Should a man message everyday to show interest or is that unrealistic?

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Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Short answer sort of yes. The answer is that both people should be showing interest it shouldn’t be one person putting all the effort in getting little to none in return eventually someone will loose interest and start talking to someone whose showing equal interest.

But if someone’s legitimately busy then you have to respect that as long as someone’s not just ghosting someone. It also depends on how deep you’re in a relationship if you’re just meeting one another going on a few dates I wouldn’t expect someone to message me daily.

How much communication someone needs in a serious relationship comes down to compatibility. This is something that should be discussed is things like that everyone different but if you’re not committed then slow down you don’t need to talk to someone every minute of every day.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Well no matter what type of dating it is the amount of times he calls or texts you show the level and type of commitment and respect he has towards you. And if your not getting what you want out of it tell him. Or just move on.

Remember This is as.
Much about you as it is him. It can't be one sided

Pinup_Scarlett46 · Accepted Answer

It depends on the situation and the individuals involved. Some people appreciate regular communication as a sign of interest, while others might find daily messaging too much. In general, it’s important to be mindful of the other person’s communication style and comfort level.

If you're just starting to get to know someone, texting every day might come off as too intense. However, if there’s already a strong connection, daily messages could be seen as a sign of genuine interest. The key is to strike a balance: keep the communication consistent without overwhelming the other person, and pay attention to their responses to gauge if they're comfortable with the frequency.

Should a man message everyday to show interest or is that unrealistic?

Account · Accepted Answer

Yes they should message every day in my opinion, otherwise they don't give much of a shit and you are solely an option to play around whenever they are bored/whenever the main girl they like ignores them.

Finchie40 · Answer

It’s unrealistic for a girl to assume it’s his job to constantly contact her , it should go both ways, if you both are interested in each other. When I am interested in a girl I will make contact with her , but if she doesn’t make contact with me , i just assume she isn’t interested and move on if i don’t hear from her within a reasonable amount of time

AviatorTom · Answer

Every day communications in a casual relationship, or one that is just starting, is unrealistic. The couple should work out what works for them. Thst could be every few days, once a week, or something else.

If you expect the other person to contact you every day, you're going to be disappointed.

DishLady · Answer

I’ve seen “very busy” guys suddenly reply immediately to a group chat but ignore the one person on the chat…. If he’s ignoring you then the proverbial writing is on the wall.

Simslover92 · Answer

Not in the talking stage or dating stage. But hopefully there is a lot more communication in the relationship.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Why does your generation insist on sending texts instead of actually talking?

sawno · Answer

Unrealistic and I will stop messaging on purpose at some point. There have been so many girls who message back but were never interested enough to initiate. So I don't mind initiating often but especially early on ill just randomly stop doing it to see if she messagea back. If she doesn't I may try it once more a few days later and then if she doesn't again ill move on.

NathanDavis · Answer

whenever I've been interested in someone and it is mutual... this is the normal, every day contact it's just natural...

beldath · Answer

If you're expecting every day communication, it sounds like you want more than just friendship or casual dating.
If he's doing it of his own volition, and you have the mind set of just casual dating or friendship, then you need to let him know you aren't interested in a serious relationship.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

It seems unrealistic, in the sense of bizarre, to me, to follow (and/or expect) any precise pattern/structure/plan. Talking with someone, interest or not, is not a job, a task or something of this sort. It's okay to be clueless about how to interact with people, we've all been there, but it doesn't mean that we have to turn into computers to be able to relate to people

IslaTheWitch · Answer

if he is interested he would message as often as he feels is needed...

if you need more or less... talk to him... people have different ways of showing they like someone, so talking is the best way to get on the same page...

genericname85 · Answer

let me be a bit provocative and turn that question around. why would you expect a partner to text you every single day? do you need that constant attention? do you have fear of loss and abandonment? or is it something else?

i get it. it's hard to know whether or not a partner actually is the right one for you. i think making the daily message a measure of quality of your partner isn't a good idea.

lorenzomichael · Answer

Don’t ever do that shit bro. You could text her once a week for three weeks and that’s it. If she doesn’t respond to you by the third time move on you never wanna come off as needy. Chicks do not like needy guys. And if she text you today, don’t text her back till late at night or tomorrow afternoon. Believe me, I know what I’m saying. Chicks might not agree, but players will.

BadApple69 · Answer

That’s what I do. Always a “good morning, how you slept well” and a “good night sleep well” at a minimum. Normally 4 or 5 in between unless we get in a conversation then more.

Blunky · Answer

I don't think this is just on men? If you're interested in each other, it'll just happen between the two of you. I don't continue conversations where there isn't effort being put in on both sides.

exitseven · Answer

There was no texting when I was dating. If there was I probably would text e ery day. I would send emails too.

Shiprex · Answer

It is unrealistic and kind of entitled for ONE to expect the other to do all the work to keep something live and interesting.

Tamera952 · Answer

Way, WAY, wayyyy unrealistic. And unnecessary. And creepy.

slatyb · Answer

Only if you are in an established, exclusive relationship. I never text with someone I haven't met, except to set up a meeting.

HighValue · Answer

No. It is unnecessary. Plus the woman should initiate conversations too unless she is as immature as a little kid, which most women are.

bowenw · Answer

It depends on the relationship, for example it’s normal in a long-term serious relationship.

Yannae · Answer

Nope no rules. If you want him to message you everyday, you have to reach out to him everyday and if he really likes you, he will reply as soon as he is able.

fish5505_87 · Answer

Ok, we are really bad at that! Sometimes we don't so we don't look like were stalking or crowding you.

bunny234 · Answer

Nope, not at all. My boyfriend hasn't gone a single day since matching on tinder without texting me. We have talked every day, even before we dated.

Justneedtokno · Answer

No I don’t expect everything min by min convo. But if he’s interested. He’s would be say something or at least a day can pass

Valdemort · Answer

Shouldn't have to, but then again... don't start what you can't maintain.

LiamS95 · Answer

If he's a very busy working guy it's a bit unrealistic.

QuestionObsession · Answer

Why the hell should the burden always and automatically be on the guy? Is the girl supposed to just lay back and make the guy do all the work?

Anonymous · Answer

Hmm, not that unrealistic,

Bc I got guys, whose I don't even date message me every single day, for a years, (even if it's just to say hello, or just checking...)

if my boyfriend can't do the same he's not invested enough in me

Credentialmayhem · Answer

In my opinion he should because men in relationships will text their gfs everyday so they should do the same before dating

DrPepper12 · Answer

No. But what if he can't take no after that streak he's building?

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

When I grew up we didn't have cell phones. Why don't you just go to his house daily?

YourExLover69 · Answer

Can't talk about others but I put efforts and try to message everyday.

nonovava · Answer

i don't think messaging is unrealistic. if you don't meet them on a daily basis, messaging will keep the connection alive. so if it's a mutual thing, i think it's even sweet.

zagor · Answer

Only if he has something to say. Pointless texts are just annoying.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

When a man truly loves you, he will unwillingly message you everyday

blackeagle007 · Answer

No. Why can’t women do their part? Why is it up to us only?

TallAnon · Answer

That could seem needy; Some people are also just very bad texters.

Abbycadabi · Answer

Yes. Other wise it gets confusing. Even a small message everyday, especially if you are trying to enter that talking stage.

eliegia · Answer

yes i get so nervous when they don’t unless im with them all day or know what they’re doing

Gayuglycowardv3 · Answer

Messaging everyday shows desperation as is the best way to make her lose interest.

RavVid · Answer

I think it is unrealistic and demanding.

Anonymous · Answer

For sure and it is very realistic to have a constant and craving connection to reach out

HelpfulWoman · Answer

is it also expected from the other?

Babygirl_S · Answer

Not necessarily

oldpigg · Answer

Only simps do that.

dudeinohio · Answer

Absolutely he should throughout the day.

Anonymous · Answer

It’s nice if he does, but people get busy

Smile456 · Answer

Everyday, yeah 👍

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

thats so annoying, dont do that

Manuelwe · Answer

To much contact can e called haressement

CubaPirate · Answer

Unrealistic tbh

Sleephazard · Answer

Twenty-four seven. Cause nobody has a life.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Unrealistic

Anonymous · Answer

Grow up.

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