How do I deal with being the "less attractive" sister?

[Anonymous]

im pretty... not classically pretty, but I certainly am not ugly. But my little sister, who's really only about 1 and 1/2 years younger than me, is the classic definition of beautiful. she's got a cute nose, big butt, big boobs, long hair, nice lips, etc. Constantly, people talk about how beutiful she is, my family members constantly ask her if she has any new boyfriends, among other things. For me, it's always "how are your sports going?" "Great job on that test!". It's kinda... discouraging. I want people to notice my beauty. I love my sister, and I love that she beutiful, and I love that I'm good at other things and am acknowledged for that, but I'm still jealous.
I've felt with this for as long as I could remeber, though I've always been able to put it in the back of my mind, and not worry about it. But recently I've found out that the kids in my grade made a "hottest sophomore" list, and put my sister number 1. Like... it kinda hurts, especially knowing that I wouldn't even be considered in the top 20 for my grade.
I hate it and it makes me so... sad I guess. I want to be noticed as beautiful. And if I can't be, I want to know how to deal with it.

[John_Lion_84]

First! you still young which is good. Second! Have an attitude about your self. You wrote ''im pretty'' keep it going, don't compare yourself with anyone (remember this good). You wanna be more beautiful? NEVER COMPARE YOURSELF WITH ANY ONE ELSE. You are pretty, feel it and do it, little sisters/brothers always get more attention.
For example: Am bald since 2003-2004 (i started losing me hair so i went bald). I was 19 years old turning 20 with bad hair and my brother has the greatest hair (dark, smooth and stylish) and still, but i changed my attitude and people find it attractive, and still now, am 32 years old and married and i still get hit on by random people because my attitude. I feel like Walter White from breaking bad, i feel like am the better Bruce Willis. Change you mind for your own good and like yourself, if you don't like yourself ! So you won't shine as much.
Stay brave and there is nothing with being the girl that like sports, girls who likes sports for me are the best.

[PoorCollegeStudent]

You're young so don't write yourself off just yet. I know a lot of girls that became a lot better looking after high school and then some girls who have become a lot less attactive. Also, beauty isn't everything. Attractiveness is what gets a guy's attention, personality is what keeps them. As you said you are pretty so you shouldn't worry about it. I'm sure to a lot of guys you are more attractive than your sister. And I'm sure your sister is jealous of you about some things so don't worry about it.

[Melissa4]

You're beautiful and nobody is perfect.
You need to remove the negative feeling from you first.
I guss that's normal to a have a sister more beautiful then you.
I've a friend who's sisters are more beautiful then her. But it doesn't matter to her and she is confident, we like her for who she is.
And not everyone will think that way about you, everybody has different choices. There must be somebody who will choose you.
To get compliments on looks there are many things to do like below:
Try getting a hair cut or color.
New and nice outfits.
Go to gym and refresh yourself.
Make up.
Shoes.
Bag.
Nice scent.
Good luck.

[This_is_my_username]

Build up your self esteem! You're smart and athletic and you'll also grow more. Don't worry. Maybe she's a early bloomer. Who knows. I bet you're gorgeous. All these things like hottest girl in school. Like wtf I never had those. Is dumb. It won't get you anywhere. What happens in high school stays in high school. Doesn't matter anywhere else. Plus you're older sis just got beauty. Yes it attracts but can beauty make people stay? Fuck no. Be you. You're gorgeous walk with your head up. You and her are part of the same gene pool. You probs have her looks but are focusing on the negative. Be positive and you'll be happy chicka

[peachblossomluck]

It's normal to want our beauty noticed. It sucks when someone close is getting noticed for something we wish we had. Maybe your sister isn't terribly motivated or has any interests your family can make conversations about. Looks are a big deal because of evolution but some of the best looking people I know are the most miserable. Make the most of your looks but don't decide that you are less than for something she may grow out of (not to be mean). You may end up blossoming and becoming the prettier one someday.

[peachblossomluck]

Thank you for choosing my answer♡

[john52461]

That's really sad, I had something similar as I grew taller than my older brother people would come over and think I was the older bro, I'm 6ft now and he's maybe 5'6.

One thing you have going for you is that you're still young and you can still change a little bit. Is it possible that you could PM a picture of both of you? I think you are being too harsh on yourself. On the bright side you always have the option of plastic surgery as a last resort or even more simple things like changing your hair or doing your make-up differently. Have you tried any of those?

[HorrorFan]

Women love to point at how annoying it is that men care so much about looks, but look at how self perpetuated this is.

So many women just want to be beautiful. It consumes them.

Also, there are plenty of beautiful women out there that complain about how all anyone notices about them is how attractive they are and not their other talents and abilities.

I mean... can't we all just stop worrying about how everyone else perceives us and just be happy with who we are?

[GingerGuy]

By not thinking/focusing on it. Everyone's different and everyone has different views on what's "beautiful" Just because YOU think she's prettier than you doesn't mean everyone in the world would think that to. Stop comparing yourself to others and be happy and accept the way you are.

[Anonymous]

Try not to sweat it. I dated a girl who was probably one of the hottest girls in our year, but her little sister was just amazing. Like probably one of the hottest girls in the school for a decade or so. But it didn't make my girlfriend any less desirable. Just work what you've got.

[zagor]

Keep going with the sports, do well on tests, and don't give a shit about shallow popularity contests. Wouldn't you rather people be attracted to you for your whole self rather than just looks - ie, your 'hole' self?

[ProbablyTooMature]

Be better than her in ways within your control. Be successful, talented, well traveled, educated, etc.

[ProbablyTooMature]

Also, believe it or not, there are plenty of people out there prettier than her. I understand it's different because your family fawns over here... who cares. That's short lived. As soon as you move out that BS doesn't matter anymore.

[FantasyGeek05]

People have always called my little brother cute when he was little
I wasn't complimented
Now since he grew and his cuteness is longgggggg gone.
They compliment me
Even though I look like a woman.
They compliment me anyway

[amorpheus69]

Beauty fades. Focus on being great at those things which don't. This will make you confident. Confidence is beautiful.

[louiseisaturtle]

Omg relate much. I have a pretty sister which makes me the ugly one 😂😂😂

[SuicidalTeen]

Just deal with it like I would. Give zero shits about what others think

[Anonymous]

Dude I know how that feels. My sister and I are both the same age, but she's the cheerleader and I'm the smart one. It sucks. A lot. Luckily for me I rarely ever see my sister since we're half siblings and we don't live together.

[Anonymous]

you can always change your appearance with the power of subliminals I would have msgd you more info on it but you are annon

[Anonymous]

hun im brown skin
my brother is light skin

who do you think gets more attention

[Anonymous]

Don't worry, I'm sure there are those who'd prefer you over your sister. Everyone is someone's type. :D

[Zinkr7]

You're not defined by your sister.

[OfDeath]

Just accept it for what it is.

[Anonymous]

Oh you are just smart and athletic... sorry