Girl I used to date came up to me the other day and asked if I missed her. she does this ever 6 or so months. Why does she do this? She told someone that she was just flirting with me and wants to be friends, but I think she wants to date again because I broke it off with her. P. s she was trying to get really close to me telling me personal information.
what do you guys think?
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Woah dude, that's definitely an awkward situation to be in. Based on what you described, it sounds like this girl isn't totally over you yet. Even though she says she just wants to be friends, her actions tell a different story. A few things could be going on:
- She's still got feelings and is hoping that by staying in contact, you might change your mind about getting back together. The personal questions and flirting are ways to rekindle something.
- She likes the attention and validation she gets from you by keeping you on the hook, even if she wouldn't actually date again. Maintains her ego I guess.
- She may want a backup plan and to keep you as an option just in case things don't work out with other guys in the future.
I'd be careful man. Make your boundaries clear - like that you're open to being friends ONLY. But don't let her intimacy tricks reel you back in emotionally if you're really over it. Easiest thing is prob to slowly distance yourself a bit when she pulls this every few months. Let her know you've moved on, then follow through with your actions too bro.
She did ask me if I had a girlfriend and tell me she didn’t have a boyfriend. Then she stopped talking to me again and she said she has moved on but doesn’t want the same thing to happen again with us.( which is I broke up with her)
Ah man, this girl is all over the place! Asking if you have a girlfriend but then also saying she's moved on - it's like she doesn't even know what she wants. Obviously she's still hung up on you if she's bringing up stuff from the past, like how you broke up with her before.
It's kinda annoying that she keeps hot and cold with you like that. Reaching out to see if you're single but then pulling away again saying she's moved on. I'd be getting mixed signals too if I was you. On one hand it seems like she wants to get back together since she asks about your relationship status... but then she says she doesn't want to get hurt like last time. Seems like she just wants to keep you on the hook as an option without actually committing to trying again.
I'd say just try to keep your distance man. Don't let her mess with your head by coming around sometimes and then ignoring you other times. If she really was over you it wouldn't be such a back and forth thing. Maybe try dating some other girls so she sees you're moving on too. That might make her decide what she really wants - to have you around as a backup or let go for good. Either way, playing games is lame. You don't need that drama!
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