Is a 10 year age gap too big?

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Grim_Adjudicator · Accepted Answer

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Not at all , People that hold age as a deciding factor are only limiting themselves from meeting someone that might be absolutely amazing to them. Age really doesn’t mean shit , when you meet someone that you have great chemistry and connection with and attracted to. Why it’s important to ignore negative people when you enter a relationship with someone. I have dated girls that were 15 years younger than me that treated me better than girls’ my age , so I don’t hold age as a deciding factor when I meet a beautiful girl that I have great chemistry and connection with , that’s all that matters. Most people are hypocrites , that try to rub their 2 cents together , thinking they know it all , just ignore those idiots , most people are judgmental over things until it happens to them , and then all of a sudden it’s ok for them , when they meet someone that has an age gap with them. I can’t stand judgmental hypocrite people. And sadly there are a shit ton of them on this Earth. So ignore them and let it go in one ear out the other , it’s your life and your choice on who you want to date or be with , no one else can make that decision for you. As long as you are happy , that’s all that matters. I know so many couples that have huge age gaps and every single one of them is happy with each other. They are used to being questioned by judgmental people , and they don’t care. Just like I don’t care what other people think or say. It’s my life and my choice all that matters is her and I ,

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'm in a relationship with a 14 year age gap (I'm 41, my fiance is 27). We've been together for about a year and a half. It's easily the best, most loving, and most supportive relationship I've ever been in. So no, I don't think that a 10 year age gap is inherently too much.

With that being said, a 10 year age gap can be too much in many circumstances. The reason why my relationship has worked out so well (despite the major age gap) is that a lot of the potential major pitfalls. For instance, we're both on the same page in terms of kids. He wanted to have kids, and I've always wanted more (the only reason why I didn't have more kids is because my ex didn't want more). Consequently, when I got pregnant a few months back we were both super happy about it. However, if I was done having kids (or if he didn't want kids, and I really did) then that would have been a very different scenario, and I don't think our relationship would have worked out.

Moreover, we're also on the same page in terms of other life goals, our maturity levels, etc. Even though we were in pretty different places in life, we were still highly compatible in those other areas, so making things work out regarding that wasn't a huge deal.

However, a lot of people with a 10 year age gap aren't going to be compatible in terms of maturity or life goals. Consequently, in those situations, a 10 year age gap would be too much.

osmanthus · Accepted Answer

I'm more likely to say that someone who has reached 30 years of age, especially a woman, tends to want to date men who are older by at least 10 years; younger men that are 10 years younger than the woman at age 30 tend not to be at the same mental age maturity. It's normal and acceptable to most people in the society that a man who is age 40 is dating a woman at age 30. Sometimes a woman in her mid 30s till late 30s would date a man who was in his late 40s. I generally want to stay within my generational bracket, so, gen Z's to gen Z's, millennials to millennials, and boomers to boomers, because they tend to understand each other and relate to each other much better.

ohsheeT · Answer

That is so funny you're 35 and yes there would be those people who would call it grooming there's people that f****** the world with their follow idealistic voice instead of leading they follow

I believe it's between you too does he make you happy do you make him happy or you compatible can you laugh joke and have fun together do you respect and trust each other then do it if that's what you want do it it's only between YouTwo forget what everybody else thinks. ... That what I would recommend is you never know what's going to happen I would make a plan. there's going to be a point in time.
That he might get too old something might happen and he would want to hold you back 10 years isn't that much but plan it all out and just be happy and flip off anybody that tells you it's wrong it's wrong for them that's where they should keep it if it's right for you to do it congratulations and good luck be happy make it work

OlderAndWiser · Answer

If he is 45 and you are 35, it is entirely up to you two to decide if the have sufficient common interests to overcome the age gap. I am 69 and my wife is 61. I'm happy and she is happy and I don't care what anyone else thinks about it.

Avicenna · Answer

Since you're both adults, of course not. And the clowns calling it "grooming" obviously have no idea what that actually means.

DishLady · Answer

Depends on the people involved.

HawkPerception · Answer

It most definitely is not and there are bigger gaps out there. My cousin got married to a guy 16 years older than her and she's happy with 2 kids now, each around 10 years old.

My friend is getting married to a guy 13 years older than her in about a week from now.

My grandparents also had a 15 year difference.

And I've met a lot of people with larger differences in relationships. There are more girls than you realize that prefer older as well.

BetaBucks · Answer

No one's actually calling it grooming, they're just throwing out buzzwords to shame you guys because it's bad for their competition in the sexual marketplace. 45 year old women will hate you more than anyone, but have to pretend to be caring about you.

DopeTurtle · Answer

Nope as long as everyone is a consenting adult and met each other organically ( no specific searching for that age range) then I don’t see any Problem.

It’s definitely going to be a learning curve/ challenge for the couple but it’s their cross to bear if they truly love each other.

Anonymous · Answer

Nothing wrong w that. You’re an adult. Amazing how people call it grooming, especially when the man is older. But when you tell them than if a girl who is of age can’t make a decision about her love life which just affects her, she shouldn’t be able to vote cause that affects more than just her. But they don’t like that. Now all of a sudden she’s adult enough to vote. Live your life. You only have one. No one knows better than you.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

It can be if the young lady is say, 20, and the guy is say, 30. The gap isn't so much age as it is life experience, etc. But if one is 35 and the other is 45, it isn't a big deal if both are happy with it.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope. Also, grooming can never apply to an adult. If you're so young that you can be considered a victim of "grooming" you're definitely not old enough to be allowed to vote or play any active role as a responsible citizen in society.

Kayla45 · Answer

Only if either person isn’t an adult. I still will think it’s super weird of a 28 year old to date an 18 year old though. As long as they are both adults, they can technically do what they want.

Serkee · Answer

Depends on the age. An 18 year old and a 28 year old? That's creepy. A 28 year old and a 38 year old? I don't see the issue. As we get older, age gaps matter less and less.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

Depends on the exact ages.

18 and 28? Weird and predatory…don’t get what an almost 30 year old would want who someone fresh out of high school.

25 and 35? That’s fine cause you’re both fully mature adults

IslaTheWitch · Answer

why do you ask other people if you should like your life?

loveslongnails · Answer

If she's at least mid-twenties and you're mid thirties, no problem. Even if she's a very mature 21 year old and you're 31, that could work. However, if she's 16, even if it's legal in your state, and you're 26, that's a big problem.

Anonymous · Answer

Not really. I am really into this man who’s 17 year older than me. Who cares, you do what you enjoy.

rachel776 · Answer

my boyfriend is 15 years older and we've been together a year and a half

Breanna_nonbinary · Answer

Nope. I’ve seen wider gaps. However the wider the gap the harder it is to have things in common to help maintain the relationship.

Apple1996 · Answer

Well anyone can be groomed regardless of age but if you are comfortable with the relationship then it's fine

Skinhead-1979 · Answer

Age is just a number; you are as old as you feel... and there is nothing wrong with a 10 year age gap as long as the relation feels good.

sawno · Answer

You are 35, so i'd say no for dating someone 10 years older than you and yes to dating someone 10 years younger than you.

AGAM1 · Answer

Depends on the people and the age at which they are at?  ex. 18-28 no not good. 30-40 not bad  40-50 not bad etc

Kaneki05 · Answer

No unless you meant younger ages, like obviously 25 year old shouldn't date someone 10 years younger. But 45 and 35 is fine.

slatyb · Answer

There are many happy couples with age gaps of ten years or more. However couples with large age gaps are more likely to divorce.

ChiTown33 · Answer

Anything larger than 9 years and the odds for longterm success drop way off.  Each person has to decide whether this is a gamble they want when considering a wide age gap.

OhLongJohnsoning · Answer

My mom has a friend who's married to a guy, 20 years older than her. They made it work. He's on his death bed at this point. But, love has no limits (unless its illegal), such as an 18 year old with a 14 year old

xoxosilentgirl · Answer

after the age of 25, 10 years seems very acceptable

Drewtate · Answer

Older man younger woman no. Younger man older woman yes.

Nikki1989 · Answer

If both people are over 30, not a problem.

patrick994 · Answer

No, I don't think so, it depends what age group, if I'm 30 and she's 20 it's absolutely fine,

Crazzyyworld · Answer

younger one can become a parasite if they have 20 year difference but 10 year could become parasite too. I had 7 years younger and he wanted money

Anonymous · Answer

No its not too big. My age gap with my slushy boo is 40. She looks just as cute to me as she did when I was baby sitting her.

exitseven · Answer

I always thought that 10 years was about the limit.

nawtee_me · Answer

Not for me, my ex was 12 years younger and I have dated girls 20 years younger

LiamJHayden · Answer

Depends upon the couple and the age of the older. 35 and 25, not a problem. 22 and 12, huge issue.

Anonymous · Answer

Studies have proven that the larger the age gap, the shorter the marriage. Incompatibilites can result due to significant age differences.

RingOfFire · Answer

Negative. Best relationship of my life was a 30 year age gap.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends, when I was 16 I had a flirtation with a 26 year old and she quickly said I like you but this isn't going to work Now I'm 26 and wouldn't be interested in anyone younger

andy530 · Answer

No it is not assuming both people are adults (18). Don’t listen to the haters do what makes you happy

Anonymous · Answer

After 30 I feel it doesn’t matter. I’m 30 and my finance is 40. We’re in the same stage in our lives. The only thing is because of her age we’ve started trying for kids right away once we knew we wanted to be together.

Raaj4you · Answer

No, age is just a number, If you love and understand each other pretty well then it's a perfect match.

clampfan101 · Answer

I don’t know if I would go past 10, but yes 10 itself is just fine.

art84 · Answer

My brother was 30 when he met his 20 year old girlfriend.

Starrrboy · Answer

I think if they're both over 25 then it shouldn't that bad..

BirisiOlurKendisi · Answer

Maybe, but as long as there is love and respect, I don't think it will be a problem.

noohair · Answer

If one person is over 18 and both are breathing, all is good.

itsannalee · Answer

If both adult 50 year gal isn’t even a problem.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Anything 5+ is too much for me personally

4ngelic · Answer

at your age it's all good

ale2003 · Answer

not really, sometimes it can be pretty exciting

StudyingAuthor · Answer

At your age... nope.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Not if both are adults.

LaurenM1997 · Answer

So your 35 and he’s 25?

ImAlondra · Answer

10 years is about the farthest I think

Staximus · Answer

That depends on the age

Anonymous · Answer

30-40? No. Younger, yes. Maturity is key.

Kelly6 · Answer

Not really  @thelovelyintrovert

Brady · Answer

No if both r legal age.

shortster · Answer

Nope, those people are just jealous.

FarmBoy13 · Answer

As long as it’s legal who cares

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