Girlfriend's guy friend is too clingy to her?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend and I have been going out for 4 and a half years. We have talked about marriage and a future together. I'm 28 she's 24. She went away to college, after her first semester she got introduced to a guy through her cousin and they started talking. I know she's not going to do anything and she's never given me a reason to doubt her so I trust her. Anytime a guy finally showed they liked her she back away from them. When she came back home for Christmas break this guy kept texting and calling her all day. She kept responding because its the first friend she's met at school that she can hang out with. she went back to school and he still calls and texts her all day and they hang out a lot. She says he's just a friend and nothing will happen. And I trust her But I still get the feeling that from his side he likes my girlfriend. And if not this guy seems desperate and clingy to me to constantly keep in contact with my girlfriend, needing to know what she's up to all day long. What do you all think?

[Tamikaze]

He totally likes her beyond "friendship". Many male/female friendships are only a safety net for one person or the other to hide behind while they try and figure out if they stand a chance with the other person.

It's good you trust her but his level of contact seems excessive. I have friends and they don't do that, even when I was 24. Not sure what you are going to do with any feedback you get from here, but on your own it would be fair and fine to tell your girl that you think this guy is overly involved with her for a friend and you trust her and just wanted her to know that his level of communication is a little uncomfortable to you. Certainly if his calls and texts are happening in the middle of hanging out with her or on dates, it would be reasonable for you to ask her to not focus on him and focus on you instead.

[pearl1979]

He likes her but also he seems controlling wanting to know what she is up to all day long, constantly texting and calling. I don't know what she thinks about that. One call a day is fine. I wouldn't like that at all. Seems like he has no life that he has to kept tabs on hers. Sumtimes guys like that end up being pyscho when you cut him off.