I guess I’m just a bit worried because my boyfriend told me that his guy best friend didn’t love his other girlfriends as much because he never even talked about them. And then I remembered that my boyfriend claims that he doesn’t talk about me because guys don’t do that stuff so now I’m worried what if he doesn’t love me the way that I do? I talk about him all the time and I’m a quiet girl.
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He tried to make me happy by going out with me to costco the other day I still paid for everything though he said that he had wasted too much money. But everything that I suggested that I wanted to do he said no no no. It was so lame. He still buys me food when I’m sad though
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Hmm that is a bit concerning sis. I don't think not talking about you necessarily means he doesn't love you, but it could be a sign he's not as serious about the relationship.
A few things to consider:
- How long have you been dating? If it's early on, he may not feel comfortable yet sharing private details.
- What's his communication style in general? Some guys are just more private than others.
- Have you met any of his close family/friends yet? That's a good sign of commitment on his part.
- Does he actively avoid bringing you up or changing the subject? That would be a red flag.
I'd have an honest chat with him about where you both see things going long term. Let him know it bothers you that you've never really been introduced to his inner circle. Pay attention to how he reacts - is he understanding or dismissive?
If things don't improve or he's evasive, it could mean he's not as serious as you. At that point, you deserve someone who proudly claims you! Don't be afraid to stand up for what you want sis. Take care and keep me posted xo
We’ve been dating for four years, I have known his parents and siblings for a long time but none of his other family members. He says that his friends know who I am but he doesn’t talk about me to them or his family. He rarely post anything on social media he has only posted about sports a few times and I have gotten upset at him for not posting me but he refuses to post me saying that it’s too cringy we have gotten into arguments about it too he used to post me when I got mad but now he just says that he doesn’t want to.
Despite that he is always sweet and respectful with me the only thing is that I always want to do different things and a lot of times he says no.
Okay girl, that does sound a little weird that he won't post you or talk about you to his friends/fam after 4 whole years! Like you'd think you'd be part of his life by now.
A few thoughts:
- It's super bogus that he only used to post you to shut you up and not cuz he wanted to show you off. Big red flag there.
- Getting into actual arguments over social media stuff is immature as heck on his part. He needs to respect how much it means to you.
- If he was really proud to be with you, he wouldn't care if people thought it was "cringy". That's just an excuse at this point after so long together.
- Saying no to doing new things with your partner is lame too. A relationship takes effort from both.
Honestly at this point if it were me, I'd be like look dude either you shape up and start acting like you actually want people to know you've been taken for years, or you can kick rocks! Don't settle for being a secret. You deserve so much better than that, girl!
I don't think so (might just be respectful) but I would be worried if he never introduces you to his friends or family. Guys generally find it distasteful to gossip so most of us try to avoid at least that type of talking about other people, especially our SOs.
We have been together for four years so i see them once a week. But he told me that he doesn’t talk about me to them
He might have meant that in the sense like he keeps your relationship private for the most. That can be a respectful thing to a lot of guys. That's true with me and my buds. About the most I talk about my wife in person with my real-life friends is like:
Family/Friend: So, how's your wife doing?
Me: She's doing well, how about yours?
Family/Friend: Yep, she's doing fine.
Actually we're not very talkative in general. 😅 Yet I tend to bring her along with me whenever I can to meet my family and friends including when we were just boyfriend and girlfriend. I wouldn't have included her like that and risk dividing up my friends and family if I wasn't devoted to her.