"just be confident bro" works only for attractive men. yes or no?

[Unit1]

duh, obviously

no

something else

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+1 y

If he's attractive its cute, sweet or sexy.
If he isn't, it's (potential) harassment.

[Flatmanlewis]

To an extent. The little cartoon is strikingly accurate to some level but also, confident is a good thing.


My best example is this: I work with a guy who is short, not in particularly good shape, and is a self-admitted “gamer”. Nobody ever called him an attractive man. His wife is a petite, very fit woman, who competes in NPC Bikini competitions. She’s frequently used as an example of a hot woman in conversations.


How did this happen? He’s funny as hell. Has a great personality. Doesn’t dress like a high-school boy. Makes a solid six figures a year. Approached her with an outgoing & friendly personality. To his credit, she said, he didn’t call her “hot” or comment on her looks at all. This alone was refreshing to her. He just straight up asked her out. She admired his directness and confidence and it worked.


She also will tell you had he asked when she was in a bad mood, or right hit after a breakup a year prior it would not have happened so being confident alone isn’t always going to mean success.

[Unit1]

"Makes a solid six figures a year."

There. That's all you needed to say.

[Flatmanlewis]

Well to be fair, she does too.

[Unit1]

Fair enough then. i'll take it at face value.

[crossdressingrihno]

There is this thing called charisma. I’m sure you know what it is and I’m sure you’ve heard of it though I’m not so sure you have it.




Attractive people are usually more charismatic.
Generally, speaking, attractive people take better care of themselves not just physically but emotionally so this is going to help with their charisma.


As long as you’re not flat out self-care, and a bit of charisma can do wonders for you and yes, confidence is part of charisma, but it is far from the only part of charisma. Charisma is about how you conduct yourself and how you respond to social Situations.


If your confident, but you smell bad and you’re dressed like a hobo, you don’t use the right tones and the right words Then like no one will want you hot or not.


The most attractive men and women usually work to get there. Anyways, thank you for coming to my TED talk. I’m kind of tired and want to take a nap, but I can’t.

[Sevenpointfive]

i died at "I’m sure you’ve heard of it though I’m not so sure you have it"

how big of a simon cowell can you be?

[alice55]

True, if he's ugly and act confident everyone is going to mock him and find him ridicule. Same things with women not long ago I saw tiktok of an ugly French woman and she was very confident doing tiktok, wearing tight and revealing clothes, but everyone mocked her for her tiktok and ridiculed her, they were being extremely mean, if she were attractive everyone would have been simping or calling her an attention whore.

To be confident it mean to be at least cute / average if you're unattractive it doesn't work, seem like majority of people think ugly people should just stay at their place (not seeing them and not making noise). though they would still gossip calling them creep, weirdo, etc...

[IslaTheWitch]

confidence doesn't mean a nice appearance...

confidence is something that comes from inside... our self-acceptance to who we are and unconditional self-love. We don't have to be the best to be good enough. and this exactly is confidence, our feeling of being good enough based on our strengths and weaknesses, on our acceptance of our shortcomings and awareness of hard work we put every day to make ourselves better.

Naturally confident people are not playboys or players, they are center of any group, they naturally glow. And even if their appearance is hard to remember... you will remember just them...

[coachTanthony]

Attractive men who need to be told "just be confident bro" is in a world of hurt. lol

[CrabCakes11]

Are you more likely to date an unattractive spineless coward or an unattractive confident and funny guy?

[BonzoInBitburg]

Nope. Attractive is your outer appearance. Confidence comes from knowing what you are within and are comfortable with who you are

[midnightmoon05]

Chose wisely… I am not sure where are you getting these…(social media)

my circle of people are not like that.

[OtterMan68]

not necessarily. I've known some guys were weren't great looking guys, but hit it off very well with the opposite sex.

Have you seen Pete Davidson?

[Unit1]

Nope

[Jennifer604]

Once or twice, but what sticks in my memory is what Ariana Grande said she was was asked, "How long is Pete?"

[skidawgkc22]

This advice has never - and I really do mean never - worked for me. I'm also not attractive in the slightest.

[Bricealan]

True. That will never change, and I have seen it in action with a friend in college that thought he was a "lover boy" ... NOT!

[JHAYES317]

In life? No. Danny DeVito isn’t attractive but got where he is due to his charisma. In dating though…yeah, cold approach really only works if you are conventionally attractive

[handsomelad70]

I'm a long way past being called "bro."

[Goku1001]

Most women would either avoid this question like the plague or even if they do comment, they would probably be lying.

[Sevenpointfive]

pretty much. don't attempt my lines lol

[Anonymous]

Yes, unfortunately, it's sad, but true.