How do you get over public speaking?

[Anonymous]

I have turned down jobs because they required for me to speak in front of groups. I get super red and my heart starts beating fast. Haven't learned yet how to master not getting red. I admire people who can speak well in front of large groups. I guess it's something that they do quite often but as for me I try to avoid anything that gets me feeling that way

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I used to do it very often, since childhood, I stood on stage or had speeches.

I was always very nervous, my heart too, beat very fast.
Sometimes I even had my hands shake a but because of nervousness, never gave up on it, though.

Because it pleased me to be in front of hundreds of people, all of them listening to me.
I find it amazing that, even though my body never stops giving me signs of nervousness during public speaking, I still keep doing and I keep doing it to the point, that I’ve defeated opponents in many debates and have been chosen as the main speaker over and over again.

Yet, I still shake, but the adrenaline is so intense, I feel like I can never quit, because when in the end, I hear the people applauding, I know I did something well and it motivates me to keep fighting my fears.

Now I need to try to control my emotions more.

I’d suggest you to do the same, do what you are afraid of.

I once had a very shy girl come to me and ask how could she be as good as me at public speaking.

I gave her an advice, I told her we all have unapologetic demons in our hearts when we stay alone. All she needs to do is, feel okay with her bold and brave side and keep trying, until someday instead of fear, she feels the pleasure causing goosebumps in her body.

So, I asked her : “Who are you fooling by being a shy girl? Both if us know, deep down you aren’t shy at all. Otherwise you’d not come here trying public speaking. So, take out the mask of shyness on stage and be your badass self”.

I am happy to know that she actually improved and even succeeded in public speaking after our conversation.

Hope it will help you too.

Take it from someone who makes a living by talking.

[Asker]

I love this thank you!! Practice makes perfect you're right and gotta do it even if it kills me inside

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yup. I am happy if it helps.

Public speaking is something I was very successful at for a very long time. I haven’t done it that much in the past couple years but sometimes I have a burning desire to keep doing that again.

Keep practicing and Nervousness will slowly fade away and will turn into a sweet pleasure, as you see the lit up faces if people who are listening to you.

Good luck! ❤️

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Practice. Practice helps you learn you won't die when you're up there.

Look up Toastmasters - it's an international organization all about learning to speak in public. I've been through it and have helped run a club, and seen people go from hiding behind the pedestal or standing in a corner to commanding a room in less than a year.

It helps to go through it with a group dedicated to helping you get over that fear.

[Asker]

Thank you, I have seen toastmasters pop up just haven't had the courage to go but yes it would be something that I need to do. Practice makes perfect you're right about that

[Smoke-n-Growls]

You can do it! Toastmasters are often some of the nicest people. I've even met a gentleman who's been doing it for 50+ years and at 75+ is still going strong.

I highly suggest joining one that meshes with you. You'll not only make friends, and improve your speaking, but it's a highly marketable skill and association to be part of.

[Asker]

Yes I need it bad! How much is it for the classes?

[Smoke-n-Growls]

It varies by club, but some have very low to no fees.

Google Toastmasters Club Near Me and you'll probably find a list. Then you can call or email the clubs to see if they allow guests, what the tone is, and what fees are like.

[Dontaaaa]

Personally I rest try to instill logic within myself by telling myself things like the futility and pointlessness of being nervous, it helps me.

[Asker]

Yeah like there's no point in being shy and nervous, I just don't like people looking at me that's one thing and then it's been hard to control my redness

[bowenw]

You may have social anxiety. Your doctor may be able to help.

[Asker]

Yes it sucks

[bowenw]

Thanks for the MHO. 😊

[susie22]

At first it was a bit uncomfortable, but after a short time it became quite easy. Don't try to impress, just be yourself and say what you need to say.

[VV3ZZY]

I tend to look at the wall in the back and I just focus on what I'm going to say

[In_Trance]

Keep doing it