I’m afraid of getting into a relationship but at the same time I want one. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Go on a date

Stay single

[shortster]

Go out on dates. A date isn't a commitment to a relationship; it just opens the door to the possibility of one. Once you find someone you like and that likes you back you can then start a relationship.

[Ironic_Method]

Do it! You'll be vulnerable and it may even hurt. But even if it doesn't work you'll discover what you want or don't want and more about yourself. And who knows, you may just find something magical.

[MrOracle]

A lot of what you fear is the result of making poor choices and rushing into a relationship based purely on feelings. That's usually a path towards disaster, but it's also what most people do.

Resolve yourself to making GOOD choices instead. Be prepared to put in the work.

Most girls pick a guy because she feels attracted to him - but those feelings are temporary and they are usually based on very unreliable factors, such as excitement. But exciting guys are fun for a weekend or even a few weeks, but sooner or later you will realize that the excitement is a result of his chaos and danger - things that will soon negatively affect the relationship. Solid, loyal, trustworthy men may seem boring at first, but they are the ones who have the things that make a long-term relationship possible. And to know the difference, you have to use and follow your brain more than your feelings.

You also need to eliminate immediately any guy who isn't ALREADY looking for a relationship. Any guy who is just looking for a casual relationship is a guy who will never commit to you - no matter how strong your feelings develop for him, he will never change his mind, so you are wasting your time on men like that.

[Finchie40]

Take things slow and take time to really get to know each other before making the big decision of being committed to each other. Most people that rush into relationships are setting themselves up for disaster because they are just infatuated with each other but they truly don’t really know each other. One thing that has been working better for me is being FWB’s with some strings attached meaning you both only sleep with each other but you both have breathing room as well , to give the both of you time to really get to know each other before committing to each other completely. FWB’s with some strings attached eliminates the both of you from having your heart broken if one of you eventually decides that they are not the person you thought they were. Which sadly happens a lot when the infatuation period runs its course. The only way FWB’s with some strings attached works is of the both of you are completely honest with each other. A relationship only works if the both of you are completely honest honest with each other as well. It’s been working for me , especially these days with how selfish most people have become , Selfishness is one of the biggest relationship killers which every single one of us has selfishness inside of ourselves , so if you can’t remove selfishness for your partner, don’t expect them to remove it for you. FWB’s with some strings attached helps the both of you to have some breathing room while getting to really know each other and to see the big picture before making it official

[ohsheeT]

I guess find a guy. Have sex break up repete @FreyaRed


What are you afraid of

[Anonymous]

It's like you're caught between wanting to find someone and the fear of what that commitment brings. It’s totally normal to feel that push and pull—the desire for connection clashing with the anxiety of vulnerability. Maybe the best thing to do is to take a small step forward without jumping all the way in. Instead of thinking about "a relationship," just focus on getting to know new people. Go out, hang with friends, and if you meet someone you click with, just see where a conversation goes. There’s no pressure to define things right away. Just take it slow, be honest with yourself about your fears, and let yourself feel out the possibilities without the weight of expectations. You might find that the connection itself starts to quiet the fear.

[Curmudgeon]

Well, what have you *really* got to lose? Just ask yourself that. "If you want it, come and get it..."

https://www.youtube.com/embed/ykpONQ1Xej0

[Anonymous]

Get into a long distance relationship. Long distance are for people that want to pretend like they're in an actual relationship, but actually never be in one. Because you can correspond to the other person and go through the motions of dating, but never actually meet.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

In life if you never try you will never know & when it comes to being afraid the number one question is why are you afraid? Live your life & don’t let life live you.

[Zack-Bann]

Here are you choices:
Live in fear
Live in freedom


The second is the correct answer. It’s not even nuanced

[FreyaRed]

Only things you want matter. You're afraid because you have to make choices and it's something you have to learn anyway.

[Berethor]

You need to overcome your fear, being single is not good, you can follow me if you want.

[Vevv123]

Just stay alone until you find someone that makes you feel safe about relationships.

[Ninania]

Get therapy and work out your issues before dragging other people into it.

[Anonymous]

If you can find someone who has obvious interest in you, try dating him.

[Jay-_-]

Crazy I'm the same way, that's why I'm single 🧍🏽😂😂

[Jay-_-]

I will not be voting I'm not biased and I'm not a hypocrite 😂

[Staximus]

What are you afraid of? Just make sure the guy isn't a piece of shit

[Still-alive]

Get out and meet people and eventually you will find a guy you mesh well with

[jazzy34]

Where's the fear coming from?

[Asker]

It came from statistics of other married couples getting divorced. So yeah I’m afraid of that…

[jazzy34]

Please remember that many people get married for the wrong reasons, which is why they end up divorced. Also, marriage is hard work and many people don't want to put in that effort. Anyway, don't let stats scare you. You have to find someone who will stick with you, through thick and thin.

[Asker]

Thank you I hope I can find someone suitable.

[Wuai201]

Same, but i chose to stay single

[itsannalee]

Heal your wounds first

[Nikki1989]

Pick your lane and stick with it.

[Iron_Man]

Go out with a man

[Jmmmfi4]

You sound like me

[Celticwolf78]

Don't get into a rush about a relationship

[kareka]

Why afraid?

[Asker]

Well I have lack of confidence in making it work and yet I haven’t even try it because I have never been in a relationship before.

[RHK36]

Grow up

[Danny_dan92]

Do what you want

[StevenMcGarrett]

Anything can happen.

[jahaims]

Go to therapy