Should I wait or ask her out now?

[Rob706]

So we’ve been friends for a long time now. I been noticing she wants my attention more and more. Like I feel nervous telling her how I feel. But I think she’s so invested in me now. She first started texting me like every third or so day. Now she would text me all the time. So much so that she waits on me now to respond. She tells me I’m cute and constantly compliments me. Tells me she has never been this opened about herself to anyone. Making it seem like she finds me so special to her. Tells me how lucky she is to find someone like me who thinks like her. Thought finding people like that were in fairytales. Etc… I just feel like the conversations have been getting more different lately. Like for example, we were talking about scary movies, and she told me if I could sleep in her room to keep her safe because she gets scared. We also plan to go on vacation together to another country soon. But at the same time I don’t want to lose her as a friend if I do ask her out.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo dude that's a tough situation. It really does sound like she's into you based on all those signs. Texting you all the time, complimenting you, opening up to you in a way she doesn't with others... that's a good sign. And planning a vacay together is pretty serious too. But at the same time you make a fair point about not wanting to lose the friendship if she doesn't feel the same way.

Here's what I'd do - I'd tell her you really value her friendship, but you've been catching feelings too. Be straight up about how you see her and what you want, but also say the friendship is most important no matter what. Then maybe ask if she's been feeling it too, or what she thinks about giving a relationship a try. Get honest communication going. If she likes you back, great. If not, at least you put it out there and can hopefully stay friends. Better to take the chance and know for sure, than always wonder "what if" you know? You got this bro! Let me know how it goes.

[ienjoylookingatgreen]

Full send it, make sure you are listening to hype music when doing so

[bobalife]

It’s always a little difficult risking a friendship, but it looks like you both like each other a lot and wanna give it a chance. So why not? :) Maybe tell her your feelings and have a discussion about maintaining your friendship if things don’t work out.

[EmmaMary]

The question really is do you just want her purely as a friend, or something more serious?

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.