Do you love your children more then your spouse?

[Anonymous]

So this may seem like a weird question but me and a friend were talking about this and he said he loves his girl so much that it would be even in different ways. I want some answers from people about what you honestly feel about this. I know that yes children need love and attention, I think the parents should always put their children before themselves to bring them up. I'm just interested to know if you love them the same amount in different ways or is going to be hands down the kids? I feel myself I'd love them both so much I'd say both but I want to know from you.

My children

My spouse

Both, i can't live without either

Other

[confusedapplepie]

okay im not a parent but both my father and my mother once told me about this.
(note: my parents are currently divorcing, they told me like 3 years ago but still i dont think they wholeheartedly loved each other at that time)
my mother said if she were to chose between saving my dad and saving me she would save me (and the other way would want me to be save instead of her) because they already "lived" and i had my full life in front of me so i "deserved" it more
.. so thats the explanation i got. D

[YaBaba]

I believe the love for spouse and love for children can't be compared since they are different kind of love.
A guy had mentioned once that if it came to saving life/ spouse or the child, he would pick the child.
And I believe it is the same with the wife. She would pick the child.
because it's their child. ^_^
I mean, you know what I mean

[Asker]

My way of putting it if I love the women with all my heart I'd choose my children and try to save my wife next, even if I got badly burnt. At least I could say I tried and I'd put on a happy face for my children and raise them the best I could. After that well my Irish blood would kick in and to be honest the way I feel about a women currently I'd be an alcoholic to hide the emotions from people cause I'd never be over her, it would hurt to much. Of course I'd save my babies first, but I'd then die trying to get my lover out to help me raise the children. I'm not saying I'd turn to drinking while I have my kids about cause I'd look at them and see half myself and the woman I loved. It would b when they grow up and I need her more then ever.

[YaBaba]

yes, that's what I mean. You said it well :)

[Asker]

Thanks well that's just my opinion, it's nice to see someone is on the same page as me.

[Lilier]

I've been told many times that your spouse is your number one and it should always be that way. You should love your spouse more. And I've came across situations where this applies but how do you even comprehend something like that? Who's more important in a situation where it was your spouse or your children. They should be loved equally

[fauchelevent]

I don't have a child and I'm not married to my partner yet, though I hope to do both of those things with him at some point, but I think that I would probably love the child more. At the very least, I would love them both the same but prioritise the child.

[ak666]

I don't have children (want some) to compare, but I'd imagine in terms of how I prioritize care and well-being, I'd put the children first. I guess in some way I'd love them more since they need extra care and attention. That doesn't mean I love my wife any less but she's a little bit better off on her own. With her I want to stay passionate as I can but I'm generally going to be far more worried about the kids than anything else.

[ASEXY]

1. I will never have a spouse because I'm asexual and aromantic. 2. I don't have children and I never will. So I can't love them if I will never have them. The only people I love the most goes in this order dad < mom < big brother < other brother < the rest of my family...

[Cloudy25]

It would be really awesome if in my future I'd love both equally. The love is different though so it's hard to compare. I think in the optimal situation you love your wife/husband a little more in a way and your children a little more in another way. Of course though if it came down to who to 'save' it would be children first cause they are your responsibility which you agree to when choosing to become a parent.

[Anonymous]

I'm a parent and a spouse... my kid is the most important person. Although I love my spouse... I love my child more.. and he better feel the same... when you become a parent get the chance to figure out in realize and feel what real love truly is. and there is no greater love than the love that parent has for their child a

[EmiliaB]

It's a different kind of love. The love you have for your child is incomparable, and it's not that you love your partner "less" it's just in a different way.

[Asker]

That's a nice way of putting it cause I get 100% that children need love and most of the attention cause they are little and even look up to you in a way that no one else ever will. They way I feel is I need my woman and my children to be happy.

[AnaWryneck]

It's not the same kind of love so it doesn't compare it's like asking do you prefer breathing or eating you need both to live sure you can go with out one for a while but eventually you will die

[ArabianPwincess197]

A woman loves her children more than anything. However her love for her children is different to her love for her husband. Its more maternal.

[samhradh_leannan]

It's a different kind of love. I don't think they can really be compared or measured against each other.

[xCutesyLolitax]

I dont have children, and I can't comprehend how someone could love their children more than their spouse, must be a biological thing

[Arabarbie]

I am not a mom or married. But i am guessing we as parents should love our kids more.

[Anonymous]

They generally prefer their child. it's for that some wife get very jealous of their child because their husband prefer their child. (It's what happen with my mother).

[Anonymous]

I'm not married nor have kids but you should love them equally. Slightly more your spouse though because you have to show your kids how marriage works, etc.

[Anonymous]

I can't live without my life, i can't live without my soul. My love is my children, my life is my children, my soul is my children. I don't love my spouse.

[ushagomez]

Have not started the breeding program yet.

[BrittBratt2416]

You should love them equally

[LB33777]

My invisible children.
Yes I love them dearly.

[Elastephen]

I don't have any so I don't know.

[JoyGirl]

What children? What spouse? 👀

[skeptic002]

soon (+_+)

[RedThread]

I think it's a different kind of love.

[__Victoria__]

I don't have children so I would love them equally

[Anonymous]

Both, I can't live without eighter

[ADFSDF1996]

Definitely both.