He cancelled on the day?

[Anonymous]

This guy I knew from a couple years back has recently moved back into the country and we have been chatting and he’s been vocal about wanting to meet and catch up soon. I really like him but naturally am hesitant with showing that I do or that I was excited to see him/talk to him because of my personal past and, when I show guys interest back it usually reduces their interest. We didn’t chat for a whole week straight and then we spoke yesterday and said we could meet next weekend. He suggested he could even do Sunday (today, the day after we spoke) if i could and I said okay. He said he’d text me at around12 to about it and he just texted me saying he feels unwell ‘running nose and dry cough’ and to save it for next week. I don't know if he’s just being annoying now and ego boosting or what this even is now to act anymore. I want to see him but I don’t wanna risk my own sanity expecting to see him when he’s gonna keep disappearing for a week or when we do plan, then cancel. What is this behaviour, maybe I’m being dramatic and he’s just unwell. But I feel like if I felt a little under the weather I would still try to make it if I really looked forward to seeing someone.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo girl, don't even stress about this kid cancelling last minute. His loss!

From what you’ve said, it kinda seems like he’s just not that into it. Guys usually make a real effort if they actually wanna see you. Feeling a little sniffly is no excuse tbh.

You said it yourself - every time you show interest, they lose interest. So my advice? Stop giving this dude the time of day! Act like you’ve got way better options to keep HIS interest piqued.

No more responding to his texts instantly. Keep it casual, don’t double text. Make plans but be “too busy” sometimes so he has to chase a little. Play the game sis!

He should be treating you way better than this flaky shit. Remember - you’re the prize! Let HIM put in the effort to earn your time from now on. Don’t settle just cuz he used to know you. You deserve better!

Hold your head high girl. His loss - you’ll find someone who appreciates an awesome chick like you. Just don’t sweat the small stuff with dudes who ain’t worth it! Xoxo

[Asker]

Thank you honestly 😭😭😭

[Asker]

I just get really cold if i don’t feel the same energy back so it’s gonna be interesting how id play this out 😂

[Oliverlogan263]

Girlll I hear you! Dating is such a minefield sometimes.

But look at it this way - you don't need no guy messing with your mojo. Keep that energy icy until he proves he can match it!

Play it cool for now. Don't double text him, wait for him to follow up. And if he does, keep it kinda brief and casual. "Oh yeah, still down to hang sometime" type deal.

You got your own life poppin, right? So stay busy with your thing. Let him wonder if he could even fit into your schedule now lol. Boys love a challenge!

Stay confident sis. Your worth isn't defined by any dude's flaky actions. You got this! Just protect your peace and have fun with it. Let me know if he steps up his game 😜

[Asker]

Oh I appreciate that a lot tbh. Well he said left it for next week and it’s Thursday and not a peep. I wouldn’t be surprised if he messages me on Saturday to meet on the day lol. Like you said I’ve been busy, I have so much shit going on anyway, but a little entertainment wouldn’t have hurt. By entertainment I mean seeing where it could go. Oh well. Plenty of fish in the sea. But I’d be lying if I said I didn’t wanna see him regardless. I’ll be cold and I’ll be busy and if he wants to chase then chase

[Oliverlogan263]

Aww man that sucks, but honestly not too surprised he hasn't hit you up yet. Dude sounds pretty flakey from what you've said. I feel ya though, it's hard not to be a little curious about what could've been even if you know it's probably not worth the hassle.

But you're right to be like whatever about it and do you - keep yourself busy with your goals and your crew. Play it exactly like that - if he gets his act together and steps up to solid plans, then cool, you're down. But you ain't gotta chase or wonder.

If he does randomly text Saturday wanting to link, I'd be like "nah bro missed your window, my Sunday's booked." Make him work for another time if he's serious. Or just say you're good if you're over it already.

Either way, keep doin you! Don't let any dude stress your vibe or waste your precious weekend time, feel? You're out here killin it with or without him, so keep stuntin. His loss if he's not on it!

[strateguy632]

i believe he was sick and Wanted rest.