What do I do my type isn’t attracted to me but the type that would like me would still be more attracted to my friend?

[Anonymous]

My friend is gorgeous. I think we were both similar levels of attractiveness but my type isn’t into me. I like arab, hispanic, white and Asian guys. All those men prefer to date in their culture or specific types of women which I do not fit. I am black I also like black men which are only men who might be into me but the black men that like black women would prefer my friend because she’s much more of their type in the way she dresses and looks.

I don’t wanna copy her she has her own style and look and if I replicated it I’d just look like a worse version of her. I like the way I am but I’m no one’s type aside from the type that'd pick her over me. I don’t want someone whose more attracted to her than me even if he’s loyal don’t want someone that finds my friends attractive, I don’t want to feel settled for. How will anyone ever like me?

[bycrazy]

It's important to remember that attraction is subjective and personal, and people have diverse preferences. It can be challenging when you feel like you don't fit the specific preferences of the people you are interested in, but it's crucial to focus on being authentic and confident in yourself.

Here are a few suggestions:

Embrace Your Uniqueness: Celebrate and embrace your own style, personality, and individuality. Confidence and authenticity can be attractive qualities.

Expand Your Social Circle: Get involved in activities, groups, or communities where you can meet a diverse range of people. Expanding your social circle can increase the likelihood of finding someone who appreciates you for who you are.

Communicate Openly: If you do meet someone you're interested in, communicate openly about your values, interests, and what you're looking for in a relationship. This can help ensure compatibility and understanding.

Challenge Stereotypes: Be open-minded and challenge stereotypes about cultural or racial preferences. While some people may have specific preferences, many individuals are open to dating outside their cultural or racial backgrounds.

Focus on Personal Growth: Work on personal growth and self-improvement. Developing confidence, pursuing your passions, and cultivating a positive mindset can make you more appealing to others.

Remember that finding the right person often takes time, and it's important not to settle for someone who doesn't appreciate you for who you are. Be patient, stay true to yourself, and focus on building meaningful connections.

[slatyb]

People become more attractive as we get to know them. How are you meeting single men?

[Blessedme]

I felt the same. But I didn't seen this as problem. As time pass by I met people that liked me for me. And my people that my friend was interested in were interested in me. Don't change yourself. Be yourself and the right person will love you the way you are.

[Asker]

I don’t think any who she’s liked has ever like me, she’s so magnetic. I hope I will find a guy who like me for me 🙂

[Tharithi]

Magnetic? How?

[Asker]

@Tharithi Why are you responding to every comment? She’s just pretty and fun. She’s the most interesting person I know and although she might not believe it I’m drawn to her and the same way I am other people are. She’s very unique looking and overall just special. Some people are alluring

[Blessedme]

Having many males interested in your friend may affect your self esteem. But just few people you liked are interested in your friend doesn't mean the end of the world. Don't focus on these things. Work on yourself, take care of yourself and right man will came. And many people out there that will find you attractive! Believe me I am talking from experience.

[Tharithi]

Because your fear is irrational

[Blessedme]

@Tharithi can you leave my reply section? You are so negative.

[Asker]

Thank you she’s been being so weird and responding to everyone just to fight me over a small insecurity I have just to make me feel bad.

[Blessedme]

I noticed that too. Block her then. As for the topic. Please don't let that issue affects your self confidence. You just met people who happen to be interested in your friend only. There's nothing wrong with you!! Be yourself! Love yourself! Good luck!❤

[getwiththepg]

Be uniquely you & you’ll find someone. Also do things to show yourself as being the star in your world, like not having every picture on IG with your friend.

[Tharithi]

How u both look

[Asker]

We both look good but in opposites aside from that, different styles, heights, etc.

[Tharithi]

Could u elaborate

[Asker]

we are both black same color and equally attractive but we dress differently in different styles, wear our hair different, we have different lengths of hair, she’s taller, she’s has more butt, I have more boobs. Stuff like that. We’re both equally attractive but the way she is is more appealing than the way I am. I think If i was white or the same culture as other guys I could be her level of attractiveness to the guys who semi like me as she is to them. If that makes sense. It’s like if i wasn’t black I could suit another guys taste. But she suits the taste of more black men which is the only group that’s semi into me

[Tharithi]

She’s lighter than u? She taller? Has more but?

[Tharithi]

U admit she’s prettier 😂

[Asker]

No i’m saying she’s not prettier but she’s prettier to the type of guys who like me

[Tharithi]

lol 😂 she sounds prettier the way u described

[Asker]

I said were the same color and she’s taller. I don’t think height makes you more attractive though?

[Tharithi]

U are a jealous girl aren’t u

[Asker]

Let’s say she prettier and we’re not just attractive in different ways. What do you want me to do then, give up, never date? Like that makes anything better to think she’s better than me

[Tharithi]

It does 🤣. Taller girls are far more beautiful that’s the beauty standard of the world

[Asker]

and how am i jealous when im saying we’re both pretty in different ways why do you want me to have terrible self esteem. How does that even benefit you. Where did i put her down at all?

[Tharithi]

How do u both wear your hair

[Asker]

She wears it in twist I wear mine natural. I have slighter curl patter to usually I just style it in different ways like pigtails or buns, or out. She’s always told me she’s insecure about her height because guys make fun of her. I think being tall is beautiful but I really don’t think guys have a preference on stuff like that

[Tharithi]

They do. Women who are taller have always been pretty

[Asker]

Im not saying they’re not in simply stating that i’ve met guys who prefer both I don’t know why you’re arguing with me about this. You can even look up a gag question about this most guys want a girl shorter than them and men come in differing heights. It’s really not that deep

[Danny_dan92]

Life isn’t fair. End of story

[Asker]

Yeah but what am I supposed to be about that to find a partner. You have to make the best of everything I’m asking how. If that was your only advice why respond?

[Danny_dan92]

I’m giving you the best bit of advice. To be honest with yourself regarding the situation. What I said is true, we don’t always get what we want.

[Asker]

So in just not gonna get married? How likely does that sound most people do find people i just don’t know how I’ll do that

[Danny_dan92]

Is this the only guy left in the planet?

[Asker]

It’s not about a guy. I’m just talking about in general. I genuinely fear any man who might like me would like her better and other men that i find attractive simply are not into me.

[Tharithi]

Why are u comparing yourself with her , am sure those men can have eyes for women even prettier than her

[Danny_dan92]

Exactly ^

[Asker]

Because we’re together all the time. It’s one thing to see a model in a magazine and see two girls in front of you at once, one of which is more ur type.

[Tharithi]

U have some issues with her? Am sure there are other women around lol

[Asker]

@Tharithi Why would I have an issue with her? I’m literally writing about how much I adore her. Im not worried about other women because she’s the ideal type of any man who would even consider me. I’m just saying she’s so beautiful I get scared they’ll always choose her.

[Danny_dan92]

This girl is fucked. If she could have it her way, she’d kill all the other women in the world so she can have all the cocks to herself.

To the asker, I asked the rhetorical question if this guy is the last guy on earth. You’ll find another guy that wants to mutually fuck you.

If he chooses another girl? Tough shit. Move on. Your life goes on.

[Tharithi]

Why is she ideal?

[Asker]

Dude how am i fucked? I don’t wanna kill every woman. I love my friend and I’d give up any romantic love to see her happy. I’m just saying guys prefer her and how can i stand out without copying her. How terrible is that? Also i’m not talking about fucking I’m talking about love. Men want to sleep with anyone. I’m talking about 1 person in a world of a 4 billion who chooses me first

[Asker]

@Tharithi She’s beautiful and funny and unique looking, she is effortlessly special and loveable. Those things in combination make someone truly unforgettable

[Tharithi]

Exactly obviously finding 1 in billions is not hard. Then why are u assuming all the billion are gonna ignore billions of women for her lol

[Danny_dan92]

^^^^

[Asker]

@Tharithi Im not saying they will omg I’m saying that the few I come across who see us together likely will. That’s all holy shit why are you fighting me so hard in just asking what to do to stand out without trying to be a cheap knock off of her

[Asker]

Dude it’s hard ash I don't know why you think i’m just dumb and confused. It’s not like i have men falling at my feet? I get maybe 1 suitor option every 3 months and most of the type he will find her attractive. Sorry if that’s such a crazy statement. I’m not saying this is my whole life but I’d like a change soon i’m asking how. why are all of you so dense and can’t just offer an opinion to help me get noticed a bit DAMN

[Tharithi]

We are trying to help by saying u are delusional and it isn’t possible for every guy to like her

[Asker]

@Tharithi Im not saying every guy I’m just saying i get a limited number of options a very small portion of guys like quirky black girls and she is more quickly than me so its hard. Im not saying im doomed im just asking for advice on how to stand out to a different crowd or be more appealing in my own way. You might think it’s dulusional but it’s my life story. If you don’t get this after me explaining it a 3rd time i’m gonna block you because you’ve been unecesarily aggressive and basically told me she’s prettier than me and I secretly dislike her or smth when that’s not true. please stop making assumptions about me and either give me adivine that isn’t the same thing you’ve been saying a billion times over or leave me alone

[Asker]

quirky*