It does get tiring when your girlfriend breaks up with you to go back to their abusive ex, it seriously p*sses me off to see that they rather get disrespected than to get treated with respect. It makes me feel like turning into an asshole but I know that someday I will meet a girl that will like me for me.
It's about charisma not about how nice or how much of an asshole you are. You can use the asshole technique all you want which will work if you have the smarts. It all comes down to being smart in relationship chemistry. To have a degree in a field is irrelevant, but to know what a girl REALLY wants is the key.
*The trick is to be the puppet master* which sounds like an 'assholish' thing to say but the leader will always be the guy. If the guy ain't a leader then the relationship will fail.
I like this answer finally someone else who gets it, you are correct, if your smart at this, you can manipulate and if you can manipulate then you become the puppet master. PinaColada knows what its all about.
I think you are pretending, you are actually some kind of geek who doesn't understand the whole mating game, so comes here to try and get answers. Look, if you really were a jerk, you wouldn't even know it. Instead, you are actually just some kind of pathetic looser, who spends to much time on the Internet, never to understand real women. They don't like you not because you are to nice -- but because you are either a bore or a creep!
Lol and the gloves come off, well nice to see at least one person has some balls congrats man. However I am not a geek far from it, I know little about comps or video games some are cool but, I would much rather spend my time getting girls, shooting guns, hunting, and of course drinking beer. Pretty geeky I know. I say the asshole thing bc, well I tend to get called that alot, but hey if a girl is a **** to me then well she deserves what she gets. Thanks for playing.
That kind of sentiment would assume women know what they want. I would agree they are attracted to a certain attitude and sexual confidence and you seem intelligent enough to know what you're doing however a large amount of natural "bad guys" for all their bravado are fairly insecure and feel the need to "control" their girlfriend in order to keep them. Are you advocating this as well?
No I am not to control them, although every man secretly wants to control his woman make she doesn't get outta line. But no I am not that extreme. I don't beat women although some I wish I could to slap some sense into them, but if she says something so stupid that baffles my mind, yeah I am going to say are you retarded that was the dumbest thing I have ever heard, and sometimes they cry, and I say well get over it simple as that.
I would think that the types of girls who keep going back to ass holes either have low self esteem or are just idiots. So the jerks get all the dumb ass lays, while the good guys eventually find a nice girl. So yeah...you can get laid that way fine, but the girl prob. isn't worth the time then.
Sometimes tho,that warm wet feeling is worth the time! haha that's the truth. I can't stand girls that have no personality and like to be treated poorly,no self respect and low self esteem. But it still feels good!
nice guys always finish last. I know from experiences with friends and such that the guys who comfort the girls because their boyfriends are jerks occasionally end up with her. this is becuase when she goes to him often, sometimes she actually realizes that he is the evergreen, always there for her when she needs him. and, personally, I never date jerks because I work hard to build my self-confidence, and assholes will inevitably tear that down.
I have to hand it to you, tex... this was a pretty clever way to find out which of the girls here fall for the asshole act. On top of that, you got a zillion responses, which makes you look influential and controversial. Now you can private-message all the ones who say "jerks are confident, I don't like nice guys because blah blah blah" and get some easy hookups.
We like the jerks because they have an edge. Nice guys seem weaker and boring. It's the same principle for girls I believe, nice girls get taken for granted and a bitch doesn't. I think it just about always make yourself a priority in your life and not letting people walk all over you.
I think guys are less likely to tolerate jerky girls because we don't need the attention and reaffirmation. Typically the guys who date those girls are blinded by sex and the girls are bitchy because they think everyone wants to sleep with them (hence, good at sex to fulfill the other end). It is harder, as you say, to find the happy medium guy; I've been called a nice guy, but not in the sad sack kind of way. Being "nice" shouldn't mean being a mealy-mouthed pushover.
women do like a nice guy and a jerk all in one.. there is a time to be nice and sweet and a time to just be an ass..it kinda in a way keeps the relationship in check and doesn't dull it down and if there isn't a little asshole then there is somone kissing ur ass 24/7.. noone truly wants that lol
That's a great way of putting it. "Nice guy" has come to mean a groveling guy who walks on eggshells and caters to a girls' every whim. I always treated dates with respect, but when someone blew me off and came back to me later, I put my foot down. I give respect and expect it in return. When I found a girl I really loved and gelled with, I didn't bow down to her. I treated her with kindness, but you are right, you can't diminish your own value and expect others not to.
Do you just like being mean because you hate women? Have you ever tried being a "nice guy"?
I personally like the nice guy, and so do a lot of women. The girls attracted to men who treat them badly are like sheep, have low self esteem or are generally at a low point in their lives. If a man has his life together, and is emotionally mature, his does not need this type of conquest.
Good point. It's amazing how sad and empty so many people are, whether they're a guy who's a jerk or a girl who goes out to clubs to get attention and shoot guys down. To the untrained, naive eye, they seem so much better than everyone, but I don't envy them.
well woman are really stupid sometimes. and you shouldn't categorize your self as an asshole. because anyone can be one. I think you might be a lost soul or something. but seriously grow the f*** up you may be getting all the whores and coke head bitched now. but what happens when they don't come back? ... get some dignity and don't put yourself in such a vulnerable position. have a nice life being a jerk! :)
there has to be a happy medium, to keep the relationship both stable and interesting. too nice, and the guy will end up being used and lead on. too mean, and he'll become the user. which sounds pretty good from your viewpoint, but eventually that asswipe gets a bad reputation that is hard to fix.
I'm going to answer you with a question; I am usually the nice guy. I've had a lot of relationships but not a lot of hookups. I've been single for a year and will be for a while. If I want to hookup, is this totally the way to go? I would submit that it's pretty hard to get laid even once in a while if you're a nice guy.
As for you're little update, I never thought of you as being uneducated. You asked a question, and I answered. Unfortunately, you're right about women that like assholes, but NOT all of them do. I've been told that the girls that do however, suffer from low self-esteem and feel that they can't do any better, or simply put, they feel that they can change the ahole into a nice guy. But if it gets you the girl, alrighty then. To each his own.
The media image is girls go for assholes because the WEALTHY jerks you see in the media--rock stars, football players, Don Trump--are always surrounded by good looking women.
But outside of the women who care only for money (sure, there are a LOT of those), the jerky guys are NOT 'getting' all the girls! Not the nice ones, the really worthwhile ones. I don't mind these rich jerks getting all the sluts--don't want them anyway!
I believe that this is due to a natural affinity to want what you can't have. I mean like seriously, we all want what we can't have. We all have desires. I think that girls are most likely to go for an asshole because subconsciously they know that what they won't get is the guy's "nice guy side". So really, it's all for the thrill and excitement to strive to get it. Girls don't really go for the nice guys because they have that thought "oh he will always be there waiting" or something like that. It's like that guy is someone they can always go back to when they get tired of all that hard work to get the asshole.
The asshole will always be cocky like he can get all these girls but in reality, he can't get ALL the girls. There will be that one girl who won't like him and that girl will be the one who catches his eye. Thus, you want what you can't have. So it's really just this strong attraction/desire we all have.
Because the nice guy feels that it is wrong. It takes more than just an "I am going to try this" attitude, it takes a sort of priority shift or something to be an asshole effectively. A nice guy trying to be an 'asshole' will result in the women actually thinking that that are an asshole instead of mysterious.
As a nice guy, I do feel like assholes seem to capture the attention of more women. Whether it lasts, I don't know - but it does feel unfair. Of course, it could be just my perception and maybe I wouldn't want those women. I guess not really asshole behaviour but less than nice.
Not that it matters, being an asshole isn't simply a choice. It's a matter of who you are... for me to be a d*** requires as much effort as to hang out with people I don't like, or play sports. It's not something I enjoy (sometimes I wish I liked being mean) so I'll continue being nice and hope that the responses that say nice guys get the girl are right :D
it all comes down to the fact that we want to be challenged. the nice girl is no challenge. the one that's a little bit b!tchy gets the guys. so, what you say about the guy being a jerk is true, but only in the sense that it is a challenge for the girl. The key is that once you meet somone you truly like, be NICE.
What Girls & Guys Said
Opinion
54Opinion
It does get tiring when your girlfriend breaks up with you to go back to their abusive ex, it seriously p*sses me off to see that they rather get disrespected than to get treated with respect. It makes me feel like turning into an asshole but I know that someday I will meet a girl that will like me for me.
i guess because guys like you hurt girls and they aren't the same afterwards.
it's almost a form of emotional abuse. I've been with a guy who was like that, and to this day I wish he was dead for ever hurting me-that's why.
ass hole guys will meet an ass hole girl and they will get what they deserve.
It's about charisma not about how nice or how much of an asshole you are. You can use the asshole technique all you want which will work if you have the smarts. It all comes down to being smart in relationship chemistry. To have a degree in a field is irrelevant, but to know what a girl REALLY wants is the key.
*The trick is to be the puppet master* which sounds like an 'assholish' thing to say but the leader will always be the guy. If the guy ain't a leader then the relationship will fail.
I like this answer finally someone else who gets it, you are correct, if your smart at this, you can manipulate and if you can manipulate then you become the puppet master. PinaColada knows what its all about.
I think you are pretending, you are actually some kind of geek who doesn't understand the whole mating game, so comes here to try and get answers. Look, if you really were a jerk, you wouldn't even know it. Instead, you are actually just some kind of pathetic looser, who spends to much time on the Internet, never to understand real women. They don't like you not because you are to nice -- but because you are either a bore or a creep!
Lol and the gloves come off, well nice to see at least one person has some balls congrats man. However I am not a geek far from it, I know little about comps or video games some are cool but, I would much rather spend my time getting girls, shooting guns, hunting, and of course drinking beer. Pretty geeky I know. I say the asshole thing bc, well I tend to get called that alot, but hey if a girl is a **** to me then well she deserves what she gets. Thanks for playing.
That kind of sentiment would assume women know what they want. I would agree they are attracted to a certain attitude and sexual confidence and you seem intelligent enough to know what you're doing however a large amount of natural "bad guys" for all their bravado are fairly insecure and feel the need to "control" their girlfriend in order to keep them. Are you advocating this as well?
No I am not to control them, although every man secretly wants to control his woman make she doesn't get outta line. But no I am not that extreme. I don't beat women although some I wish I could to slap some sense into them, but if she says something so stupid that baffles my mind, yeah I am going to say are you retarded that was the dumbest thing I have ever heard, and sometimes they cry, and I say well get over it simple as that.
I would think that the types of girls who keep going back to ass holes either have low self esteem or are just idiots. So the jerks get all the dumb ass lays, while the good guys eventually find a nice girl. So yeah...you can get laid that way fine, but the girl prob. isn't worth the time then.
Sometimes tho,that warm wet feeling is worth the time! haha that's the truth. I can't stand girls that have no personality and like to be treated poorly,no self respect and low self esteem. But it still feels good!
Yes...that is exactly what I was saying.
nice guys always finish last. I know from experiences with friends and such that the guys who comfort the girls because their boyfriends are jerks occasionally end up with her. this is becuase when she goes to him often, sometimes she actually realizes that he is the evergreen, always there for her when she needs him. and, personally, I never date jerks because I work hard to build my self-confidence, and assholes will inevitably tear that down.
I have to hand it to you, tex... this was a pretty clever way to find out which of the girls here fall for the asshole act. On top of that, you got a zillion responses, which makes you look influential and controversial. Now you can private-message all the ones who say "jerks are confident, I don't like nice guys because blah blah blah" and get some easy hookups.
Well played, sir.
We like the jerks because they have an edge. Nice guys seem weaker and boring. It's the same principle for girls I believe, nice girls get taken for granted and a bitch doesn't. I think it just about always make yourself a priority in your life and not letting people walk all over you.
I think guys are less likely to tolerate jerky girls because we don't need the attention and reaffirmation. Typically the guys who date those girls are blinded by sex and the girls are bitchy because they think everyone wants to sleep with them (hence, good at sex to fulfill the other end). It is harder, as you say, to find the happy medium guy; I've been called a nice guy, but not in the sad sack kind of way. Being "nice" shouldn't mean being a mealy-mouthed pushover.
OP, this one will fall all over herself for you. Go get her ;)
That is bullsh*t, girls can be nice, have no spine, be a spineless worm
women do like a nice guy and a jerk all in one.. there is a time to be nice and sweet and a time to just be an ass..it kinda in a way keeps the relationship in check and doesn't dull it down and if there isn't a little asshole then there is somone kissing ur ass 24/7.. noone truly wants that lol
That's a great way of putting it. "Nice guy" has come to mean a groveling guy who walks on eggshells and caters to a girls' every whim. I always treated dates with respect, but when someone blew me off and came back to me later, I put my foot down. I give respect and expect it in return. When I found a girl I really loved and gelled with, I didn't bow down to her. I treated her with kindness, but you are right, you can't diminish your own value and expect others not to.
Do you just like being mean because you hate women? Have you ever tried being a "nice guy"?
I personally like the nice guy, and so do a lot of women. The girls attracted to men who treat them badly are like sheep, have low self esteem or are generally at a low point in their lives. If a man has his life together, and is emotionally mature, his does not need this type of conquest.
Good point. It's amazing how sad and empty so many people are, whether they're a guy who's a jerk or a girl who goes out to clubs to get attention and shoot guys down. To the untrained, naive eye, they seem so much better than everyone, but I don't envy them.
well woman are really stupid sometimes. and you shouldn't categorize your self as an asshole. because anyone can be one. I think you might be a lost soul or something. but seriously grow the f*** up you may be getting all the whores and coke head bitched now. but what happens when they don't come back? ... get some dignity and don't put yourself in such a vulnerable position. have a nice life being a jerk! :)
there has to be a happy medium, to keep the relationship both stable and interesting. too nice, and the guy will end up being used and lead on. too mean, and he'll become the user. which sounds pretty good from your viewpoint, but eventually that asswipe gets a bad reputation that is hard to fix.
I'm going to answer you with a question; I am usually the nice guy. I've had a lot of relationships but not a lot of hookups. I've been single for a year and will be for a while. If I want to hookup, is this totally the way to go? I would submit that it's pretty hard to get laid even once in a while if you're a nice guy.
Be an ass and you'll get ass.
As for you're little update, I never thought of you as being uneducated. You asked a question, and I answered. Unfortunately, you're right about women that like assholes, but NOT all of them do. I've been told that the girls that do however, suffer from low self-esteem and feel that they can't do any better, or simply put, they feel that they can change the ahole into a nice guy. But if it gets you the girl, alrighty then. To each his own.
The media image is girls go for assholes because the WEALTHY jerks you see in the media--rock stars, football players, Don Trump--are always surrounded by good looking women.
But outside of the women who care only for money (sure, there are a LOT of those), the jerky guys are NOT 'getting' all the girls! Not the nice ones, the really worthwhile ones. I don't mind these rich jerks getting all the sluts--don't want them anyway!
I believe that this is due to a natural affinity to want what you can't have. I mean like seriously, we all want what we can't have. We all have desires. I think that girls are most likely to go for an asshole because subconsciously they know that what they won't get is the guy's "nice guy side". So really, it's all for the thrill and excitement to strive to get it. Girls don't really go for the nice guys because they have that thought "oh he will always be there waiting" or something like that. It's like that guy is someone they can always go back to when they get tired of all that hard work to get the asshole.
The asshole will always be cocky like he can get all these girls but in reality, he can't get ALL the girls. There will be that one girl who won't like him and that girl will be the one who catches his eye. Thus, you want what you can't have. So it's really just this strong attraction/desire we all have.
Because the nice guy feels that it is wrong. It takes more than just an "I am going to try this" attitude, it takes a sort of priority shift or something to be an asshole effectively. A nice guy trying to be an 'asshole' will result in the women actually thinking that that are an asshole instead of mysterious.
As a nice guy, I do feel like assholes seem to capture the attention of more women. Whether it lasts, I don't know - but it does feel unfair. Of course, it could be just my perception and maybe I wouldn't want those women. I guess not really asshole behaviour but less than nice.
Not that it matters, being an asshole isn't simply a choice. It's a matter of who you are... for me to be a d*** requires as much effort as to hang out with people I don't like, or play sports. It's not something I enjoy (sometimes I wish I liked being mean) so I'll continue being nice and hope that the responses that say nice guys get the girl are right :D
it all comes down to the fact that we want to be challenged. the nice girl is no challenge. the one that's a little bit b!tchy gets the guys. so, what you say about the guy being a jerk is true, but only in the sense that it is a challenge for the girl. The key is that once you meet somone you truly like, be NICE.