Basically I am seeing one girl from my work, we went on 3 dates and I had a very good time. I like her she is cute and I feel very good around her.
2 weeks ago I sent her a message if she would be interested in another date but she said that she is not sure if she will have time that week because of the business trip that is coming in a few days. I said 'no problem, I understand' and that's it. She got back from the trip a few days ago and I am a little bit confused about everything.
She didn't offer any other time for a potential date or anything so it seems to me that basically that was a "soft no" from her side. She also didn't contact me after she got back. In my mind it seems that if she was really interested in me that she would definitely show me that... and at least offer some alternative time for date. I think that me asking her for another date is clear indication that I am interested in her.
Too bad because I like her so far very much.
My question is: how much chasing in dating is normal for you people, for me getting one "soft no" is a NO and that's it, no matter how much I was interested in a girl. I would appreciate both guy's and girl's opinions.
Thanks :)
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Three dates and she hasn’t contacted you? I hate to say it but I don’t think she’s that interested. Maybe try one more time to see if she wants to hang out and if she has an excuse then take it as a firm no. Don’t continue chasing after that. Sorry it’s not working out for you 😞.
You are right she does not seem interested. I won't contact her anymore, I don't see any benefit honestly and I don't chase. Too bad really but that's life :)
Plenty of girls out there. A non co worker is probably a better idea, anyway. Then you can separate work and love life. Good luck!
yes, exactly, thanks :D
Anyone that knows their worth will not chase another in this situation. If you do, then you are communicating you don't know your value..
I agree with you. That's why I decided not to contact her anymore
I dont chase at all and it's worked out very well for me. Highly recommended.
I understand, I don't chase either, not because I think that's a good tactics but because I don't have time for that if the other person don't shows enough interest in me