaining about him showing you who he is. If he changes trajectory due to your complaints or feeling bad due to what you said, then he is not doing it of his own accord and it still does not change who he is, or his priorities. Thus you should see this for what it is, a blessing that you now know his true priorities.

The problem is when people are shown who a person is... but ignore it or rationalize it away and then later get married... have kids...

If you have a partner you truly love and the New Year (or any other time) is approaching. Your actions tell them who you are by what you choose to do of your own free will.

[Alex-Snow]

Good for u for not going and spreading the bug. It sounds like u want him to hang around and be as miserable as u. Don't u trust him? Let him go and have fun

[Asker]

It’s new years and as my partner he should be with me as I’m always with him. That’s how I think, but i respect your opinion. You don’t need to be rude tho

[Alex-Snow]

Sorry I did not mean to be rude and could have worded it better. Maybe he does not want to get sick again if he hangs with u? Do you two live together?

[Asker]

He actually made me sick, and he says that he’s sick. He was to sick to work but his not sick to go to party which is another problem that I have cuz I always pay for our food, restaurants etc. no we don’t live together

[Alex-Snow]

He should not go out if he is sick.

[MzAsh]

My husband would never go without me if I was sick. That’s just disrespectful.

[Asker]

I think the same, he said they are his friends and he wants to see them. But it’s new years. He was to sick to work during the week but his not to sick to party

[spartan55]

No, you are 100% wrong. He shouldn't miss the party because you are sick. Stop being selfish.

[Asker]

For me his selfish cuz I’m always there for him but he don’t have to do the same? That’s selfish. Thanks for your opinion tho

[spartan55]

You didn't say anything about all that.

[spartan55]

What do you mean by 'there for him' examples?

[Asker]

When his sick I take care of him, I make him breakfast, lunch and dinners every time I’m at his place, I do groceries so after work on Friday he can just go shower and relax, he has some money problems so I pay for everything now, restaurants, takeout, groceries… i help him with all the paperwork for the lawyers, when he was hangover after party before I was making him juices and food so he would recover better, etc etc, so when I’m sick, on new years, he’s leaving me for his friends, I wonder where they are when he needs money or help with anything, cuz I do it all…

[MzAsh]

Girl you need to stop bending over backwards and put your foot down.

[Asker]

So you mean I have a right to be upset about it